Male Sexual Abuse

[deadpie]

I was just wondering if anyone else has gone threw it and if you have any coping skills you use.

[CuriousDestruction]

usually the best coping method is talking about it. whether it's with a therapist, your parents, friends, or writing it out somewhere like here on vt. that's usually the best way to deal. you can always PM me tim.

[Mattasaur94]

Some people are under the impression that guys don't get sexually abused, half the time people who are a target of abuse are claimed as liars.
The best thing you can do, as with all forms of abuse, is talk to someone you trust about it, keeping it to yourself only causes more pain in the long run.

But, whilst simply said, it's incredibly hard to do...

[apocalypse]

Abuse of any kind is hard to talk about. It makes you feel isolated, and it can sometimes make you feel paranoid about who you can talk to, and who you shouldn't.

In all circumstances, talk to someone you can fully trust about your issues. The more you keep your problems hidden, the more they could hurt you in the future. And even if you don't feel like you know anyone you can fully trust, you are more than welcome to post your issues here, I'm sure. You could even tell an admin your issues, since I'm sure they would never violate your trust like that.

Hope that helps, Tim. All the best!

[shikachunin]

If it is you

If it is you who has been raped, there are a few things you can do.
-Go straight to the police; waiting a few days will compromise the evidence needed to capture the rapist.

-Failing that, go to the hospital (You should anyway), so that you may be treated for whatever injuries (emotional too) you may have sustained in the incident.

-TELL SOMEONE, don't live in silence. It will make it harder to forget.
There are a number of helplines and websites dedicated to rape victims below.

Hope this helps =] If you need anything else, PM me =^)

Taken frm the "Rape-Facts and What to Do" Sticky, here (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=29020)

[Appleton]

i was abused when i was 7 by my grandfather. Then again when i was 12 by a camp counselor. that one was worse. the only thing thats gotten me thru it has been my family and my therapist. if some type of abuse has happened to you, please let someone know and please get some kind of help. you won't ever get "over" it but you can cope with it and move on. hope you're ok.

[Beautiful Obsession]

I think its the same for both males and females, either way you need to learn to come to terms with it, put it in your past and try to move on. The best way to do that is to talk to someone about it i think, it doesnt help at the time, but i guess afterr you realise how much it helps, even if it means sort of reliving the experience?
dont know if it makes any senseee. xx

[kevinw2345]

their are a couple things you can do like try to forget about it happening. I know i was sexually abused by 2 older males (alot older) not at the same time but, point being i know what it is like. It is hard to deal with at times, stick through it buddy, if it helps talk to people, u can pm me if u want or someone else on here who u can trust.

[Watchfulness]

Retribution is placed upon the minds of the oppressed.
I personally avoid any factors that may lead to any abuse.
I have never experienced any abuse even bullying...

I am happy.

[Mysterious Skin]

i was abiuse once buy my 13yr old couson (sounds insane!!) when i was 8 i only knew what he was doing cause my parents made me aware.

[Scarface]

seeing a therepist is one way of coping and also talking to parents because in a time of need you need a "support cushion" to help you move on. i hope this helps pm me if you need someone to talk to

[Scarface]

usually the best coping method is talking about it. whether it's with a therapist, your parents, friends, or writing it out somewhere like here on vt. that's usually the best way to deal. you can always PM me tim.

agreed you may also PM me as well talking is the best way to work things out because other people can relate i hope this helps

[Panthera]

My uncle used to beat me and molest me when I lived with him in Australia. It happened pretty much every day for a year, coming home from school and him hitting me in the head with a bat, then forcing me to take my pants off. Finally when my dad came and visited I told him what had been happening, he punched my uncle and turned him into the police, and now hes serving a four year sentence.

Shit happens to anyone, I was 14 and he was 23 at the time. For a long time I didn't think about it and pretended it was a nightmare, but that doesn't work, it just boils and becomes worse. I saw a psychiatrist for a while and she helped but in the end you have to be willing to help your self and get treatment for it. I dont know what I'll do though when he gets released in a year, my dad said he'll kill him if he gets near me again.