I Dont want to start again but .... Help !!

[Kirstyannabella]

Hey.
I Used to self harm really badly about 2 years ago and since then have only cut myself with razor blades and pencil sharpener blades once since, but recently I have been feeling really low about my self image , how ugly I feel compaired to other girls and about how useless I feel in everything I do and just have a strong urge everytime I go to shave or see things I could use. I Have a boyfriend and I have talked to him about the way I am feeling but if I was to tell him what I was actually thinking , I know he would break up with me. :[ I dont want to start again but if i dont find something else that will help im scared that I will. Any suggestions of thing that will make me feel the same as cutting that is less obvs ... ??
Arrrrrrrgh !!!

[Mr. Smithers]

Please don't start again. Think of all the years that you quit. All wasted. About the boyfriend thing, I'm sure you guys can work it out. I just don't want you to start again. Look how far you got without doing it.

If you still have problems, the no self harm calender is also something good to use.

http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=3861

[Aspiringanonymous]

There are plenty of things out there that will generate the same psychological effects as self harm, but I'm not sure if that is a sensible approach to take. You don't want to replace one destructive influence with another.

Find things, rather, that lead you towards a better state of being, to a place where you are able to comprehend, in mind and spirit, of the implications of self-destructive behaviour. Find that source of strength and empowerment, and let it serve as a guiding force. It is impractical to tell oneself to relinquish the current mental state when one has yet a clear image of what one actually aims to attain.

Where one's own mental power falters, find guidance in the company of others - we are all here to remind you to stay strong, that there is something better beyond these confines - and you do have the ability to break free.

May you find the strength to persevere.

[CuriousDestruction]

i'm sorry you are feeling this way. you can't get yourself down for how you look. we were all made to look beautiful and different for a reason. you might want to think about talking to a therapist or checking out the self-harm calender here on vt. they can help. i really hope it works out.