My life has become hell!

[cooldude123]

My life has become hell over the last few days, and here is why:

Me and my crush has been good friends for a while now. I started to know her over six months ago, and was going to ask her out on valentines day. However, my Ex-best friend (had a huge fall out) is replacing me. He is being a right **** head and ruining my life. He has become friend with this girl i like in a week or so, which took me over 6 months! I have lost most of my friends except me and this girl, as everybody is siding with him, not me. He even puuled his finger up to me when i was in my car with my mum, and she saw it! My original plan was to take this further to the teachers at school as emotionally, i am falling apart. I feeling like i want to die, as i have lost almost everything. My original plan was to make a card for my crush with a wolf on the cover. (She loves wolves, she adores them) Then give it her on Friday (Tommorow). Do you think i should carry on with this as my last effort to regain everything, or what?! Also, this person seems like he is trying to 'win' her from me, and i can't take it!

Please help, soon. I am in tears as it is. I've lost everything...

[WonderChild]

Okay. I am not the best at advice. The dude sounds like a D!ck head. Ask her out, you have nothing to loose, everything to gain, someone on here told me that. Also take it to the principle or if you want to be Mr. Badboy if he laughs at you kick him in the nuts and when he is in pain you laugh back( I advize not do to this). But ask her. Tell us what happens. Don't get suspended and good luck :D

[Thrash Bassist]

My life has become hell over the last few days, and here is why:

Me and my crush has been good friends for a while now. I started to know her over six months ago, and was going to ask her out on valentines day. However, my Ex-best friend (had a huge fall out) is replacing me. He is being a right **** head and ruining my life. He has become friend with this girl i like in a week or so, which took me over 6 months! I have lost most of my friends except me and this girl, as everybody is siding with him, not me. He even puuled his finger up to me when i was in my car with my mum, and she saw it! My original plan was to take this further to the teachers at school as emotionally, i am falling apart. I feeling like i want to die, as i have lost almost everything. My original plan was to make a card for my crush with a wolf on the cover. (She loves wolves, she adores them) Then give it her on Friday (Tommorow). Do you think i should carry on with this as my last effort to regain everything, or what?! Also, this person seems like he is trying to 'win' her from me, and i can't take it!

Please help, soon. I am in tears as it is. I've lost everything...

Maybe I don't have the best advice...but...Kick his ass? Maybe that would work.

[zacset]

If you and her get along well, tell her how you feel... as others have said, you have nothing to lose, I always tell myself that whenever I'm nervous about asking somebody out.

As for the guy - depending on what sort of person you are you could either:

1) Hold your head up high and act like you've moved on when he's around - making sure he notices that you now have more interesting things to occupy your time than him.

2) If he keeps his nasty behavior up, warn him calmly that if he gives you any more trouble, you'll deal with him. I have done this in the past, I'm not a violent person but at the same time I will not be walked over.

I hope this is of some help to you and good luck :)

[dmeek7]

omg..deja vu...almost the same situation happened with me...i didnt handle it too well, but i learned from my mistakes, and i will pass on what i know with you....go on with the card. be urself, and dont crowd the girl. let her know you are there, and drop her hints that you are interested. again..dont crowd her..just be there for her and stuff..you have the best chance if you are not too clingy

[cooldude123]

Well people, i made the card, and will post it to her on Valentines day.

I will let you know what happens.

As for the other guy, if i am going out with this girl, doesn't that make him look like he has lost?

Lets call the stupid idiot Bob.
We have a group of 3; Me, this girl and another friend. We are all best friends. When Bob came along, he replaced me. Simple as that. However, i talked to my other friend about bob, and my friend stood by me instead. Therefore, it seems as if i'm back, but Bob won't give up on this girl.

So if i ask this girl, and she loves me back, doesn't that make Bob lose?

[WonderChild]

Yes bob will loose like a upper cut in the nuts :D Good Luck

[cooldude123]

I'm going to talk down to her house tommorow and post it to her...

Let's hope all goes well.

[Rainscape]

Good luck bro

[cooldude123]

Just so you know, i re-wrote it and my sisters boyfriend (19) helped me write it.

What if, all goes bad and i lose my best friend?

[kwazyasian]

dood i feel ya. im currently goin through the same but besides the losing friends part and ex bestfriend. but jus hold in their dont give up hope and do what you feel is best. but if it doesnt work out its ok life goes on your young , have funn you have your whole life to look for love

[Bluearmy]

The important thing to remember is that if it doesn't work out, it isn't the end of the world. This shouldn't be about defeating Bob, this should be about winning the girl.

You already gained back your other friends, so you seemed to have recuperated well.

[metal101]

never resort to fighting. just ask her out. fighting is NOT the answer, that's a horrible idea.

[cooldude123]

I'm going to walk down to her house now, and post the card.

Wish me luck!

[cooldude123]

I'm going to walk down to her house now, and post the card.

Wish me luck!

Update: Done and posted. Now the waiting game.

[cooldude123]

Update: It was a no, but atleast i tried.

[zacset]

Aw man that's awful. You were thoughtful in showing an interest in her and her own interests.
I hope you're ok and remember that if she doesn't like you for yourself (your thoughtfulness and consideration) and kindness, then maybe she's not worth it.

[DrPepperGuy]

My life has become hell over the last few days, and here is why:

Me and my crush has been good friends for a while now. I started to know her over six months ago, and was going to ask her out on valentines day. However, my Ex-best friend (had a huge fall out) is replacing me. He is being a right **** head and ruining my life. He has become friend with this girl i like in a week or so, which took me over 6 months! I have lost most of my friends except me and this girl, as everybody is siding with him, not me. He even puuled his finger up to me when i was in my car with my mum, and she saw it! My original plan was to take this further to the teachers at school as emotionally, i am falling apart. I feeling like i want to die, as i have lost almost everything. My original plan was to make a card for my crush with a wolf on the cover. (She loves wolves, she adores them) Then give it her on Friday (Tommorow). Do you think i should carry on with this as my last effort to regain everything, or what?! Also, this person seems like he is trying to 'win' her from me, and i can't take it!

Please help, soon. I am in tears as it is. I've lost everything...

[warning, essay]

same thing happened to me mate. took me months to build up a friend ship with the most beautiful girl i had ever layd eyes on. we started getting close like kissing and like she sitting on my knee in front of her mates in class and that and i was loving it because i thought i lved her. next minute my mate came aliong and became close over a week or two. Then it was her birthday, i was invited to her house, me, HIM! and 14 other lasses :P quite the night, but while we were all in the tent, her and HIM were cudddled up in the corner kissing and that. I was just about in tears (lies, i was) i had some of the girls come over to me because they knew i was mad about her. I went home next morning, played football, got home again and cried. i was really upset, and i am not emotional at all. But mate, you gotta stand up tall (haha i am under 5 foot lmao) and start scouting again. Plenty more fish in the sea for you to worry about oine girl. A way to get back at this n0b head is to flirt on with someone he likes, or even with some more beautiful girls, and then he will start get jelous, then say to him, "this is how it feels to be the size of a pea. now do one b!tch :D
hope that helped :D
message me if you want a chat mate

[Watchfulness]

Don't get too close to anyone at your teenage life.
Nothing will stay permanent.

[cooldude123]

You may say not to get close to anybody, but i can't help it.

For me, love is unpredictable. It's true when they say love appears at first sight.

In Year 7, when i first went to secondary school, i sat next to one girl in art, and i knew i liked her. It's the way it happens with me. I asked her and she said yes. It lasted for a few months, but i won't explain why it ended.

Anyway, instead, i worked on this one, but it failed. Makes me think why i even bother. When i didn't work at it, it worked. When i work, it doesn't. I can't win at the love game.

Anyway, i'll just have to move on. Yes, i still have feelings for her, but its her choice to make, not mine.

[Jambo]

My life has become hell over the last few days, and here is why:

Me and my crush has been good friends for a while now. I started to know her over six months ago, and was going to ask her out on valentines day. However, my Ex-best friend (had a huge fall out) is replacing me. He is being a right **** head and ruining my life. He has become friend with this girl i like in a week or so, which took me over 6 months! I have lost most of my friends except me and this girl, as everybody is siding with him, not me. He even puuled his finger up to me when i was in my car with my mum, and she saw it! My original plan was to take this further to the teachers at school as emotionally, i am falling apart. I feeling like i want to die, as i have lost almost everything. My original plan was to make a card for my crush with a wolf on the cover. (She loves wolves, she adores them) Then give it her on Friday (Tommorow). Do you think i should carry on with this as my last effort to regain everything, or what?! Also, this person seems like he is trying to 'win' her from me, and i can't take it!

Please help, soon. I am in tears as it is. I've lost everything...

The guy sounds like a total dick.

Ask the girl out - or find excuses to hang out with her. That way, you can build up your friendship more and the dick can't do anything to you without the girl seeing.

At least you've still got friends to support you on this - it could have been a lot worse.

My friend is going through something very similar so I can understand what you're saying.

[cooldude123]

The guy sounds like a total dick.

Ask the girl out - or find excuses to hang out with her. That way, you can build up your friendship more and the dick can't do anything to you without the girl seeing.

At least you've still got friends to support you on this - it could have been a lot worse.

My friend is going through something very similar so I can understand what you're saying.

Mate, you need to read the rest of this thread.

I asked her out, but got rejected.

[Watchfulness]

Don't obsess over realtionship during your early years in life.
It could put unnecessary complications and problems that will only undermine your life in the future.
You should only consider "true" love at least during your mid 20s when you have a structured identity and core beliefs.

[zacset]

With all due respect Watchfulness- how do you think we learn about ourselves, to know how to love truly when we are, as you say, in our mid 20s? You can't tell teens, especially older teens, not to put too much effort into relationships.

Structured identity? I'm sorry, I'm 16 - but I for sure know exactly who I am. Maybe that can't be said for everyone, but even so, you can't write the rules for everyone - because everybody's different.

Core beliefs? Not sure exactly what's meant by that in this context but I know how to treat people and what I believe is right, and I know what I expect in return.

[GoldenSnitch]

Sorry dude. You WILL find that someone I promise