Bad situation

[zacset]

So this girl and I have known each other for three years. She knows that I've liked her since I met her and these past few weeks we've been getting real close. I coach tennis and her brother is one of my 'students' so last night I met her at the indoor courts and one way or another we ending up snuggling and telling each other that each of us meant so much to the other, I walked her home and everything.

I have always been aware that her BEST friend really, really likes me. We are all on good terms. But last night, I asked her if we would be able to be together, and she said no, because of her friend. She was crying and stuff... I started to feel really bad... she explained that she couldn't be with me because of her friend- even though she wanted to so much.

I'm not looking for advice as such as I doubt there is anything I can do. We continue to love 'in secret'. One thing I would appreciate from members is their personal opinion on who is in the wrong. I would hate to upset her friend as I know how upset I would be if it were me. Is her friend in the wrong for preventing her from being with who she loves? Is it me?

Thanks guys !

[Kaius]

It's neither of you two. It's the friend thats in the wrong. I've been in a similar situation myself, and we ended up breaking up because said friend was jealous of her for having a boyfriend. I was ended up being kept a secret, and it was unfair. Whenever this certain friend was around, i didnt exist to my girlfriend. I ended up falling for someone else, who was doing everything my girlfriend should have been doing but didn't.

But, if the friend really is her best friend, she would allow for the fact you both like each other a lot, if not love. You need to think of some way you could tell her without any major problems starting, which may be difficult to avoid at the moment. Just take some time to think about what options are possible. Don't let this friend rule your relationship, believe me it does not turn out well.
Hope this helps.

[Katrina]

As stated above it is the friend who is wrong. If she really is a true friend why will she object your girl coming with you?

[galen]

Her friend probably doesn't know that both of you like each other. Judging from her friend's character, what do you think will happen? If it is manageable then subtly break it to her. Hope she understands and gives her blessings. If she doesn't then it really depends what is more important to the both of you. I know it sounds selfish but 1+1 != 2 in relationships. 1 person hurting is better then 3.