Advice on breaking up

[devilsheep]

I plan on breaking up with my girlfriend soon, and this would be the first time I have broken up with someone. I just need some advice on how to approach the whole situation.

First off, we've been dating for almost 10 months now. I've kinda been in denial about how pleased I've been with the relationship for a while now, and recently its just hit me how much im just not happy with it. I plan on mentioning this to her when I do it, but I still need some other advice.

So i've kinda been ignoring her for a few days now, and today she texted me asking if somethings on my mind. I said yes but i dont wanna talk about it right now, and i said its personal. She told me to talk to her whenever I want, so would saying like "so you want to know whats been on my mind?" when were together would be a good starting line?

Also, should I mention to her before we chill that we need to talk about something? I think this would be a good hint to let her mentally prepare herself for the worst, because I dont think she really sees it coming.

Thanks

[Mr. Smithers]

Don't do it over the phone, in a text message, or on a myspace, facebook page.

I would just call her up and ask to meet somewhere. Just break it to her.

[2D]

Short, sweet and to the point.

Don't beat around the bush but don't come off as a asshole. Just don't stall but don't sounds mean. It's a fine line.

[Art_dude]

Good advice thusfar.

There's really not much you can do. Contrary to popular belief though, break ups, CAN be mutual whether the person is upset or not. When I broke up with my ex, she was verrrryyy upset, but she understood where I was coming from and honored my decision. I have a tremendous amount of respect for her. Like has been said, make it short, sweet and to the point. Next time you see her (obviously in private - melt downs aren't pretty in public) I like your opening line... follow that up with exactly how you're feeling. Something like, "You're a great person, and like you, but I've realized I'm not completely satisfied with how our relationship is going - it's not exactly as I planned. I realize this is unfair to mention 10 months into our relationship, but I needed that time to figure out where things were gonna go, and now that I have an idea, I want to end our relationship." Always follow up with the, "I'd like to stay friends" card, but NEVER use the, "It's not you it's me" card. Stupidest mistake you can make. Good luck on this one. And like I said at the beginning, not all break ups have to be dramatic fights. Take a calm tone and let her know what you're thinking.

[ErykaInspire.]

Before you take the plunge, is there something/anything in specific that made your feelings change? I wouldn't jump straight to ignoring her and breaking up with her.
There's a few things you need to take into aspect before you Do you have absolutely no feelings left for her? Can you sit back and think of you being happy withOUT her?

After you've done that, and if you realize you CAN be happy without her, the only thing you can do is talk to her.
Let her know your going through some things and your emotions are getting all mixed up.
You gotta tell her you don't feel the same way about her anymore.
There's not going around it unless you just flat out tell her you're over; which in my opinion isn't the best way to go.

Best of luck.
x

[MysticalBurrito]

Don't ignore her like a asshole. Try being nice about it, she probably doesn't know about the change of feelings and ignoring her and pushing her away like that proves a person of their assholeness.
As said before get down to it. Be nice about it though.

[jckkeith]

I understand you but hey your luckier than me my longest relationship with someone was about 3 months! Anyways I'm sure if you think it over you will find the right thing to say Good luck