Curiosity Stage

[foxtrot]

I just turned 15,
I have been in this same sex "Curiosity" stage for about a year now.
I cant stop fantasizing about other males my age.
I dont want to be gay or bi,
And I can't imaging myself living with another man.
As I said, It's been going on for about a year now,
I'm fed up of this stage, I want to move on to liking girls,
I realise that many teens go through these stages, but are they supposed to last this long?
Any advice or help would be greatly appriciated,
Thanks,
Luke

[Fruit_Tart.]

i don think that you should wish to be a specific sexual orientation becuz you will prolly start to like men more, or even chicks but idk its jus my opinion. jus "go with the flow" becuz it might be okay in your future life... :)

[Mr. Smithers]

You are going to have to accept yourself.

You can't make yourself like something you're not attracted to.

There is nothing wrong with being bi or curious, you just have to realize that there's nothing that you can change about your sexuality.

[ray8806]

Through a Christian point-of-view.... just pray about it and God can help you do anything. I think many guys go through this and mine lasted a year or so. It will pass, just keep prayed up and seek God. He'll help you through anything.

And again from a Christian stand-point: The whole 'accepting' who you are thing concerning homosexuality doesn't work. Homosexuality is a choice, not something you are born with. And God can change what you like I mean there are many people that like things that may be considered sin and then they come to Jesus and, with some people, they don't like it anymore. At that instant.

Now the whole curiosity stage, I don't count that as homosexuality if you don't do anything with it. I mean, many guys will go through this so just stay with Jesus and he will guide you through.

NOTE: If you are not a Christian don't mind my comment too much, unless you want to. :)

[foxtrot]

Thank you so much Ray,
that was acctually really helpful

[CuriousDestruction]

you may or may not be gay. some people don't fully know their sexuality until they are much older. many people here on vt even won't know their full sexualities until they are adults, myself included. sorry, you need to wait it out to see what the deal is.

[beedubs]

its just horemones and will go away, and if it doesnt you might be gay/bi. and ray it is not a choice because i didnt choose to be gay, its who i am. but i dnt want to start a argument

[biscuit]

I just turned 15,
I have been in this same sex "Curiosity" stage for about a year now.
I cant stop fantasizing about other males my age.
I dont want to be gay or bi,
And I can't imaging myself living with another man.
As I said, It's been going on for about a year now,
I'm fed up of this stage, I want to move on to liking girls,
I realise that many teens go through these stages, but are they supposed to last this long?
Any advice or help would be greatly appriciated,
Thanks,
Luke

I too have gone through this phase. It's kinda difficult to explain to you how to stop. I'm sure my situation is much different from yours.
But basically, it takes willpower. You need to tell yourself that you don't want to think of guys when you are jacking off, or even when your not.
If this is confusing, I can try to clear it up if you PM me or something.

[Magus]

I am about to get 18....But these attractions(towards same sex) are like diminishing

[Severus Snape]

I dont want to be gay or biThat is out of your control.

And I can't imaging myself living with another man.
Is it that you can't see yourself being comfortable doing it, or you can't see yourself living a normal life doing it?

I had the exact same problem you are having, but the difference is that I never came out of the 'stage'. I ended up being bi and I've since comes to terms with it and stopped fighting it. This may not happen to you but there is no use in hating yourself for having these feelings.

[Hoshwaa]

Homosexuality is a choice, not something you are born with.


Okay, i know you are just trying to help. But this a completely untrue statement. If being homosexual was a choice, there would be no homosexuals at all. I mean, why would anyone choose to have to go through the whole coming out session, losing homphobic friends, not being able to have a proper family. I hope i'm not offending your religion, and I have nothing against you, but this statement is bull.

As for the OP, there isn't really much you can do about it. You've still got alot of puberty to go through, so see where that takes you. I know it's all incredibly confusing and annoying, as i'm going through the same thing. But you have to just see where nature takes you, because at the end of the day you are who you are, and people will accept you for whoever that is. Don't get too upset, you still have ages, so why not just ignore it now, and deal with it when you are 100% sure of your orientation. Some people only truely realise what they are when they are wayy past puberty.

[problematic]

i suggest going to a place/party with no-one you know try to pull a guy and if you likr it you can be bi/gay and if you dont no-one has to know

[sophomore]

to tell you the truth i went though the same thing hate that i was attracted to boys then i just sat there and thought about what of why i like dudes and i just accepted the fact that i bi, but you will probably will be different just telling you that i kind of went through the same thing

[TheFame]

Through a Christian point-of-view.... just pray about it and God can help you do anything. I think many guys go through this and mine lasted a year or so. It will pass, just keep prayed up and seek God. He'll help you through anything.

And again from a Christian stand-point: The whole 'accepting' who you are thing concerning homosexuality doesn't work. Homosexuality is a choice, not something you are born with. And God can change what you like I mean there are many people that like things that may be considered sin and then they come to Jesus and, with some people, they don't like it anymore. At that instant.

Now the whole curiosity stage, I don't count that as homosexuality if you don't do anything with it. I mean, many guys will go through this so just stay with Jesus and he will guide you through.

NOTE: If you are not a Christian don't mind my comment too much, unless you want to. :)

Thank you so much Ray,
that was acctually really helpful

I dont see how that is really helpfull. I think you find it helpfull because hes telling you that your not acutally homosexual and thats what you wanna hear.
And its not true that your not born gay. You are. Theres studys from years ago that shows your babys genes when their in the mothers uterus. It shows the babys hair colour, if it has a homosexual gene..etc..
Its possible to take things out and put things in..but its a little too late now :P

Anyways. Theres a chance your gay or bi. You really should accept it now. Theres no downside to it. If your straight you'll be even more happy. If your bi/gay you'll go along with it.

[MarshallManiac10]

I went through this stage at one point, i went through alot of stages just like everyone does. I just tried to be myself and it all worked out. so just be yourself and see what happens. at 15 you are still going through changes mentally(emotionally) and physically and you wont know absolute answers for things. so just be yourself and make the best of it..

[humanesquire]

And again from a Christian stand-point: The whole 'accepting' who you are thing concerning homosexuality doesn't work. Homosexuality is a choice, not something you are born with. And God can change what you like I mean there are many people that like things that may be considered sin and then they come to Jesus and, with some people, they don't like it anymore. At that instant.

Why would I, or anyone else for that matter, CHOOSE to be a part of one of the most discriminated and hated groups of all time?!?

[rzz1993]

Through a Christian point-of-view.... just pray about it and God can help you do anything. I think many guys go through this and mine lasted a year or so. It will pass, just keep prayed up and seek God. He'll help you through anything.

And again from a Christian stand-point: The whole 'accepting' who you are thing concerning homosexuality doesn't work. Homosexuality is a choice, not something you are born with. And God can change what you like I mean there are many people that like things that may be considered sin and then they come to Jesus and, with some people, they don't like it anymore. At that instant.

Now the whole curiosity stage, I don't count that as homosexuality if you don't do anything with it. I mean, many guys will go through this so just stay with Jesus and he will guide you through.

NOTE: If you are not a Christian don't mind my comment too much, unless you want to. :)

Wow just b/c you are WAY overly religous doesnt mean you need to post this bullish. I am christian somewhat but anways that just made me blow a fuze b/c its not a fu*()* choice....If i were to chooose i would choose straight but I cant b/c I was born with this attraction to guys. EVer since I remember I was attracted to guys...Even like 8! But get your facts straight and stop posting stuff that your [email protected]#& Paster would say.

And to the main poster. Looks like you may be more than curious but who knows so i'd give it another 6 months to see if u still feel the same way....

[joestephan]

i am also there, it will pass

dont' worry

[Gumleaf]

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