Pregnant ex girlfriend wants me back?? :S

[Soccer Girl 13]

Me and my ex girlfriend were together for 6 months be4 we broke up a month and a half ago.
During this time she had cheated on me and gotten pregnant, shes betrayed my best friend and we have had a few big fights. And i just couldn't trust her anymore. She got a new girlfriend, and i saw them down at soccer, i was just minding my own business and the girlfriend comes up to me and pushes me, anyways we got into a fight and i got told my ex told her girlfriend to do it, which is just f***ed!
Now after 6 weeks of the fight happening, All of a sudden.. she wants me back. It was unexpected, and i actually thought she hated my guts which she was making kinda obvious. I still like her a little bit but i just dont think i could forgive her.. And shes still pregnant..
I don't know what to do.. Im confused :what: and still in abit of a shock. Please help :S

[Nihilus]

Don't get back with her. The baby will make life difficult and why take care of a baby that not yours? You will probably start fighting again and with what posted you'll probably break up again. Take things slowly with her and make the decision after a certain amount of time. Good luck and I hope you are happy.

[Soccer Girl 13]

Yeah the baby WILL make life hard, but the dad died.. Got into a fight on new years eve. And i was with her at the time so i kinda feel like it is my responsibility.
Yeah i told her we will probs start fighting again but she just said, No it wont things has changed now.
She just keeps asking me out, getting people to ask me out for her, And saying how in love she is with me, and shes been getting her friends and MINE to say that shit to me for her.. She just wont give up. and She knows if she nags me long enough i'll agree to anything to get her to shut up.
I have the fear im gonna do that, and i think she knows sooner or later i will.
Thanks for the luck Ben.. i think im gonna need it

[nachtspiegel]

If she cheated on you before, what makes you think she won't do it again?
Just because you were with her when she got pregnant does not mean you are in any way responsible. You didn't get her pregnant. She decided to run around on you and open her legs. Had she stayed faithful and kept her legs closed, she wouldn't be knocked up right now. This isn't your problem and you most certainly should not feel compelled to get back into a relationship with her.
It's your life, and your prerogative, but think carefully. Do you really want to be with someone that has a child at fifteen? If you don't want to and she won't take the hint, take other measures. You do NOT have to do anything just because someone is pushing you.

[Seeker94]

Hey for real. If she has had her gf fight you then she did hate you but now that she is having the kid she is getting serious FINALLY as from what you have told me. I in my opinion would stick close to her for the baby's sake and simply that. I fear for the baby in a situation like this :'( I wouldnt date her but I would stick VERY VERY close to that kid and help her with it as much as possible but she dont deserve you at all. Hope that helps

[Soccer Girl 13]

Chokechain - She said she was drunk at the time, and it was at a party i REFUSED to go to, and i had soccer that night. Maybe if i went to that damn party instead of soccer this wouldnt of happened.
I know it isnt but i still feel like it is. Yeah Point taken. Well yeah your right about that.
Yeah i know its not my problem but i feel like it is..
I know it is my life, but sadly shes in my life. and shes 16, 17 in may, But i have no idea if i would wanna be with someone with a babyy at that age.. i mean i dont like kids too much, they are annoying little shits. And i swore to my parents i'll never ever ever have one.
She doesnt take hints.. Shes thick!


Seeker94 - Yeah, but i won the fight, than my friends came and told them to f*** off, i didnt get hurt at all.
She was kinda serious be4 she was pregnant, like she would start talking about our future together (which kinda freaked me out becoz im 15) so i just bailed, said i had training or some work to do or i was late for something, Ect..
Its not my kid, and like i said be4 i dont like kids that much, But i guess i could try and be friends with her just to support her but she would think we were semi going out. Ohh im sure we'll be close.. shes changing to my school in 2 weeks.. Is that a good or bad thing?

[Seeker94]

That's a good thing.....for the kid that is. I'm also 15 but I LOVE KIDS well I love the thought of having one of my own but even if she thinks you're semi going out deal with it. It's her fantasy world. But as I SAID that baby is gunna need alot of help and I know you said it aint yours but that is just what I would do.

[Soccer Girl 13]

Yeah i guess so. My friends still havent forgiven her for getting her girlfriend to beat me up, which was a epic fail but she still did it. Yeah i'll deal with it, She can think what she wants.. but i and all of my friends know it isnt true.
Yeah, Well not too keen on kids but when the time comes i'll try hanging out with the kid and being its friend, and all that. Is there anything else i would need to do?

[Seeker94]

Nope but well one more thing. The way her/his mom act will teach him/her so teach her/him what is right and wrong like having his/her future bf or gf beat someone up and it turn into an epic fail ;) but dat is about it. show the baby what is really right or wrong.

[Soccer Girl 13]

Yeah deffs, Im gonna hold that against her for like the rest of her life.. She knows i've never lost a fight be4, so i dont know what she was thinking.
But as for the kid, i will try be in their life as much as possible to teach them whats right and wrong.
Our 'relationship' is gonna be all about the kid :)

[Seeker94]

Good. I wish the best of luck and I hope to get some PMs from you telling me how da kid turned out and all.

[Soccer Girl 13]

Yeah for sure, I will. I find out when its due and what sex the kid will be in like 2/3 weeks i think. Thanks for all your help :)

And thanks to everyone else aswell :)
xx

[Seeker94]

^.^ no prob

[DrPepperGuy]

your girlfriend might be struggling a bit and thinks you could provide help and money for the baby, i think it is just a trick. If you got back with her, after a while, once the baby is a little older, thenshe will probably ditch you. Hope i helped a little

[Soccer Girl 13]

EX girlfriend. Yeah im sure she does need help with all that, and im gonna help her, for the baby's sake. Yeah well if its a trick, its cure. Im not planning on getting back together with her, just helping her and supporting her. If she ditches me after a while, than so be it, there isnt much i could do.

[jess_13]

Maybe she should be with the baby's father and she should be worry about the baby and not anything else

[Soccer Girl 13]

Well Jess, That isnt possible.. The dad was drunk, got into a fight on new years and died. And im all she's got now. So im stuck. Im not getting back together with her, becoz i am dating someone already, but i will be there for her.
Thanks for the reply hun xx

[Jay_Team_Swagg]

Thats good, be there for her. But make sure that she knows that is NOT your baby. It's her's.

[Abyssal Echo]

Me and my ex girlfriend were together for 6 months be4 we broke up a month and a half ago.
During this time she had cheated on me and gotten pregnant, shes betrayed my best friend and we have had a few big fights. And i just couldn't trust her anymore. She got a new girlfriend, and i saw them down at soccer, i was just minding my own business and the girlfriend comes up to me and pushes me, anyways we got into a fight and i got told my ex told her girlfriend to do it, which is just f***ed!
Now after 6 weeks of the fight happening, All of a sudden.. she wants me back. It was unexpected, and i actually thought she hated my guts which she was making kinda obvious. I still like her a little bit but i just dont think i could forgive her.. And shes still pregnant..
I don't know what to do.. Im confused :what: and still in abit of a shock. Please help :S

I cant tell you what to do ultimately its your choice. from my experience I've not had any luck going back with any of my X's once the trust is gone there is nothing to rebuild a relationship on. be best if you walk away before she hurts you again. I wish you the best on which ever way you choose to go.

[DerBear]

Please don't bump old threads as this was from 2010 :locked: