Are we going too fast?

[Aryaelfkind]

I am 17 an have just been asked out for the first time. My bf and I have been best friends for over a year. He kissed me on the first date, french kissed me on the second date. Last Sat. was our 3 week. We were hanging out with friends but then our friends had to leave. We were alone in his house because his family was gone. We started making out on the couch. We madeout for 1 1/2 hours before I noticed he was "aroused". He was very appologetic. Well we just ignored it. But then I let him touch my breasts. When he noticed how much I liked that he slid his hand up under my shirt and was rubbing my breasts through my bra. After a little of this he lifted up my shirt and then my bra til my breasts were exposed. And then he started licking and sucking on my nipples. We didn't go farther than this but I didn't mind how far we did go. But I can't help but think we might have gone too far. I really enjoyed all that but I don't want to lose my virginity. We have said we will wait but I'm not sure if we can stop ourselves from being in that situation again. I really need some advice. I have no one to talk to about this.

[YesterdaysNews]

You two should talk to each other, explain your feelings and how far you're both comfortable with. You can always say no. If you don't want to go any farther than what you did, just tell him, if he does care about you he'll respect your feelings.

[yankeefan7723]

There are always non penetrative(don't know if I spelled that right) forms of sex. (HJ's and BJ's)

Try that if you don't want to lose your virginity but want to have some fun.

[Englishrose]

I think at 17 years of age, you are old enough to start experimenting with sex. Sex is far more than penetration, foreplay is more than half the fun. If it is only penetration you feel uncomfortable with, and he is comfortable with moving onto the next level, do it, but only as long as you are comfortable and neither of you feel like you are being forced into it. However, if the only downside is you don't want to lose your virginity, tell him penetration is totally off limits but he can always try other things, just remember to return the favour. Sex is supposed to be a comfortable and wonderful thing with somebody you either love, or feel you may come to love and it isn't something you should be afraid of as its completely natural, unless of course, you aren't ready either physically or mentally.

[Katrina]

Half measures really spoil the fun. If you think you are not ready you can always talk to him about it, but if you think you are ready fully have the fun, then don't hesitate.

[strata8]

Though I don't really have experience in this, he seems like the kind of guy that will only go as far as you will. If you're comfortable with the rate at which it's going, then that's fantastic. If you're not, then you need to talk to him about it. A good boyfriend should always respect your limits and your feelings.

[DoveGreySands]

We can't say how fast you're going, it's all down to you two. If it feels right for both of you, you're going perfectly :)

[Gumleaf]

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