Gay Friend

[TheTruth]

Okay so about 4 days ago my friend told me that one of my best friends is gay. He said that he had been told himself and he is truthful and you could kinda guess anyway. Anyway, I'm not supposed to know but i cant help feeling as if im acting different, like, i still think he's great and funny and all that but it's like now i know he's gay i don't know if what i say offends him because i used to make gay jokes about him (playfully, he said it about me 2) but back then i didn't know and even though to him i still don't i can't help but feel differently about him. Does anyone know what im saying :) I could really use some advice cause he's possibly my bestest friend and i don't want him to realise im acting diffrently when he's around.

[Wetherill32]

Its ok...just tell him that you think its ok and that your happy for him. Thats the best thing that you can do.

[TheTruth]

Yeah, but the thing is I can't because I'm not supposed to know :S

[Gay Bot]

DIAGNOSIS: Reveal the Truth

[Charizard8]

Just remember the way he was b4 he told u:yes:

[CuriousDestruction]

i think if he's your best friend you should tell him that you know. tell him it's okay and you still are his friend. he'll forgive you for knowing, he may even be glad. don't worry about acting different. not making gay jokes is a good thing. and if he's really your friend all you gotta do is be his friend.

[thepieman]

Personally, I'd just ask him if what you've heard is true. If he's you'r best friend he will understand. When I first came out, some people who had heard from other people were asking me if it was true, I didn't think it was a big deal. If he is a good friend, he should be honest with you about it.

Don't treat him any differently just because he's gay. He was your mate before he came out and as far as you should be concerned he hasn't changed and is no different. His sexuality has nothing to do with your friendship. Don't worry about the jokes too much, obviously don't go round slagging off gays purposefully but if you do make a joke that you don't mean, apologise if you feel the need to. He won't mind, and to be honest he'll probably want to be treated exactly the same as before he came out.

I hope I've helped, it makes a change for me to help people on the other side of the situation. If you've any more questions, you can always PM me.

[ryanmichael]

ur friend dosent know u kno so it might be a rumor so ask him first

[TheTruth]

Its defiantely not a rumour, people seem to be getting confused on this and i really need help. HE (the apparent gay one) told My best friend which is also his best friend, that he was gay. Then the person told me which is as i said my best friend, the 3 of us are all best friends lol, But the other ones a girl so im thinking that he might have had more confidence telling her and not me. The other thing is I'm not supposed to know. She was never supposed to tell me but she did because she can trust me. Im fine with the fact that he hasn't told me i just dont want him to realise im start acting different around him.

[ChaoticHarmony]

dont act different man. if u start watching what you say it can tell him u kno and are uncomfortable. if you two made gay jokes before, then you should know its ok. he prolly knew he was gay way before he told ur friend.
when i told one of my friends, the very next day he made a gay joke to my face...and i didnt care. i just laughed cause we do that all the time. my friends constantly give me shit about it (jokingly of course) and im fine with it.
basically my point is this: he probably doesnt want anything to be different, so if u all of a sudden change, then hes gonna think somethins up. so just keep actin the way you are and wait for him to tell you, then u can ask if he minds.
hope it works out :)

[Sugaree]

Don't act any different then how you are towards him. Don't be worried if something you say offends him, because eventually he'll tell you if it is. Once he starts to be more comfortable with his sexuality, he might come to you and tell, so don't act like you've known it before he said so. If he ever DOES tell you, just tell him that you're supportive of his choices and will always be there for him whenever he needs it. You're still best friends with each other and I'm sure that your friend is going to rely on you by the time he tells you he is gay.

[Giles]

Ask him if he is gay. If he denies it then continue with the possibly offensive jokes, it's his own fault if he doesn't like it. If he admits it, don't tell him that your friend told him - just say you guessed or something. Then as he grows more confident with his 'new' sexuality he might come around to accepting you and himself as both of you are.

[cherry_boi]

treat him like you would normally....the last thing he probobly wants is for things to change and for him to be treated differently

[Sugaree]

Ask him if he is gay. If he denies it then continue with the possibly offensive jokes, it's his own fault if he doesn't like it.

Excellent idea, let's insult an unopenly gay teen JUST because he denies he's gay because that would do wonders for their friendship. Look, it's a matter of how comfortable one person is with telling their sexuality. You're gay if I'm correct Ben. Picture yourself in the situation of the OP: Your friend tells you that one of your OTHER friends is gay and that it was pretty obvious. However, you don't want to act different around them because you make all these gay jokes or whatever and they jokingly play along. You're afraid that you'll offend them. Would you like to keep cracking the gay insults and jokes WITHIN FULL KNOWLEDGE of the person you're telling them to is gay himself?

[manlymadness]

Acept him if you are real best friends,support him and you feel different becuase you are not used to the idea!!and jest ax him and say becuase if you are I support you all the way!!!