Should we tell or not?

[SomewhereInbetween]

Hey,

I'm just wondering on peoples opinion about this-

Me and my girlfriend are engaged and very happily so. The only problem is that we're 16 and we want to tell everyone but we know we can't cos everyone will be at us going its wrong. But its not. We love each other and really can't go on without each other. But cos we're 16 noone will believe us. Just wanted to get everyones opinions cos we do really want to tell people. We've both agreed to tell people as soon as we get our leaving certificate results which is in a year and a half but we can't wait. Just want peoples opinions

Cheers!

[Malcolm Tucker]

I would wait, in all honesty. If you wait until after you're both finished school, people will be more open and accepting. Plus if you tell now, and there are negative attitudes, you still got a year and a bit with all those negative feelings following you, and that's no way to start off like.

So I'd wait until college, and then it should be much smoother :) Best of luck and I'm sure you both will be happy forever :)

[Mzor203]

We love each other and really can't go on without each other.

Huge warning flags going off right there. A relationship in which the two "can't bear to be apart" is just going to become too smothered and eventually will implode.

Aside from that, obviously this isn't a thread asking for judgement, but if you're scared that your families will look badly on it, that's another warning sign. Without the support of a family you're going to have some real issues actually getting married and taking on the burdens of living together happily.

Don't make commitments that you might not be able to keep (whether you wish to or not). Wait until after you and her both have relatively established lives, good incomes, and then see where you're at and see if to that day you still hold the same feelings for each other.

And what exactly is it that you "can't wait" for? You can't wait to tell people? Why? If you truly love each other the only peoples' opinions that should count are your own.

You've demonstrated with this insecurity throughout your post that you are indeed not ready for this commitment. Time to step back and re-evaluate the situation here.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

well, are you planning on waiting to get married, like I know lots of couples that are engadged for two years before marrying.
If not, and you are planning to get married asap (which I will leave my opionion out of because I know you didn't put this up for that) then I wouldn't tell because people are going to tell you that is a terrible idea, but not becasue it is "wrong" but more because they care about you and do not want you to make a mistake.

[Watchfulness]

Marrying at an early age will not help in recognizing the true nature of your partner.

[telephonique]

You are far too young to be engaged.... I've decided to not get married before I'm 25, and I think that's a good age. You may love your girlfriend, but you're too young to know what you really want. If you're together in 5 years, go ahead and get engaged then.

I can't tell you how different I am not from when I was 16, and I am only 17. One year can make a huge difference, especially at our age.

[Englishrose]

I can't tell you how different I am not from when I was 16, and I am only 17. One year can make a huge difference, especially at our age.

This is so true, at 16 you may think your an adult, but in reality your just growing into being an adult. For example, do you support yourself with a job, or do you just ask the parents for money?

Engagements at your age rarely work, simply because you've still got some growing to do. I'd personally say, don't tell anyone, keep it between yourselves, what harm will it do? Your relationship won't change and just wait it out and see what your relationship is like in five or more years.

[maddii-may]

i no someone thats 16 and like u enganged and loads of people no x

[zacset]

There are two sides to this, both are valid points.

Personally, I think that even at 16, you can love in the same way that an adult of any age can. But as is the way with these things, people change - that is why I think 16 is a little young for 'sealing' yourselves together. Obviously I don't know you or your girlfriend so it may be that this is a good thing for you. And - it is a good idea to wait :) Good luck to you both though !

[GoldenSnitch]

Wait Until you get the certif. Then tell. Practice on a fake audience tellung them