Hate being attracted to the same sex!!!!!!!!

[rzz1993]

Hi I'm 16 and never had a real relationship with anyone :/.. I hate being attracted to the same sex more than I am the opposite sex..I think I am bi but way more attracted to guys. I'd say 70/30 guys with 70...My parents and everyone of my friends(I think are either homophobes). I dont wanna change friends b/c they are cool and still wanna hang with them. Dont wanna be labeled as bi or gay. I am majorly unattracted to gays that are feminine. I dont every want to come out of the closet unless I find someone that I REALLYY like! I kind of want to have a relationship with a girl just so i can stop getting bugged by my siblings...One thing that I have a problem with having a relationship with a girl is that I kinda have some small issues down below if u know what I mean lol. Not terribly small but just on the very low end of average...Well just wanted some advice on what I should do about that...And wanted to know if any1 was in the same situation...

PS:sorry for all of the rambling on and so on...this is my first post like this! and also the main point of the story was that I wish i was just straight so I wouldn't have to deal with any of this...

[xSEBBIE]

hmmmm.......well you know, just to be clear its not really fair on the girl if ur just pretending to like her you know? she doesn't deserve that. Why don't you ask one of ur girl-friends to pretend to be ur girlfriend for a bit and if they ask why just make something up =] Aand i know what ur going through, i used to stay up for hours at night asking God why he made me like this. Its not your fault.

[Mr. Smithers]

You have to accept yourself for one. If you don't, life will be very complicated for you.

You have to be open with your family. I was scared as well. My family still condones my sexual choice, but they still accept me though. You say you are afraid that your family won't accept you, but I'm sure that when the time is right, you will come out, and they will still support you, if they truly love you. You shouldn't have to act different. If you are uncomfortable doing something, don't be afraid to stand up and let somebody know.

You shouldn't have to change friends either. If your friends treat you different, just because you are bi, then they weren't your friends in the first place.

As for your last question, can you be more specific?

Thanks for letting this all out, and I was in your same situation. I know that it's hard, you just have to accept yourself.

[Nelson]

You dont need to tell people your bi, nor do you need a label, its up to you what you like, not many people need to know, i work on a dont ask dont tell basis now, at first i was like *yells* IM BI, now im like meh, im more attracted to guys, it sucks when you cant get the guy you want though

[Severus Snape]

Ryan, I think just to fit within society's construct of the social "norm" many people would choose to be straight over gay or bi, but that isn't a choice that can just be made and poof, happens. You need to just come to terms with your sexuality, as hard as that can sound at this point.

[confusedboy]

I've felt like this before... Some days I'll still feel this way, but only for a minute cuz something will remind me that I like being gay. In time you will come to accept yourself. It's hard at first, but you should come around. Like everyone's said: If your friends won't be your friend cuz ur bi then they weren't your friends in the 1st place. As for your family, if they love you they will accept you too. It ll takes a bit of time. Trust me lol. I've been out to my friends and family for a year now and it's finally evened out (mostly) :)

So if you need to talk, PM me.

[manlymadness]

You will date just not now!!and dont tell any one its much more fun being a mistery that they wanna solve !! Act gay but not tooo much just enough to make them notice that you are gay and then that will make them ask you and then you can say what if i was!?!

[manlymadness]

You will date just not now!!and dont tell any one its much more fun being a mistery that they wanna solve !! Act gay but not tooo much just enough to make them notice that you are gay and then that will make them ask you and then you can say what if i was!?!

[nick]

I agree with most of what has been said above. There's absolutely no need for you to come out to anyone if its not causing you any problems how things are right now.

With regards to dating a girl, you should just go ahead and not feel embarassed or restricted on the size issue. Unless you choose some heartless slut she isnt going to worry about that, its a penis for Christ's sake, so long as its in working order thats all that matters.

[rzz1993]

Thanks for the advice everybody! JustNick your really helpful and so is everyone else. I don't plan on coming out though until i really need to. Hopefully some guy will come along and make me want to lol. But anyways thanks everyone...