I just reported my father

[munchausen]

I just reported my father, did I do the right thing? He's usually a really mellow guy but when he does something he goes insane and he's definitely not a one time offender. I think my mom will hate me for this she loves my dad and she let him stay in the house even after everything he's done. I don't know if what I've done is right but if he starts on one of my sisters I'd really want to kill him. More than I do now. I can't believe he still shows his face and tries to talk to me after all of this.

[nick]

Well best wishes and good luck to you. Only you know what has gone on but there definitely comes a point at which you have to act to protect yourself and your other family members.

[CuriousDestruction]

i wish you the best of luck and send my love and support. i know it's damn hard to do that. but just remember that you have an absolute right to protect yourself and your family. i think you did the right thing. if you wanna talk about it, PM me.

[Sapphire]

Without sounding condescending I would like to say "Well done on plucking up the courage to do that." It can be really scary to report someone and you showed strength in being able to do it.

I believe that you did the right thing.
He may be calm most of the time, but that does not absolve him of the wrong that he has done when he has been less than calm. It is of the utmost importance that you are all safe and able to live without the threat of being hurt by him or anyone else. He also needs to pay for the hurt he has caused.

Stay strong and keep communicating with those around you. You will need their support in this.

[Giles]

Think of it as though you have helped your family, not just yourself. If you feel like you've helped your siblings then it will all be worth it.

[Nihilus]

If he was beating you or doing crimes, you did the right thing.

[Fiction]

If it was causing a problem for you adn your family then you did the right thing :) Good luck with it :)

[BuryYourFlame]

Yes, beyond a doubt, you did the right thing. You and your sisters have a right to be safe.

Well done and good luck =]

[xBrokenAngelx]

You've done the right thing!!
A few years ago i also had to report my dad. It wasn't nice, but i felt i had to do it. Just like you did. Well done for being brave and strong enough to do it!! xx

[Watchfulness]

What does that show you as an individual?
Instead of reporting your father, why not suggested an alternative... aka medicine for chemical imbalance.

[Sapphire]

What does that show you as an individual?
Instead of reporting your father, why not suggested an alternative... aka medicine for chemical imbalance.
The fact that you've suggested the OP should have tried alternative routes demonstrates your lack of understanding.
One cannot simply force ones abusive parent to see a doctor for their behaviour as it goes against the very nature of abusive relationships which strip the abused of any real power.
And anyway, the doctor would legally have to report the abuse to the police and social services. So, the police would be involved whichever way you go about it.

[Asylum]

if your dad has hurt you, then yes its good that you reported him don't feel guilty because of it... if you have more prolmes at home, my suggestion to you is 1. call social services get new family.... or 2. you can wait it out until you leave for college... or there are other reasons but i can't think of any more soryr :/

[Hatsune Miku]

Good job, it must of took alot of courage to do that

[munchausen]

Update: The guys from domestic abuse came to our house and spoke With my mom, she cried for a bit and now the police are monitoring my dad, will they do check ups from time to time?

[Noughfur]

What does that show you as an individual?
Instead of reporting your father, why not suggested an alternative... aka medicine for chemical imbalance.

It's not his problem that his father needs medication, if he's abusive he's abusive and should be handled as he was. If the father wanted medicine, he'd get it.

[georgiamay]

Update: The guys from domestic abuse came to our house and spoke With my mom, she cried for a bit and now the police are monitoring my dad, will they do check ups from time to time?

i think they would if they're monitoring him yes, but i cant say how regularly.

and well done for doing that! it was definately the right thing to do if you thought you or your family were in danger of being hurt :) x

[EimmaTheDinosaur]

If This Isn'tthe first time he's gone off like this, then you actually should have "reported" him a long time ago. Your father or not, he's abusing you. That's not a good thing to go through

[Scarface]

i believe you did the right think you may have saved your family form further grief and suffering especially for younger members of your family. i fully support you in your decision pm me if you need support best of luck

[TakeMyHand]

How could protecting you and your family from abuse ever be the wrong thing to do?

[Jess]

I think you did the right thing, best of luck