PLEASE she needs help.

[Joeyy7892]

My friend just told me she was molested by her step father a couple of years ago and he still lives with her, And im trying to gety her to tell someone but she won't..


"you see once when i was little i lied that he like did that to me, so he could leave, and yeah that was wrong. but like i didnt understand what it was . after that lie, she hasnt really trusted me anymore." she said that.. (about her mom)

My friend also said

"it wont change anything.
so i dont see the neccesity.
no physical eveidence , so im just gunna be seen as liar.
i am serious. this shit haunts me. this is why im not physical with people, i cant deal with the reminder. "


PLEASE HELP I DON'R KNOW WHAT TO DO.


Thank you everyone for the great advice, I'm going to try to get her to fo to therepy, or at least tell the school counsler,

[Camaro1985]

My advice is for you to anonymously tell someone like Child Services. This might not work though, so other suggestions should happen too.

[Beautiful Obsession]

sorry about your friend, you just have to be theree for her, it will be hard for her to tell someone about this, it is really hard to tel people, especially after what happenedd years ago about her making it up. there is a good chance her mum wont believee her. just let her talk to you when she needs someone there for her.

maybe you could tell someone for her? a teacher or her parents?
but not always a good idea. x

[XxHaViiK]

Well, you get her to attend therapy for it. Maybe after she goes to therapy for a while then she will want to report him.

[janjanTRIP_]

Well, you get her to attend therapy for it. Maybe after she goes to therapy for a while then she will want to report him.


this is a good idea(:
even if she doesn't want to tell anyone after therapy, it will still help her a whole lot.

but don't tell anyone, because she would probably get mad at you and perhaps stop being your friend, or all trust will be lost.

[CuriousDestruction]

i would advise her to go to therapy. its never too late to get counseling for this type of stuff. also tell her that she won't be seen as a liar even without evidence. but if you do report it to child services and she wont cooperate then they won't do anything. i know it's hard to watch your friend do this but this is for the best.

[BeautifulDisaster]

Perhaps she could type out a letter to her doctor & send it to them, they may be able to refer her to someone who specializes in this area.

From there, she can talk about what happened, and they could help her move elsewhere that is a more safer, stable environment.

But she needs to do this, no one can force her...

It's down to her now.

If she doesn't get help, all you can do is be a friend to her & be there for her...

Good luck.

[thedudeman]

well she lied about this when she was little, maybe shes lieing now?
i know its wrong to say but there are such things as compulsive liars, yu rlly should make sure shes telling the truth, i had an ex girlfriend who was a compulsive liar and she would say stuff like my parents make me eat to other people and then say her parents lock up the food to me, she would say her dad is a methhead
you should meet her stepfather first, do you get the vibe? if so, no questions asked believe her, if not tread carefully around the situation
either way she needs therapy

[BeautifulDisaster]

^^ You never know what goes on behind closed doors...

Meeting someone doesn't mean anything, murderers, rapists, abusers... they can all seem so wonderful when you meet them, that's why so many are shocked when it is revealed that they are a murderer, rapist, abuser etc.

They can give off that they are so caring, and great, but they aren't.

I think this girl needs help either way, whether she's lying or not, but I don't think she is, she's being quite honest that she has lied, why would she say she did lie, risk being caught in a lie, knowing that she's lied before?

[DrPepperGuy]

do you have anything like childline or something ? We do over here 0800 1111 but it wont work in the states. they would have sorted it all out. I would say go to the school councilor or try and persuade her, but it is her decision

[Scarface]

i believe the best thing for you to do is to stand by her and also advise her to go to therepy because a traumatizing event as such can leave detrimental damage mentally so i would not get family services involved because honestly they can make it worse especially if she does not choose to cooperate. i hope this help pm me further if further info always here to talk