Blackmailed

[Katrina]

This Wednesday I was having sex with one of my BF. But the scene was shot on a camera by an ex-BF of mine.
Now he is threatening me to either have sex with him else he will show the video to my father( he is the Inspector General of police). So I can't even complain to the police. Also I have a feud going on with my father.
What should I do?:(

[NothingToLose]

I don't know alot about this, but would you regret having sex with this boy and do you love your current boyfriend that much? It is totally your choice, but telling the police is the best thing to do in my opinion.

[Katrina]

Yeah I love my current BF very much.
Having sex with my ex wouldn't look great on my part as i was the one who dumped him.
Telling the police would not be good for me as I have already told that I am having a fight with my Dad and he would just dissolve the case.

[NothingToLose]

You may be fighting with your dad, but in no way would he let this just pass, its blackmail, harassment and just plain evil. Tell any adult who you are close to about your situation and they will understand.

[woody92]

Why did you let your ex-bf film you?
I have never been filmed on cam having sex. Ithink that Lilli is right you should at least talk to an adult about it (a teacher maybe or someone with some kind of athority)
Good luck! It sounds like you will need it!!:D

[Katrina]

I didn't know that he was filming me. The problem is that I don't have a very reputable image at school or the society.
Here in India even wearing the types of clothes that I wear is considered bad, let alone sex which is considered a taboo.

[shikachunin]

Your father can't dissolve the case - Its a serious legal matter, and he'd get in a lot of trouble. Also, make sure your current bf knows about it, and ask his opinion. You should be sure to get everyone's opinion, so you can get everyone's points of view. Good luck!!!

[woody92]

Ahhh ok!
Did your Bf know that he was filming?

[Katrina]

No my BF doesn't know that we were being filmed. But he is now like why not have sex with your ex.
You don't know about my father. He is like a Don in our city. What he says is the law. No one has the guts to oppose him.

[shikachunin]

Is there anyone else you can call? Like maybe someone else in the police department who you can ask for help? Or maybe confront your boyfriend and ask him kindly to please stop the blackmail? I'm sorry its not much help, i'm not familiar with legal systems in India >_<

[woody92]

i'm not familiar with legal systems in India >_<

Nor am I thats why its so hard to give advice on this subject In my opinion

[Katrina]

There is no one else whom I can call for help.
i have already tried talking to my ex twice but what I recieved was a blank no.

[woody92]

I am so sorry! If you need to talk or anything you can IM me (go to my Blog and there is a box called a PINGBOX on the left hand side of the page just type in your name and you can talk to me :D)

Good Luck!

[Baudelaire]

do you have any mutual friends with him? like are any of your friends his friends? I would turn them against him, because thats clearly awful... and as sad as it is, you may have to tell your dad, but I'm certain he loves you, even if sex before marriage isnt looked upon well in india, he is still your father, and he would MUCH rather you tell him the truth, then find out by seeing that tape, just come clean, dont let your ex win, because think about how awful that would be, I mean your letting him have you, and you hate him, and whats more, if you tell your dad, this boy will certainly be in a lot more trouble than you would be.

[CuriousDestruction]

blackmail is a very serious offense and threatening you unless you have sex with him is a felony with up to 12 years of jail time attached, unless your ex is a minor. i would risk telling your father and not give up your body for blackmail. also keep in mind that if you have sex with him there is no guarantee he will get rid of the tape. i'm sorry that you are in this situation and there truly are no win options. i wish you luck.

[DoveGreySands]

Well, the thing is, if you have sex with him he'll think he's won and will expect you to shag him often, it's a tough one this. How old are you? Your father may accept that you've had sex anyway, so he will be more worried about the blackmail than the fact you'd had sex.

[Leprachaun]

Most of you have missed the point and said to tell her father when the threat is that the video will be shown to her father.

I'm sorry I dint have any advice really, have you talked about with your current bf?

[woody92]

Well, the thing is, if you have sex with him he'll think he's won and will expect you to shag him often, it's a tough one this. How old are you? Your father may accept that you've had sex anyway, so he will be more worried about the blackmail than the fact you'd had sex.

she is 17, but what everyone has to remember is that this is Indian culture and its verry diffrent from europe's adn the rest of them....
What I have heard is that males are "more important" than females so although he is her father, he might not judge it from her point of veiw he might judge her from the EX-BF'S Point of veiw. NO Disrespecta to any of the Indian Culture, I am just saying what I have heard etc...

[unidanman]

You don't know about my father. He is like a Don in our city. What he says is the law. No one has the guts to oppose him.

Surely your mother could influence him...? Talk 2 her first. Ask her to be discreet.

[2D]

Well, if you want to be evil and heartless do this. (which is what I would do in your position)

Say you will have sex with him, then when you show up or whatever make sure people are in shouting distance and scream rape at the top of your lungs. That should work no?

First, how do you even know he has a video of you? Have you seen it?

[Katrina]

I can expect no help from my step-mom. The fact that she is not able to get pregnant has increased her hatred towards me and she doesn't even see me directly in my face.
The main reason that i do not want to cause harm to my ex is that he just lost his mom in an accident. His father is completely devastated. But the father doesn't know about his son's activities. So I do not want to cause any more sorrow to the old man.
And yes my ex showed me the video so it is the truth that he means business.

[CuriousDestruction]

^^ as evil and dirty as this is i actually agree with motormouth for once. that's an option.

i understand that you don't want to cause your ex or his family more pain, but that is no reason to succumb to blackmail and have sex with him. he has no right to demand this.

[thatteenguy]

This Wednesday I was having sex with one of my BF. But the scene was shot on a camera by an ex-BF of mine.
Now he is threatening me to either have sex with him else he will show the video to my father( he is the Inspector General of police). So I can't even complain to the police. Also I have a feud going on with my father.
What should I do?:(

Try reporting this to another department, your father wont need any information there...

[gone]

tell the blackmailer that as you are under age, he could get in serious trouble for having that on video

he is a jerk, i say you tell the police, he deserves to be punished

;)

[Katrina]

tell the blackmailer that as you are under age, he could get in serious trouble for having that on video


;)

Is it really illegal to shoot an under age girl(But I am 17 already)? if I tell him that it can lead him to serious troubles, will he stop troubling me?

[CuriousDestruction]

it is illegal to film somebody without their consent. however, the age of consent is 16 in india. sorry, it's not child pornography. although, he may not know that so you could try your luck and tell him. but it's risky.

[manlymadness]

Hun moral:dont have sex!!