damnit! i think i'm pregnant!

[Denise]

i really don't need this right now, and me and my mom are on bad enough terms as it is. if she found out i was pregnant, god only knows what's going to happen. she doesn't trust me, period, and there's no way she would believe that it's not my fault. she's been telling me all along that this boyfriend i had was no good, and i saw something else. i've been going out with him for about 4 or 5 months now. we had a very good relationship, and i loved him. i stayed over his house alot because it felt like my only safe haven. we slept in the same bed together, and i trusted him, until i find out he has raped me in my sleep. my period was due this week, and nothing came, which is not a good sign. i've also been getting nauseous, so if i'm hoping it's anything other than pregnancy, i might as well be dreaming. i've lost my boyfriend, and now i feel like i have nothing. i don't know what i can do, because my mom will never forget this, and she's going to lose the last bit of respect she even had left for me.

[sooocrazzzy]

tell her now. well kay first take a pregnancy test, and if you are than tell her. tell as soon as you can because either she'll support you (which she probably will, she might not be proud or happy about the fact that you are but she will if she loves you) but if she doesn't than you might as well know what your options are as soon as you can. if you tell her you'll know if she's there for you or not, if not than you have to think of who you can look to in this and/or if you wanna consider other options. i know it might be hard right now to relax but try your hardest and realized how many other girls have gone through the exact same thing. they got threw it, i'm sure it was hard but they did. and so will you

[Denise]

tell her now. well kay first take a pregnancy test, and if you are than tell her. tell as soon as you can because either she'll support you (which she probably will, she might not be proud or happy about the fact that you are but she will if she loves you) but if she doesn't than you might as well know what your options are as soon as you can. if you tell her you'll know if she's there for you or not, if not than you have to think of who you can look to in this and/or if you wanna consider other options. i know it might be hard right now to relax but try your hardest and realized how many other girls have gone through the exact same thing. they got threw it, i'm sure it was hard but they did. and so will you

thank you for the advice, but my mom has pretty much given up on me, and wants little to do with me. at this point, she's only counting down the time until i turn 18, and she doesn't have responsibility for me anymore. i know that if i tell her this guy got me pregnant, she is only going to rub it in my face, because she thought he was trash the first time she saw him. right now, i'm just so tired of thinking. i'll have to sleep this over.

[ErykaInspire.]

Wouldn't you have realized while you were sleeping if you were being raped?
In a way, it is kind of your fault, sleeping in the same bed as him gives him the green light.
I've had a few pregnancy scares as well, so I know how scared you are.
If you can't get a pregnancy test, give a friend some money or offer to pay them back if they get one for you.
Until you know FOR SURE if you're pregnant or not, try not to get too worked up over it.
I'm here for you if you need someone to talk to, just PM me.
x

[CuriousDestruction]

look, your mom isn't important right now. it's you that's important. first, go to a doctor to make sure you are pregnant, before you start seriously freaking out. after that, if you are actually pregnant your mother is the least of your worries. PM me if you wanna talk hun.

[DoveGreySands]

Definitely get a test, just to put your worries to rest in case you aren't actually pregnant. If you are, I full heartedly recomment both telling your mother and the police. Rape is not something he should get away with. After that what you do with the child is not something we can say, if you decide you don't want it, there are several things you can do - the morning after pill works for days after for one. You could also put it up for adoption if you couldn't 'kill' it. And then there's the choice of keeping it. It's all up for you, and we should not decide for you.

[Englishrose]

Wouldn't you have realized while you were sleeping if you were being raped?
In a way, it is kind of your fault, sleeping in the same bed as him gives him the green light.

I'm sorry but that is the most insensitive thing that I have ever heard. Sleeping in the same bed as someone does not give them the right to then rape you while you sleep. Also some people are heavy sleepers, nothing can wake them up in the middle of the night.

Anyway, first take a test, no point in worrying if you don't know for sure.
As for your mother, I know for a fact relationships with parents can be stressful, me and my own mother never saw eye to eye when I was younger, and I thought the exact same as you did, but you never know, she might support you, you are after all her daughter.
I'd advise you to go to your doctor, take the test and then get advise off your doctor. A medical professional is going to be a great help to you.
However, if you aren't actually pregnant I'd also advise you to look into other contraceptive measures if you are sexually active, and condoms alone aren't enough. No harm in having a back up.

Just take things one step at a time, I would say don't stress, but your obviously going to. Try to confide in someone, talking about your problems can do wonders.

Also, this boyfriend of yours raped you. If you haven't already, end your relationship. Keep well away from him, and maybe talk to someone about this to to find a suitable course of action, because rape is after all against the law.

[ErykaInspire.]

I'm not being insensitive. I've been raped, I know how it feels.
But sleeping in the same bed; you'd have to put yourself in the mind of a guy.

[Denise]

i heard that there is something called "plan b," but i don't know if it's too late for me to take that. this happened last sunday, so i would've been impregnated for 7 days. i was hoping my period would come, and it never did.

[DoveGreySands]

i heard that there is something called "plan b," but i don't know if it's too late for me to take that. this happened last sunday, so i would've been impregnated for 7 days. i was hoping my period would come, and it never did.

It's too late for the morning after pill then. Take the test before you start worrying over what could be nothing. If you are pregnant, we're hear to help, if you aren't pregnant, we're still here to help with any other problems you may have.

[ErykaInspire.]

How old are you, Denise?
Your period may not have regulated yet. Wait until a week or two into the next month to start worrying. It's only been a week. You'll be okay <3
PM me if you need anything, or to talk/vent.
x

[DoveGreySands]

How old are you, Denise?
Your period may not have regulated yet. Wait until a week or two into the next month to start worrying. It's only been a week. You'll be okay <3
PM me if you need anything, or to talk/vent.
x

Dohh! Can't believe I overlooked that, there's that too! Nice one Inspiration ;)

[ErykaInspire.]

Thank you, hun.
I'm always here if you need someone to talk to <3 x

[Englishrose]

I'm not being insensitive. I've been raped, I know how it feels.
But sleeping in the same bed; you'd have to put yourself in the mind of a guy.

I'm sorry, but I do think you were being insensitive by saying it was partly her fault she was raped. Its NEVER the fault of the victim. Just by being in the same bed as a guy does not automatically mean he can do whatever he wants to a girl, he still has to respect her. Being in the same bed is not the green light for take advantage. I might be sort of on the same page with if you if maybe they had been messing around and then he took it to far, but she was asleep, that is he saw an opportunity to take advantage of a vulnerable person, and not the fault of the girl at all.

[Raptor22]

I'm sorry, but I do think you were being insensitive by saying it was partly her fault she was raped. Its NEVER the fault of the victim. Just by being in the same bed as a guy does not automatically mean he can do whatever he wants to a girl, he still has to respect her. Being in the same bed is not the green light for take advantage. I might be sort of on the same page with if you if maybe they had been messing around and then he took it to far, but she was asleep, that is he saw an opportunity to take advantage of a vulnerable person, and not the fault of the girl at all.

So he put her in his company? He put her in that bed? He put her in a relationship with him. If she hadnt done any of those things we wouldnt be having this discussion right now. If she chose to take precautions against pregnancy we wouldnt be having this discussion right now.

[DayBreakArt]

So he put her in his company? He put her in that bed? He put her in a relationship with him. If she hadnt done any of those things we wouldnt be having this discussion right now. If she chose to take precautions against pregnancy we wouldnt be having this discussion right now.

Wow... How would she know she was gonna get raped? Honestly, that comment was retarded. At least when Eryka was talking about it she made GOOD points.

Anyways, as said before: DEF CHECK IF YOU'RE REALLY PREGNANT!!! Before you start freaking and planning and everything make surreee!!! Please let us know when you find out. We might be able to help you further. (:

Luck Hun (:

[Raptor22]

Wow... How would she know she was gonna get raped? Honestly, that comment was retarded. At least when Eryka was talking about it she made GOOD points.
Luck Hun (:

Well she chose to get in bed with the dude, and if she is sleeping in the same bed as him they were probably having consensual sex anyways. At least thats whats expected when I sleep in the same bed with a girl...

[Englishrose]

Well she chose to get in bed with the dude, and if she is sleeping in the same bed as him they were probably having consensual sex anyways. At least thats whats expected when I sleep in the same bed with a girl...

So let me get this straight, if I go into a guys bedroom and go into his bed because were in a relationship my right to decide if I want to have sex or not goes out the window because I was simply in his room? That is just not how the world works, this girl was raped and it was not her fault at all. She got into a relationship with a boy who wasn't good for her, we've all been there, and your going to blame her for being raped in her sleep. Sex is a two way thing, both parties have to say yes, no matter the circumstances, that is why rape is against the law after all.

BTW if you expect every girl who ever comes into your bedroom to have full sex with you your going to be disappointed.

However I totally know where both you and the above poster are coming from, I can see where you might think of that, and I think maybe if the girl hadn't of been asleep I may of been more agreeable, but because she was asleep I have to say she had no control over the situation at all.

[DoveGreySands]

So let me get this straight, if I go into a guys bedroom and go into his bed because were in a relationship my right to decide if I want to have sex or not goes out the window because I was simply in his room? That is just not how the world works, this girl was raped and it was not her fault at all. She got into a relationship with a boy who wasn't good for her, we've all been there, and your going to blame her for being raped in her sleep. Sex is a two way thing, both parties have to say yes, no matter the circumstances, that is why rape is against the law after all.

BTW if you expect every girl who ever comes into your bedroom to have full sex with you your going to be disappointed.

However I totally know where both you and the above poster are coming from, I can see where you might think of that, and I think maybe if the girl hadn't of been asleep I may of been more agreeable, but because she was asleep I have to say she had no control over the situation at all.

I agree with you soo much I just can't give you more rep :(

People seem to have lost the whole basis of this topic, it's not "did i deserve to get raped" (which no one does). It is help her with this topic, so get back to the point! :)

[Vicarious]

We can't really help you until you find out for sure if you're pregnant.

Like everyone else said, take a test.

[Rogue27]

Mb u guys shuld stop fighting about if it was her fault or not. She posted this for help and she is scared. We cant say anything untill you know I your pregnant or not. So you really need to find out. When you do let us know and then we can move on further to help you.

[SEASHELL]

i really don't need this right now, and me and my mom are on bad enough terms as it is. if she found out i was pregnant, god only knows what's going to happen. she doesn't trust me, period, and there's no way she would believe that it's not my fault. she's been telling me all along that this boyfriend i had was no good, and i saw something else. i've been going out with him for about 4 or 5 months now. we had a very good relationship, and i loved him. i stayed over his house alot because it felt like my only safe haven. we slept in the same bed together, and i trusted him, until i find out he has raped me in my sleep. my period was due this week, and nothing came, which is not a good sign. i've also been getting nauseous, so if i'm hoping it's anything other than pregnancy, i might as well be dreaming. i've lost my boyfriend, and now i feel like i have nothing. i don't know what i can do, because my mom will never forget this, and she's going to lose the last bit of respect she even had left for me.
Hi denise,
How old are you hun ? ... depending where you are from and what the age of consent is, your mum may not have any say about it. However, if you are under the age of consent, just be kind of (half) honest and say that you were feeling down and laid in his bed for him to comfort you and that you fell to sleep and that you think he may have Raped You; because your periods are out of wack.

Good luck.
xx

[SEASHELL]

thank you for the advice, but my mom has pretty much given up on me, and wants little to do with me. at this point, she's only counting down the time until i turn 18, and she doesn't have responsibility for me anymore. i know that if i tell her this guy got me pregnant, she is only going to rub it in my face, because she thought he was trash the first time she saw him. right now, i'm just so tired of thinking. i'll have to sleep this over.
Denise,
I have already posted another Reply directly to your Post before I read this Reply from
sooocrazzzy
If the relationship between you and your mum is really that bad, you could go to the authorities such as Rape Crisis Centre or even the Police and say that you feel you were Raped and ask if a Female Councellor can go with you to explain things to your mum. It might be just what's needed to bring you and your mum together. She'll probably really feel devastated that it has happenned to Her Baby girl.

Good Luck
xx

[CuriousDestruction]

So let me get this straight, if I go into a guys bedroom and go into his bed because were in a relationship my right to decide if I want to have sex or not goes out the window because I was simply in his room? That is just not how the world works, this girl was raped and it was not her fault at all. She got into a relationship with a boy who wasn't good for her, we've all been there, and your going to blame her for being raped in her sleep. Sex is a two way thing, both parties have to say yes, no matter the circumstances, that is why rape is against the law after all.

BTW if you expect every girl who ever comes into your bedroom to have full sex with you your going to be disappointed.

However I totally know where both you and the above poster are coming from, I can see where you might think of that, and I think maybe if the girl hadn't of been asleep I may of been more agreeable, but because she was asleep I have to say she had no control over the situation at all.

as much as i agree with you, stay on topic guys. this isn't the place to argue with that troll. just deduct rep and move on.

[Clayburn Chic]

Tell her. Shes your mom, she loves more than anyone guy would. She might be fustrated,but you never know, she might be a little happy. Because who wouldnt want to have a neice or nefew. There is a chance that your period has changed timing, that happens alot.

[Denise]

i'm 15, and i'll be 16 in april. i started having my period when i was about 13 1/2. i don't know if my period could still be irregular. it hasn't always come when it was due. i think i'll try one of those first response pregnancy tests. i don't want my mom to know anything about this yet. i need to find a time i can go to a nearby store and pick one up without her around.

[CuriousDestruction]

that's probably a good idea. i wish you the best.

[Seeker94]

Well Denise it sounds like your in a very difficult situation but just be honest with her and if she doesnt beleive you then she doesnt deserve you as ur mom. I will always be here for you if you wanna talk about the baby if ur havin one. So please remember that I'm here for you.

[Ryhanna]

#1. He raped you, see the police. He needs to be locked up.
#2. I think your mother would understand if he raped you, it's not your fault. It wasn't consenual. The longer you hide it, the worse it will be.

[hhhh]

I'm not being insensitive. I've been raped, I know how it feels.
But sleeping in the same bed; you'd have to put yourself in the mind of a guy.

Maybe this guy...but not someone who actually cares about the rights and views of women. I hate when someone classifies me a a sex crazed male

[Hollywood]

i find it hard to believe that people think that sleeping in the same bed as someone gives them the "green light" to be raped. she cant protect herself from being raped in her sleep, when u trust someone, you'd never sxpect them to rape you.

First, u need to go to the police and tell them what happened. That guy should be in jail right now for what he did to you. You can also get an officer to talk to your mother and explain to her what happened, she'll listen to them.

By then, your mother should be on your side, knowing you didn't "choose" to get raped. After the legal half of the problem is finished, then you can find out whether you are pregnant.

Best of luck, PM me if you need to talk.