Why can't i be friends with him?

[Fiction]

I am very close to this boy i would even go so far as to say he is my closest friend. We only met a couple of months ago and we just clicked. My bf gets very jelous of him although he really does not have anything to worry about. My dad also keeps making comments like "is he your other bf?". He's joking but i'm worried he's not so sure and thinks i may be cheating on my bf. My friend invited me around to his hosue this weekend and i am scared to ask my parents because i know what they think but i really want to go because i haven't seen him in nearly 2 weeks :( What do i do? :S

[Iron Man]

Well, you can have a friend that is male and it isn`t dating. If your bf gets extremely jealous, reassure him that you are just friends with the guy, nothing else.

[Watchfulness]

You can't have two relationships at once, it's not moral.

[asking95]

all of my best friends are girls, and yes some times there boyfriends jealous, they just tell them that we are friends that's all, if your boy friend loves he shouldn't keep u away from ur friends.

My mum and dad do the same thing all the time "ohhh you have a new girl friends do ya" it annoys me but just tell them that you are good friends with him, and tell them to back off a little they will understand because they are your parents

[Marcie]

You can't have two relationships at once, it's not moral.

she's not saying that she is trying to have multiple relationships at once. She is saying that she has 'one' boyfriend, and another close fried who happens to be a guy and there is nothing wrong with that.



In response to your question Kitty:
With regards to what your dad had said, "is he your other bf?" no offense intended, but that seems to me to just an immature statement not holding much weight. If he really is just another friend, just ignore those kinda of remarks. though I know it will be harder when it's your parents who make those comments.. As far as your boyfriend goes, if he's jealous, just try repeatedly reassuring him that there's nothing to worry about and that the other guy is just a friend.

[Asylum]

i'm going through a similiar situation... all i can say is hang in there... don't take sides.. make sure they know that.. tell him (ur bf) that he is just ur friend... if he loves you and understands u he should believe u and listen. ur boyfriend is just concerned he cares its his way of showing i'm afraid of losing you to him... yes its not the best way of doing so... but he chose that way.. just keep telling your parents the truth, try to ignore their comments, i know its hard i've been there.