Fuck. Mom noticed scars

[ShatteredWings]

I'm ranting, so this may or may not make sense.

Today my mother finally noticed the scars on my arms. She asked how it happened, and made a comment about how she didn't realize how easily i scarred.

Then told me to stop letting the cat scratch me (yh, right... that's do able)) so she didn't get a call "your kid is ambidextrously cutting did you know this?" [scars up both arms] then went on to rant about 'emos cutting for attention' and compared it to the goth trend.


fuck fuck fuck.
I know i need to stop anyway, but fuuuuuuckkk i'm fucking scared that i'm caught and... fuck. =|

[The Batman]

When my mom asked about mine I denied them even though she probably didn't believe me but idk I'm still thinking about if i did the right thing or not maybe if I would have told the truth I would be way better off. So maybe this could be a good thing you just really need to think about if you're ready to tell her.

[cezisnotdead]

My mother's never found any scars because I don't spend much time with her, but I have a story that relates... when I was younger (11), the cat scratched me, and she made me cover my arm with long gloves, I said why, and she said 'I don't want the neighbours thinking any daughter of mine is one of those bloody self-mutilators!'... yeah, you can sort of tell why I don't spend time with my mother :/ but I've always known how she'd react... do you think yours will take any further action?

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[DarkWingedAngel]

;802436']I'm ranting, so this may or may not make sense.

Today my mother finally noticed the scars on my arms. She asked how it happened, and made a comment about how she didn't realize how easily i scarred.

Then told me to stop letting the cat scratch me (yh, right... that's do able)) so she didn't get a call "your kid is ambidextrously cutting did you know this?" [scars up both arms] then went on to rant about 'emos cutting for attention' and compared it to the goth trend.


fuck fuck fuck.
I know i need to stop anyway, but fuuuuuuckkk i'm fucking scared that i'm caught and... fuck. =|
ohhhhh that really sucks
at least it *might* help you stop
*hugs*
but I don't get this
did you question you about cutting or did she think the cats were scratching you

[Asylum]

*hugs* honesty is really the best thing in a situation like this... she can help you... however its not always the best thing for some, so consider tell her. unless there is a reason why you cna't... if your mom thinks u did it... just tell her the truth... however if she doesn't well thats realyl up to you. i wish you the best of luck, i know how hard it can be... PM me anytime

[Scarface]

deny it so i guess this is your signal to stop. plus its not a good idea to cut anyhow. find a sport or a hobby or workout that way you can keep your mind off your pain and use it toward andything you do. i hope this helps

[ShatteredWings]

;802450']Then you won't ruin your relationship with your parents. As much as they might be mad (not saying that they will), they still love you and want you to get help.

And please, stop cutting. It's not good for you. I know that it's very hard, but it needs to be done.
Parents care about their kids now?
:rolleyes: Maybe some, but not mine.

If my mother realized that i was cutting, she'd just make it worse.
ohhhhh that really sucks
at least it *might* help you stop
*hugs*
but I don't get this
did you question you about cutting or did she think the cats were scratching you
Blah. Yeah i wasn't too clear.
She noticed the scars, and asked me just general "what happend?" i told her the cats did it.
My cats are vicious, and I intentionally make my cuts more random so it's harder to automatically say the scars are self harm... but it's still a bad excuse, and if she goes to look up more info about 'what those emo kids do' i think she'd make the connection.

My parents are oblivious, not retarded.


I was planning on doing something about the scars, but not now. Not when I'm in a position that could either fall into a relapse or finally be done with this shit.

I'm all confuzzeld and... blah sorry.

[Nelson]

When my dad found out (a really bad friend of mine told him) he was all crazy about it, but then i explained to him why i done it. He then realised and then said just talk to me or a friend, dont cut :)

[Lazy Procrastinator]

I think the guilt that plays along with cutting yourself is just adding to the tension, this may not be correct as I have no experience in this area but I think having a conversation with your mum might help, if she doesn't try to help you or understand it's her own fault not yours, tell her the straight up truth and if she really is a caring mum then she will at least try to comprehend. If the scarring is a physicals barrier between you and your mind then I suggest seeing a psychiatrist WITH your mum if possible to try and work things out.

A great idea would be to see the psychiatrist before hand and talk it over with them to say how you feel and how your mum might react, then invite your mum to come to the psychiatrist with you so that the psychiatrist may be able to explain the situation with a more detailed explanation.

However, if the scarring is for self-amusement (I know somebody who does this for the thrill of it) then I have no idea :S sorry.

[Lemonlover934]

My Mum notices sometimes, I usually make up some excuse (my extreme clumsiness helps my back story,
once i claimed that the cuts on my arm were from the dog and she sarcastically said 'yeah sure', i know she knows, but i know she either doesn't care, or doesn't want to deal with it.
I understand it must be a hard thing to realise your child is doing, but even if your Mum has worked it out, it might be a path to get help and support

[georgiamay]

oh thats bad :( i'm so sorry...but if you dont want her to notice, then i think you should stop cutting, i know its hard, but it is possible. Your mum seeing the scars might be the push you needed for you to get help.

When my dad saw mine, he went mental, and searched it in urban dictionaries (of all the places) and there it was associated with the word "emo" so he typed that in, and the first thing that came up, was attention seeking and doing it together trying to be cool, and for a while, thats what he thought i was doing, but then he found a DESCENT site about it, and then got me some help.

if i were you, i'd get help before it gets worse, PM me if you ever need to talk x

[HeroesAndCons]

my sister found mine and i told her my skin is really thin and she beleved me

[ajayL]

hi i kept i quite for around 2 years before my mum noticed..... but it dint stop me from doing it. not that i wanted to! my first excuse was the nex door cat scrached me ..stupid i no but she belived me.its now 4 years later and i am controlling it more than i was but its still there

[Asylum]

gosh... i remeber the excuses i'd use... i fell on a pen on the step... oh i just picked it... oh jenna stabbed me iwth a pen or scratched me with it. got arm caught into my locker, binder must've scraped it.. i remeber the dog did it, my friends cat, i fell. they would say no they it didn't... or gve me a weird look, they never suspected... i told them when i wanted help... then now i realized i dind't need help, i need to want to stop... which has gotten me to sotp more then any psycologist i've had

[ajayL]

yerrr....i aventually told her n seeked help but i wernt in the right place so it helped abit but it didnt stop me doing it. i dont think my mum understood what i was going through. i think she wanted to but unless you have gone through it i dont think u can.