Becoming anti-social

[Fiending_the_freedom]

I've been so anti-social the last couple months, and I just don't know what to do about it.
I feel so stuck.
Other than the few exeptions, I can't stand any of my old friends, or any new ones I've met.
They're all so immature, and dramatic. I just can't stand how almost all of them are older than me and act like they are 15.

I feel like this is effecting my relationship, I want to do something about it but I don't know what.

I don't have anywhere to meet people I am actually interested in getting to know.
I got to an adult school, and the people there are just....not bearable.

I just wish I could speed up time and get to university, where I am suppose to be now.

I don't really know if I am asking for advice, because in this kind of situation, I am anti-social for a reason, that I'm not interested in associating myself with any of the people I do have the option too.

Maybe it's just my depression doing this too me, maybe I just am in a weird place where I don't feel like I have anything to offer in a conversation, or friendship. But I at least needed to get this out in the open.

[Katrina]

The simple answer is fear.
Begin to intentionally force yourself to attend social events and to intentionally engage in discussions with people... no matter how anxious you feel about doing so. Keep in mind that this anxiety is not your own fear, but is that of your MIND... and that it is a misconception. Simply work through the anxiety... and before long, you will begin to really enjoy socializing, and you can begin to search out wall flowers and encourage them to open up to others.

[Mr. Smithers]

Even though you say that you don't like most of the people at your school, at least try and get to know someone. Don't judge a book by it's cover. You might meet somebody interesting.

That's probably a good way to get over your social anxiety. Get to know more people.

[KChiChi]

or, make friends with everyone. you don't have to make real good friends, just people who suit your mood at any given time. that's what i do when i go through my instant spazes of melancholy. just make friends and hang with them when you need them, and make sure they understand that sometimes you need a change of scene. sometimes, being alone is good. too many people could kill you.
i think.
just make friends when you need them. if you don't know how to, practice smilign in the mirror.
xxxx

[overcome.]

I think that from knowledge and experience, depression and stress can do a lot to you. You tend to withdraw from a lot of things, and this includes a social life. Even if you're in a relationship or have a good group of friends, you'll lose interest. I understand. I hope you feel better for getting this off of your chest, also.

Meeting people can be hard. I think that the easiest ways to meet people are to take part in activities you like, if they're physical activities like sports, clubs, etc, then there's a good chance you'll meet like-minded people that have the same interests as you. Friendship can build from there. Of course though, you won't always meet friends. Everybody has different expectations of friends and people in general. If your preference is to not associate with immature people, then you shouldn't have to. Don't feel bad for that.

Good luck with University, I hope that you'll do well there and meet people too.

[CuriousDestruction]

maybe it's time for a change. try hanging out with new people, you might be surprised of what you have in common. i know it's hard not to just curl up in a ball and stay isolated, but it can be unhealthy. PM me if you wanna talk

[Watchfulness]

You are not anti-social, you are an introverted person.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

You are not anti-social, you are an introverted person.

Thats an interesting thought,
that may be the case, but usually I am the oppisite, I've always been very social striving off social interaction, but that has completely changed and I don't nessacarally like that.

[Gumleaf]

this reminds me of some things i have seen happen before. i'm thinking that because you are sort of in 'middle ground' with some things in your life right now, that makes it hard for you to fit in where you did before, but because you aren't able to take that step forward in your life yet, to university, you can't take that step forward socially yet. because that middle ground is basically a place of isolation, it starts making you isolated even though you are normally very socialble or thrive on being social. i don't have the answers of how to beat this in the short term, but the good news is that in the long term as you move forward in life, you will connect with new people on the same level as you. being a person with depression myself, i know how the link can be made because i feel like my depression isolates me frequently, but in this case i wouldn't blame the depression completely anyways. hope things start moving forward for you soon tegan. good luck. :)

[KChiChi]

hey, if u want to talk about it, i'm always here. being anti-social isn't something bad. it's just that you have a lot to think about...
xx

[Fiending_the_freedom]

this reminds me of some things i have seen happen before. i'm thinking that because you are sort of in 'middle ground' with some things in your life right now, that makes it hard for you to fit in where you did before, but because you aren't able to take that step forward in your life yet, to university, you can't take that step forward socially yet. because that middle ground is basically a place of isolation, it starts making you isolated even though you are normally very socialble or thrive on being social. i don't have the answers of how to beat this in the short term, but the good news is that in the long term as you move forward in life, you will connect with new people on the same level as you. being a person with depression myself, i know how the link can be made because i feel like my depression isolates me frequently, but in this case i wouldn't blame the depression completely anyways. hope things start moving forward for you soon tegan. good luck. :)

Thats exactly what it is,
even though you couldn't offer me an answer, this is just as good to hear that you know what I am talking about.