is it worth coming out?

[jonesy]

i'm bi but i perfer girls more then guys. i just don't know if i should tell my friends, its just we are all very physical around each other (if you know what i mean) and i don't really want any of that to change.

i have read some storys of people coming out and they said it felt great telling them but i don't compelled to tell them at all.

i'm just wondering if it is worth telling them?
what do you all think i should do?

thanks.

[XxHaViiK]

I'm bi, and prefer guys more then girls. But when I told my close friends about my orientation, it felt like a large amount of stress was lifted off of me. Trust me... It makes you feel so much better.

[Mattasaur94]

It's entirely your call.
It also really just comes down to, "do you want to put a label on yourself?" If your happy with who you are, then, be happy with who you are. If your friends ask if your slightly inclined to liking guys, just tell them, don't make a big deal out of it, labeling yourself as "bi", "gay" or "straight" is just that. Labelling yourself.
Your friends, whilst they should know, don't nessacairily need to know, unless you like one of them "more than the rest".
=)

EDIT: Honestly, you don't need to tell them... Do you run around telling everyone your favourite flavour ice-cream? In theory it's relatively the same thing, people say it was alot easier to be around people when they came out, but, this is just put down to the fact that they usually feel guilty if they lie to people they care for. You don't have to lie, if they ask you, tell them, don't try and hide it, but also don't run around screaming it to the world... it's not incredibly neccasairy...

[nick]

Its up to you to decide when and whether you want to come out. There is no need for anyone else to know, its none of their business really unless you want to be able to openly date boys. It could well affect the way that some of your friends behave around you, so its up to you if you think its worth the risk.

[CuriousDestruction]

it's okay to tell them. if you really want to keep being... physical, just tell them. it's okay to like girls and fool around with your guy friends.

[thepieman]

It's entirely up to you if you want to tell them or not. Do what you feel is right. I told my mates and since I've felt a lot better, but many guys feel worse after coming out if they've lost their mates. So only you should decide this.

[shoeboxluv]

I came out as bi when I was 14 to my best friend in the whole world (we still are extremely close today) wholeheartedly knowing I was gay. For me, it was easier to say I like girls, but tend to look at guys then to straight up say I like guys, ya know? But once I was comfortable enough, I told her the truth. I'm one of those people where you can't tell if I am or not. One day in class, my friend (a girl) was like "I like boys" and I randomly blurted out "Yeah me too". That was the day I came out to everyone. Was I ready? Not as ready as I wanted to be. But I knew that if one person knew it was only a matter of time before everyone else did. A month later I told my mother and grandmother. They're still in denial, saying it's just a phase. But they never made fun of me or said I had to change. Do I regret telling anyone? Absolutely not. Now I can be my real self and know my friends actually like me for me.

[Michael92]

I haven't come out to many people mainly because I don't want to be constricted by a label. Technically I'm bi but prefer to define myself as "open to sex in a variety of forms"

[DrPepperGuy]

well, if i were you i would open up because i couldnt keep it locked inside me, i think its more up to you really. If you did, you can still play them little games with your friends and that. If they already know your bi, then they would have no problem with you coming out the closet

[iceyfresh]

Do what makes you happy and what your comfortable worth No Worrys

[Watchfulness]

I think it would be best not to come out to anyone close (Family) who doesn't know your sexual orientation. However it is a different matter if it's a relationship with another person, then keep those attachments between you and that person.

[Severus Snape]

Weigh the variables. If you don't want anything to change, I wouldn't tell them anything that could lead to a change.

[Dannybre]

yeah, Im bi, but I prefer each 1 equally. You should tell your friends and family. I just came ot today, and it was incredibly easy! I couldnt believe it, they didnt even mind! U should definitely come out and get sum fresh air, lol.

[jonesy]

thanks for the advice guys but i honestly don't know what to do. i'm a good judge of character but i don't really know how he would react (btw i have no physical attraction towards them)

i've been thinking about how to tell them and i give hints in my own sarcastic way but the only thing is, me and my friends do act quite racist and homophobic but we always under do it or go overboard with it so people know we are joking (only around each other and we never say anythng that insults anyone) but like i said its just a joke and we don't mean a word of it and if i say i'm bi they'll all stop with the jokes even if i tell them to not worry about it and still do them.

i like the way things are between me and my friends and i have no plan with settling down with a guy as i have always wanted to have kids but i still have no idea of what to do. i will probably just keep things the way they are.

sorry i went on for abit and thanks for the advice.

[Serenity]

i like the way things are between me and my friends and i have no plan with settling down with a guy as i have always wanted to have kids but i still have no idea of what to do. i will probably just keep things the way they are.

sorry i went on for abit and thanks for the advice.

Lol. I was in pretty much the exact same position. My best friend found out I was bi when I developed some ridiculously strong feelings for her, confided them in another friend who let it slip to her. Things were awkward for a little while but it didn't take long for us to go back to normal. We still jokingly refer to each other as lesbian lovers and there's no weirdness. Lol if anyone's ever uncomfortable, it's her.

Now, besides my closest friends I've never told anyone I'm bi because I prefer guys and would never have a relationship with a girl for various reasons. There's no point in telling people that I'm attracted to girls because it's not a significant part of my life or character. It makes no difference to anyone, whereas if I did tell them there would be all the questions that I wouldn't feel like dealing with [When did you know? Have you ever had a gf? How far have you gone with a girl? How do you feel about gay marriage? etc etc etc], there would be the awkwardness of not knowing if it's ok to joke about things, female friends suddenly becoming uncomfortable and wondering if I've ever checked them out or had a crush on them, crap like that.

So if, as you said in your first post, you have no intention of having a relationship with a guy and you don't even feel compelled to tell people about your male attractions, then I'd say no it's not worth coming out. You don't want to and it's not something that people need to know so why bother?

[josh93]

It just depends on want you want and how you feel if you want to say you are bi.

[Fliyte]

Geeezz its so nice. i've always known i was gay just never accepted it--now almost everyone at my school knows, and i don't feel the weight of the world on my shoulders. That, and it's hilarious to remind my extremely friendly friend, Summer, that i'm gay when she says "I LOVE YOUU!"

[Iron Man]

In my opinion, it is extremely worth it. You lift a huge weight off your shoulders and you aren`t lying to yourself. Do what is true to yourself and yourself alone.

[jonesy]

In my opinion, it is extremely worth it. You lift a huge weight off your shoulders and you aren`t lying to yourself. Do what is true to yourself and yourself alone.

but i don't feel like i have a huge weight on my shoulders and i'm not lying to myself i am who i am and don't pretend to to be someone else, i am true to myself.

[macaulay]

I came out today and I seriously regret doing it. I feel worse now about it then I did before. Sometimes it can be what's best to keep it in.