wow...just wow...

[honeybear]

mom told me this morning that her sister and husband (my aunt and uncle of course) are getting a divorce...apparently he was caught screwing some blonde 19 year old....I'm really freaked out now because I love my uncle but this is just so wrong. Anyway my mom said Mike my cousin is going to be staying with us for a couple months while they get all that crap taken care of. I just hope he's ok.... :(

[Katrina]

The only thing that you can do right now is that try to make sure not to hurt Mike in any way. Shower your love on him as much as you can.

[honeybear]

I love my cousin to death...he's like the big brother I never had....sucks that he has to go through this :(

[Fiction]

When my cousins mum died, i totatally shut off from her. I was only 11 and i just didn't know what to say. I regret it so much now because i feel like i left her when she really needed me. Just show your support and try not to make it awkward arounf him. Don't try to press him for information about it, act as normal and if he wants to talk to you about it he will mention it and just talk with him and listen to him, reassure him :)

[obiwan94]

Hey, sorry to hear it...that sucks. Probably the best thing is to try to stay friends with both of them if you can and the rest of the family lets you. Best of luck...at least it wasn't your parents though.

[honeybear]

My cousin moved in last night... he seemed so sad it broke my heart... all I could do was hug him tight told him we (mom and I ) loved him...seemed to make him feel better...I was lucky enough I dont remember my parents divorce..but he will :(

[Kaius]

You've just got to be there for him Elizabeth. It's going to be hard on him I expect. Lots of things and questions going through his mind. Listen to him when he needs to talk, and reassure him your going to be there if he needs you at any time, and just spend some time with him. It will make a difference to him if he knows he isn't alone in this and you guys love him.

[Kahn]

mom told me this morning that her sister and husband (my aunt and uncle of course) are getting a divorce...apparently he was caught screwing some blonde 19 year old....I'm really freaked out now because I love my uncle but this is just so wrong. Anyway my mom said Mike my cousin is going to be staying with us for a couple months while they get all that crap taken care of. I just hope he's ok.... :(

My god.. I am going through the same exact thing right now. My Uncle cheated on my aunt just around Christmas time. She found out he had been seeing her for about a month.

My Uncle was my father figure, he had taken over the role that my grandfather had taken over when my father had disowned me. Now, this could be very hard to deal with. I am steal having a hard time to cope with it.

What you need to do is realize what this man has done. If he was truly a good Uncle he would've been able to confront your Aunt about any problems in their marriage. He didn't. He decided to go cheat with some young, most likely a whore, young women.. It is sad when families are broken up this way, because not only is everyone affected but imagine the stress and feelings of the partner that had been cheated on.

As for your cousin. Comfort him, make him feel at home. How old is he? Age matters. When you are younger you would have a harder time remembering what happened and why your parents split up, and you probably would still be able to keep the same feelings any child has for the parents all the same. I know my younger brother Lucas has shown this behavior. When your older it might hold a longer lasting effect. See when your older you begin to realize what is going around you in many different ways. Knowing your father cheated on your mother is devastating. I know it would be for me.

In the end you must pull through this tough time as a family. A whole family. Cousins, Aunts, Uncles, Brothers, Sisters, Parents included. I feel sorry for your cousin Mike. It is hard for parents to split up. Ask anyone on VT.

Regards,
Adam

[honeybear]

well he's 15...he's all settled in and doing pretty good...he's going to the HS I'll be going to next year...I told him when he moved in I'm here to talk to and I let him bring things up....the only thing that sucks is sharing a bathroom lol!!!

[ErykaInspire.]

As said above, all you can do is comfort him and let him know he has someone to talk to.
His parents still care about him, mistakes just happen.
My mom has cheated on my dad but they worked it out. Sure, a few close divorces.. but never actually doing it.
This is probably for the best.
I'm sure you'll be able to cope with having to share a bathroom, lol.
Try not to suffocate him, though, give him some space. He has to think about it and actually let it hit him about what's going on.
I hope it all goes okay.
x

[annikashy]

so sorry to hear he is going thru this

plz support him as much as u can

[Aspiringanonymous]

I know you're trying to help, but please refrain from posting in threads over one month old. Thanks! :locked: