my dads drinking is destroying me

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[Branman]

Well my Dad is a really heavy alcoholic although he doesn't say things about us, he yells at us over the smallest things occasionally but then he just leaves the room pissed off. He's already been to the hospital about it but same as your dad mine won't cut down on the drinking. Because of him Im deciding on not drinking at all when I'm older. I would just always keep a close watch on the rest of your family and try not to say anything to trigger his temper. You could right a paper about it to express your feelings about it. I wrote one about my brother and my dad for a school project and posted it on an anonymous site and it actually made me feel a lot better about the situation, like I had voice to speak my mind without confronting him. Good luck with it though I hope I gave you some helpful suggestions

[Fusion]

Sorry to here what is happening to you and your mum, is there any relatives you can stay with?, I would do that for a while and hopefully it would get through to him. Also you could talk to him (all of you) confront him when he is sober, I would do that I think its a good idea because he will have no issues not understanding.

Your mum should walk out if she is being treated this way, but I also understand she loves him, its tough!, as Brandon said you could write anonymously to him, or even send an email to him. If that doesn't work I think it would be best for you talking to somebody about this!

[Country-Cowgirl]

I have a similar situation but at the same time its completely different. My granddad was an alcoholic and my dad being raised by him picked up the habits and behavior. My dad is what they call a dry drunk which means he acts and has the personality of an alcoholic and is very much a physical abuser. He nearly killed me a few times I finally got pissed off and called DOD (department of defense --- military cops) and he was forced by the military to go to therapy. If your father is extremely physical and is physically harming your mother then you need to do something about it. I had fully grown Marines that would protect me when I needed it. If you dont have the strength or ability to protect your mom and sister AND yourself then find someone who can. Its not right or safe for anyone. If you can get out of there and soon. Trust me you dont want to stay there.

[Jenna.]

I have a similar situation. My dad is an alcoholic who gets very nasty when he's been drinking. He overreacts to everything, namecalls me, my brothers and my mom, belittles us, and generally acts like an asshole. Unfortunately, there's not much you can do if he doesn't want to admit that he has a problem and go to therapy (my dad doesn't think he has a problem so..it really sucks) but maybe there's someone else you could stay with for a while? Or you could just go out alot and try to be at home as little as possible. That's what I do, normally. Sitting down and trying to talk with him when he's sober might help.

[Nelson]

Yeah, my dads the same, since i came out though its heaps worse, when he drinks, its always namecalling, sometimes it gets physical, dads got cirossis of the liver and he doesnt realise that binge drinking is slowly killing him, sip by sip

[phill1]

i am not in your situation i feal so sorry for all of you but if i was in your situation i move out for a bit and stay with friends and relative and get your dad to see a doctor and tell a techer at school thay can help you hope all works out for you soon

[Nelson]

i am not in your situation i feal so sorry for all of you but if i was in your situation i move out for a bit and stay with friends and relative and get your dad to see a doctor and tell a techer at school thay can help you hope all works out for you soon


That kinda works, when i told my dad im bi he was drunk and i went and stayed at a friends for a week, problem is with alcoholics, they are stuck in a cycle that it really hard to break out of, ive seen my dad try to give up, its horrible to watch.