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Marcie

February 24th, 2010, 01:12 PM

Play your guitar when ever you feel the urge to take pills or injure yourself.
You can also try writing down what ever you're feeling. I know it can be hard at first, in fact, when I started trying that I could barely write anything. However, since then I've become much better at writing things down, and it really does help.
Also, never tell your self you can't do it, keep telling yourself that you can. Because you really can do it.
You can also find someone you can call up, or talk to, when ever you feel like injuring yourself.

Here is a list a friend of mine gave me a while ago, maybe you can find something that will help here.

1. Call some one you know you can talk to and talk about your feelings. It's bad to hold them inside.
2. Bite on something malleable (something close to the feel of skin).
3. Remember that some one loves you (if you cant think of anyone who would love you think of me).
4. Kick something.
5. Scream as loud as you can. No holding back!
6. Eat your favorite food.
7. Watch your favorite TV show or a comedy.
8. Think of something hilarious and laugh your head off (even if afterward you feel stupid just laugh!).
9. Cuddle with your favorite stuffed animal.
10. Buy a cheap pillow and take all your anger/emotion out on it.
11. Surf the web ( look at some funny sites).
12. Listen to music (not angry music).
13. Make weird faces at yourself in the mirror until your face hurts and then laugh at how funny you looked.
14. Listen to other peoples problems and try to help them (sometimes it makes your problem seem like just one rain drop on your windshield where as before it seemed like millions).
15. Think of ways to get out of your next test in school.
16. Every time you lose blood think of your blood being the one in the world you love more than any thing else (I doubt you wanna lose them).
17. Think of ways to eliminate your angry/fear/depression/or whatever it is that makes you cut.
18. Write a journal instead of bleeding blood bleed the words you want to say but never could except inside your head.
19. Go to websites like this and look for things like this just to keep you occupied and prepared for the next time you have an urge thats too unbearable to withstand.
20. Draw on yourself with red washable marker (looks like blood).
21. Put warm red colored water on where ever you want to SI (makes it look and feel like blood).
22. Talk to a complete stranger and tell them your secrets just to get them off your chest.
23. Snap a rubber band against your wrist.

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Originally Posted by Jono
This is a list of 12 things that might help you get past the urge to hurt. Bear in mind that some of these may seem too hard when you're really severely depressed, but if just one of them is something you can do, it'll help.

1. Do something for someone -- a child, a friend, a partner.
2. Do something for yourself -- a haircut, new clothes, a massage.
3. Do something for your home -- garden, plant a tree, put on some cool music and clean your closet or a drawer.
4. Have eight people to dinner. Use your good china and best recipes.
5. Take three upbeat friends to lunch. (If you're as broke as I am, just go to lunch with three upbeat friends, or even make it a picnic.)
6. Plan a vacation. You can even make it your dream vacation; for right now, the planning counts more than the execution.
7. Exercise -- swim, dance, jog, walk.
8. Do volunteer work somewhere. Amazingly, being a crisis counselor helped me get through some rough times (and it built good feelings about myself).
9. Follow the AA formula of HALT -- take action to avoid being Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired.
10. Talk to someone you trust. Join the self-harm list, and post. It's an invaluable resource.
11. Join a club or take a course.
12. Sing along to the radio -- even if you "know" you can't sing. do it as loudly as possible when no one's around.

List adapted from Kathy Cronkite's book, On the Edge of Darkness: Conversations about conquering depression.

151 Things To do Before You Self-Injure

1. Exercise - running etc.
2. Putting on fake tattoos
3. Drawing on yourself in red marker (make sure it's washable!)
4. Scribbling on sheets an sheets of paper
5. Writing (poetry, stories, journal, etc.)
6. Cuddling with a stuffed toy
7. Being with other people
8. Watching a favorite TV show (preferably a comedy)
9. Posting on web boards, and answering others' posts
10. Thinking about how I DON'T want scars for the summer
11. Painting your nails
12. Going to see a movie
13. Eating something ridiculously sweet (or any favorite food)
14. Doing school work
15. Surf the net
16. Go into chat rooms to talk
17. Call a friend and ask for company
18. Playing a musical instrument
19. Singing
20. Looking up at the sky (night is especially beautiful)
21. Making your own list of things to do instead of SI
22. Punching a punching bad (with gloves on)
23. Snapping a rubber band on your wrist (or hair band)
24. Cover yourself with band-aids where you want to cut
25. Mix warm water and red food coloring, and put in on your skin (feels and looks like blood)
26. Letting yourself cry (can be very difficult for some)
27. Sleep (only if you are tired)
28. A hot shower, or relaxing bath (no razors in the tub, though)
29. Play with a pet
30. Detangling yarn or necklaces
31. Re-organizing your room
32. Cleaning (hmmm...I very rarely use this one!)
33. Having a pillow fight with the wall (yes, neighbors may think you are crazy, but that's OK)
34. Knitting or sewing
35. Reading a good book
36. Dressing up very glamorous (make sure no one can walk in on you, though)
37. Coloring your hair
38. Listening to music (not angry music though-that can trigger)
39. Watching a candle burn (no playing with the flames!)
40. Finding someone else you can help out
41. Meditate
42. Watching a scary (but not bloody) movie.
43. Work on a website
44. Have a vivid fantasy love affair with a celebrity
45. Go somewhere very public
46. Bake cookies
47. Alphabetize your CDs
48. Chewing leather (especially if you SI by biting)
49. Buy a home Henna tattoo kit (peels off the next day-similar to skin picking)
50. Painting or drawing
51. Ripping paper into itty-bitty pieces
52. Hugs-(this one is very nice...)
53. Writing letters or email
54. Talk to yourself (or if that feels weird, buy a small tape recorder-I then feel like someone is listening)
55. Stroke nice fabrics
56. Hug a pillow
57. Hyper focus on something like a rock, hand, etc.
58. Fingerprint
59. Scream real loud (I LOVE this one-just make sure no one is home)
60. Dance
61. Make hot chocolate (mmmmm....)
62. pop bubble wrap
63. play with modeling clay or Play-Dough
64. count to one hundred
65. Build a pillow fort
66. pop balloons
67. Hug yourself
68. Shoot hoops, hit a volleyball against the wall etc.
69. Reading things in a different language
70) Going for a nice, long drive
71) Complete something you've been putting off
72) Drinking absurd amounts of tea
73) Breaking plastic plates
74) Tearing up socks
75) Throwing socks against the wall
76) Archery
77) Rock climbing
78) Take up a new hobby
79) Organize bills and such
80) Cook a meal
81) Go out for ice cream
82) Buy a stuffed animal (I collect Beanie Babies)
83) Look at pretty things-like flowers or artwork
84) Create Something
85) Pray
86) Trow socks against the wall
87) Make a list of blessings in your life
88) Read the Bible
89) Go to a friend's house
90) Take up fencing
91) Watch an old, happy movie
92) Call a Help hot line or your Therapist
93) Talk to someone close to you that knows
94) Throw a temper-tantrum
95) Hit things-other than yourself
96) Ride a bicycle
97) Polish silver or jewelery
98) Gardening or watering house plants
99) Memorizing German poetry (silly, but works!)
100) CHOCOLATE!!!!!!!
101) Feed the ducks or birds or squirrels, etc.
102) Draw on the walls
103) Play with face paint
104) Do very glamorous make-up
105) Color with crayons
106) Memorize a novel or play or song
107) Put on boots and STAMP
108) Stretch
109) Find butterflies
110) Watch fish
111) Come up with baby names (even if you're not pregnant
112) Make mashed potatoes
113) Make a tape of your favorite songs
114) Name all of your stuffed animals
115) Go SHOPPING!!!!
116) Get into my PJ's and just veg.
117) Buy cheap teddy bears and take out anger on them instead of self.
118) Throw everything (except glass) into the center
119) Go to a loud concert
120) Play the 15 minute game (say you can't cut for 15 minutes, and when the time is up, start again)
121) Plan your wedding / prom
122) Hunt for stuff on eBay (you can find ANYTHING there)
123) Alphabetize your books
124) Hunt for your perfect home in the paper
125) Take up Tai Chi
126) Try to make as many words out of your full name as possible, then do your friends names)
127) count ceiling tiles/lights
128) go clubbing
129) search ridiculous things on the web
130) Color coordinate your wardrobe
131) do a home tan on yourself
132) sort all your photographs
133) colour (or scribble) over the pretty women in magazines
134) plan a dinner party
135) play with a slinky
136) but yourself some toys and play
137) start collecting something
138) get a tattoo / piercing
139) play video/computer games
140) do a trash clean at your local park
141) Play on a swing set
142) go out and perform a random act of kindness for someone
143) call up an old friend
144) write yourself an "I love you because" letter
145) put on fake nails
145) try to build something
146) re-arrange your house
147) go to a public place and people watch
148) go through all your old stuff
149) go bargain - hunting
150) smile at at least five people (you usually end up smiling genuinely yourself.)
151) go to the zoo and rename all the animals.

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