Help Me PLZ!!! SOS!!!!! =(

[OhMightyLion]

I'm just gonna spit it out..



At school alot of people in my grade keep starting rumors about me saying that I'm gay. I don't have anything against gay people but the answer is NO, I'M NOT GAY. I'm getting pretty tired of people asking other people what my orientation is, why can't they just ask me? It seems like every week my friend tells me that they've been talking bad about me (saying I'm gay,etc.). I usually don't care what people think of me cause I know what I am and what I'm not, but lately it's getting to me and I can't handle it anymore!! I have my reason why I mostly spent time with my lady friends, and that is;

When I was like 4-5 years old my parents got divorced cause my dad cheated on my mom. I've lived all my life with my mom and sister and when I go visit my dad in the summer I'm always stuck at his house with my step-mom and sister cause he is always working. When I do spend time with my dad we barely do stuff together cause we are soo different. I'VE NEVER HAD A FATHER FIGURE IN MY LIFE.


I can't take this bullying anymore. I don't know what to do about this. If anyone can help me, please do so. If you still got questions related to this than ask me, I'll answer whatever I can if it will help me get an answer from my problem.


I've lost osem of my selfestime thanks to this....

[Malcolm Tucker]

Well all I can suggest, from someone who's also had the school rumor mill turned against them, is to just ignore it. The people that spread it around obviously have no remorse or sympathy and are just spitting out rumors and lies to make them fit in, you should take pity on them because they're so below you. Try not to let it get to you! It's not worth getting upset over! :hug:

And for your father, why not arrange before hand to do something together, like go bowling or go-cart racing or something you like to do. He might like it too :) Just see how that goes!

[OhMightyLion]

Gosh, Now I just found out that one of my teachers thinks I'm gay but I don't wanna admit it cause I don't want them to tease me. To bad for her cause she is WRONG!! I can't believe this si coming from a teacher!!

[CuriousDestruction]

okay, a couple of things. first, you can always tell your counselor or a teacher to stop the bullying. you can also tell your parents or parent in your case. you can also just talk to your friends and if they are really your friends they'll stop. if you seriously can't do that, get a GF. people will stop thinking you are gay. that's a horrible reason to start dating a person but it'll do the job. also, if a teacher is doing that, contact the administration. that's crossing the line for a teacher. they can get in trouble.

[Watchfulness]

Immature people initiate immature gossips.
No other solution other than hope for the best.
It is hard to change people.

[OhMightyLion]

I think I'm gonna talk to my favorite teacher. She has help some of my friends before with their problems. She usually closes all the doors and windows in the classroom and talks with me (and my class, if I want them to be present) about the problem. And she always ends the talk with "What happens here, stays here."

[NMon]

I don't think teachers are allowed to do that.
I'd at least talk to her about it, tell her she's wrong.

[Mysterious Skin]

im in the same positoin xcept i grew up with 3 sisters and a mum

[OhMightyLion]

I don't think teachers are allowed to do that.
I'd at least talk to her about it, tell her she's wrong.

They're not allowed to do that, it can cost her her job. I'm just shock that a teacher is also saying stuff...

[Scarface]

obviously this has become an issue and i believe you should talk to your guidance counselor about what is transpiring because if what your saying is true about the teacher thats where it needs to end. i hope this helps pm me if you need someone to talk to

[djchick]

man its fine i have like 10 guy friends (2 witch gay)my mumand dad devotesed whe i was 3 MONTHS OLD HE DIDNT SHOW UP 4 THE COURT HERING. if you not gay go to the peps saying this stuff and say STOP i' no gay

[SimSailorNick]

If you're not then you're not! Who cares what they think and if you keep making a bigger deal out of it, it will become a bigger problem. This happend to me once. Whenever someone called me gay, i'd just tell him "I'm not and if you don't think so, i can't do anything to change your mind. See ya."

[piggy-wiggy]

If you're not then you're not! Who cares what they think and if you keep making a bigger deal out of it, it will become a bigger problem. This happend to me once. Whenever someone called me gay, i'd just tell him "I'm not and if you don't think so, i can't do anything to change your mind. See ya."

I think def take this advice.. :) couldnt have said it better..

[TylerMan1221]

Exactly, dont let other people tell you who YOU are, If YOu know YOu arent gay, dont let OTHER people tell you you are. Try your best to ignore them. Part of ME wants to believe that this "Friend" who is telling you this, isn't really your friend at all, and for whtever reason he is doing this. I've had this happen before. Try to ignore it, and if it gets REALLY bad, consider switching schools, or going to live with your dad and go to school wherever he lives.

Basic Lesson here:
Dont let other people tell you who you are. you are who you want to be, and thats that.

[Jagster]

I've actually been in the dilemma you were in with the first paragraph... Even though those rumors were true, I denied them. The only way I really took care of this was just talking to my school counselor and the principal. I recommend talking to the counselor for the emotion release... then talking to the principal for the whole business part of it. They're bound to help you.

[Reflection.]

I went through the same thing man, a rumor started that i was gay and people kept coming up and saying "hey aren't you that kid?" "are you a fag?" I'm getting it set up so i can get homeschooled now because it got so bad. (this happened recently)

Except the difference between me and you is that i actually AM gay, so it hurt me a lot. Especially when i found out my friends started the rumor because they thought it would be 'funny'. (they don't know I'm gay) I've never had a father figure in my life either, my dad left when i was 6 and i haven't seen him in 7 years. He was a drug addict and used to hit my mom.

So believe me when i say, i know what you're going through with this. I know it's a pain in the ass. I used to just deny everything and ignore people but deep down inside it killed me to hear people say this shit about me. PM me if you need to talk man, seriously don't be afraid if you want to talk. Hope everything works out.

[lemonpartier]

If you live in La, you are going to wait for ever for any help where I am every thing is almost at a stand still. I think you should help the little boy. Document his bruises. Take pictures. Keep them safe. Go to O.C.S. in person find out what to do. Go to the police station and ask advise what you CAN do. And if O.C.S. shows up present them the pictures.
And where is the childs mother? Why is she also letting this happen?