fear of ever being gay :\

[sunelder]

This topic was ment as i had a fear that i would grow up and become gay even though i knew i wouldn't. Then i went to the doctor and found out i had OCD and so i took a simple thing such as this thing morphed it into my mind and worried. I took something i knew wouldn't happen and then used my imagination :o so all better, still into the ladies :P

[Sage]

So i know im not gay

Problem solved.

[sunelder]

Thats not the problem :P the problem is why do i have these fears i dont want to grow up to be a "homophobe" and if i had kids i dont want them to be one either

[Lifeguard18]

Thats not the problem :P the problem is why do i have these fears i dont want to grow up to be a "homophobe" and if i had kids i dont want them to be one either

you have to teach them not to be homophobic. your problem is solved. you said your not gay. you wont be a homphobe if your accepting. you have fears because you keep thinking about it. try not to.

[Zanra]

I'm the same way (ironically I'm bi but I just wouldn't go gay so I'm only half that way) it's probably because you were always questioned as a child and that caused you to become selfconcious about it

[Sugaree]

you have to teach them not to be homophobic. your problem is solved. you said your not gay. you wont be a homphobe if your accepting. you have fears because you keep thinking about it. try not to.

I've met people who are homophobic and accepting of gays. A rare breed they are.

OP: I think you're worrying too much. You say that you know you're not gay, but do really know that? I'm going to get into the wishy washy bullshit here and say: Do you feel it in your heart that you are truly not homosexual? I don't think you're afraid, just worrying over it. If it makes you feel any better, and I'm sure it won't, I was afraid of ever being bisexual. It went against what I was taught from a very early age. Eventually, I just said "Stop, let me think." I took it from there and learned to respect myself for my sexuality and it's made me a better person through the whole process of learning. You need to be able to say "Stop," and contemplate. It will work wonders child.

[sunelder]

I think you're worrying too much. You say that you know you're not gay, but do really know that?

I do know that, I've always been attracted to females never to guys, and i always seem to fantasies about having a wife and kids >.>
and the thought of me being with a guy just grosses me out :\

[Sugaree]

I do know that, I've always been attracted to females never to guys, and i always seem to fantasies about having a wife and kids >.>
and the thought of me being with a guy just grosses me out :\

You're drawing on a bit too much. You obviously have made the firm commitment that you are never going to be in a relationship or marriage with another man. So why are you afraid? You know it's not the life you want, so you've pretty much answered your own question.

[CuriousDestruction]

well, if you believe you aren't gay then you probably aren't gay. the only way you will grow up to be a homophobe now is if you choose to do so. if you don't want to, don't.

[sunelder]

Problem solved : I have OCD >.> w00t Can someone close this please :D thanks

[gone]

why be scared...

being gay is a great thing, not something to fear.

;)