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[KChiChi]

i just love doing teenage surveys against how parents treat us... i don't know if this belongs here. anyway, i just wanted to ask a general question: where are parents going wrong?

my mom wants me to act like how she did when she was younger but i'm trying desperately to tell her that in this day and age, i won't survive. especially with the perky, straight-A shit. i feel like crap when i disagree with my mom, but i do disagree. all those crappy morals worked when they were younger... definitely won't work now. it's a tough world out there and we need to discover out of defence mechanism, and perky stay-out-of-the-way-and-study-study-study doesn't work with me...

okay, rant over. who agrees with me?? feel free to critisice(sp) but don't expect a tongue-lash back.x

[Mr. Smithers]

I agree somewhat. I always hated having conversations with my mother about how she wants me to act. But I knew that what she was telling me was for the better. I knew that she loves me, and she just wants the best for me. It is in my best interest to do as she says since she is my mother.

Even though you might not always like what parents tell you, they only say it because they care for you, and don't want you doing things that you aren't supposed to.

[KChiChi]

not like i'm doing something terrible... but you now those little things that just annoy you!! you're a boy so i don[t know what you'd think, but i'm tired of her complaining about how i dress!! i mean, it'd not like i'm going commando in a miniskirt like some VTers i know!!

[Katrina]

my parents are totally wrong. They don't do a single thing which befits parents

[KChiChi]

no... there has to be somethin good about the, katty

[Katrina]

no... there has to be somethin good about the, katty

maybe just that my Dad pays the fees for my schooling.

[ledzepmatt1996]

its kinda weird... less than a year ago my dad and mom were saying not to go into the pacific at all then i went surfing and he couldn't give damn what i was doing.i went boogie boarding yesterday and i always wanted to but he would never let me, now i ask him and all he had to say was i dont care, even though he knew the beach i go to killed a friend of ours brother when he way 14 . . . . . im 13. i guess he thinks im finally old enough to take care of my self idk











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[KChiChi]

i have a date tonight... all i have to do is get out of the house...
not gonna happen!

[BeautifulDisaster]

I think there is no wrong or right way to parent, okay, that's BS, there are wrong ways to parent a child, just don't neglect, abuse or abandon your kid(s), & do what is in their best interests, & I think you're a good parent.

There is no guide in parenting though, and it is very hard to be a parent, even at the best of times, kids can be very exhausting, but I think if you treat your kid well, and you have & keep their best interests at heart, you'll be good at being a parent.

[KChiChi]

yeah but sometimes they're DOING IT WRONG!! i'm sorry.... mmhhh
oh, and gues who's still at home..

[BeautifulDisaster]

Yeah, I know all about "wrong" parenting, but just because to you it may be "wrong", doesn't mean they don't love you deep down & try, which is a lot more than what most parents nowadays do.

[INFERNO]

My parents are not the "perfect parents", however, I've realized that it's not only the parents' fault for what they do or say in all cases. Much of it has to do with their children, namely, us in how we react to them. If we piss them off, then they still love us but they're also annoyed at how we reacted to them as anyone would be. There's no sensible way we can ignore what we do to them.

I agree in that times have changed but parents generally want their children to succeed and in this day and age, you either need to play sports, become an entrepreneur or go to college, university or community college in order to increase your odds of success. I mention these three in specific because our world, our society is driven by money and to some degree, whatever one defines success to be, you need money to reach your goals. This is what parents generally want although there's no schooling for it in that you learn the theoretical approaches, get tested on them and then you're given a child and along the way, you use the theoretical approaches. It's hard on parents and so I think they do deserve respect as much as they may anger us or not understand us. They're humans, they're not perfect and they're not mind-readers.

There's no "wrong" way to do parenting because there's no formally-defined "right" way. Wrong ways are abstract because they're either what we find unpleasant but who is to say we're "right" in how we be children?

[Evermore]

No matter how bad you have it some on else has it worse. So do not complain.