Crush on my straight friend...

[musiclover]

Ok - I'm having a little bit of an issue and I would really appreciate some advice... I'm homosexual and I have a crush on a friend of mine who is straight. I don't know whether or not I should tell him. I'm especially afraid of losing my friendship with him, however I don't know if I can keep it bottled up any longer. What should I do?

[humanesquire]

I think you should see how he feels about homosexuals and then if he's ok with them, straight up tell them

[musiclover]

Ok. Thank you. DO have any suggestions for how I should start the convo?

[Giles]

It depends if he is straight or not. If he really is straight then telling him will only make things awkward between you. If there's a chance that he may be a bit curious then things might happen.

Is it worth the risk though?

[nick]

If you are sure that your friend is straight I cant see what good you hope could come out of you telling him. It may freak him out and drive him away.

[Kitty Purry]

Well if you dont want to ruin yyour realtionship i would just keep it to your self,because you arent sure if he is homophobic or anything like that.

[nepats]

seeing as you think he's straight i would try to hold back on telling him, but what you could do is drop a few hints in a convo like how do you feel about gays, would you ever... ect.

[littlerascal]

If he's straight don't tell him. Keep him as a friend.

[Dannybre]

He is str8, so there is no need to tell him. Telling him can mess up your relationship. If you cant hold it in, you can always try talking to someone about it

[Fruit_Tart.]

if you truely think hes straight then i don think you should tell him that you like him... itll jus be weird for him and you. but if you THINK he is then try and asking him some questions that will reveal he isnt straight. like, "wat do you think of homos???" or something like that. then see were it goes. but dont straight out tell him, "i love you," itll scare him and you don want to do that.

[KChiChi]

oh, hw about you tell him if YOU ((since you're his friend)) think he'll react the way you want. you know wat... be absolutely SPONTANEOUS!! works for some... xx

[littlerascal]

I'm going to restate my post.

Since he is your friend, he might accept that you are gay...if you think he'd accept that, tell him that you are gay. I still would never mention that you like have a crush on him though. That would probably not be good for your friendship.

[ChaoticHarmony]

i told one of my straight friends that i liked him a while ago and it got kinda awkward for a while. fortunately he was good enough a friend that we talked it out n everythings fine now.
id just be careful with what you say n how you say it. if you think he wont care, then go for it, but be prepared for him to avoid you and/or be creeped out.

[CuriousDestruction]

i hate to say this but you may not want to tell him. i always believe that if you trust and love your friend you should come out to them and if they can't accept your sexuality they aren't really your friends. however, telling any friend you have a crush on them is very difficult. it can often scare your friends away or at least make it really awkward. i recommend not telling him unless you are willing to risk getting hurt or you truly think he likes you back or is at least curious. PM me if you wanna talk

[Watchfulness]

Simple, don't say you have love feelings for him, that is, if you value your friend. Keep your feelings to yourself and do not share with other people.

[cherry_boi]

lol it's like ur were describing me 2 years ago

i'm bi, and i too am in love with my straight best friend

tho, u said "crush"....dunno if that means passing phase or if u really are into him

i'd make sure ur feelings are genuine first

i ended up telling my friend, he was shocked, but took it well, and we are closer then ever, tho is was heartbreaking that he said he wasn't interested in anything romantic

u kno ur friend and urself the best judge if ur relationship can handle something liek that and prepare for rejection cuz that will likely be the case

[DjDream]

Yup its better if u keep it to urself or u can tell him ur gay
but not let him know u have on him

[manlymadness]

tell him if he accepts you then he is a true friend!!f get over the thought of you and him becuase if you ask it will leave things arkward and might lead to heart brake!!

[Carfreakjack]

I am the dame way. Just try and get his views on it and if it's negative it may be a cover up u never kno. But u have to think is it worth ruining ur friendship, can u trust him not to tell any one. And if u will make fun of u or not if he isn't gay or bi. As I said I have the same problem. He sorta acts negative to gays but idk if I could trust him with something that big.
Good luck with w.e ur choice is