Things aren't like they used to be...

[jajaja]

My girlfriend and I used to be so close. We used to talk on the phone for an hour every night. About 2 weeks ago, she said some really nasty things about me I never thought she would say...stuff like I'm a "compulsive liar" or that I "never have the balls to do what is right" in reference to if another girl wanted to do something physical. And it really pissed me off, because it came out of nowhere, and I have never done anything like that. It hurt a lot to hear her say these things....

Ever since, I still love her, but I have felt separated from her. We rarely talk anymore. Instead, she keeps talking to this guy named Ben. They talk pretty much every night...I feel like he's taken my place. And she never ever says bad stuff about him like she does with me. And frankly, I am tired of hearing her say that I'd probably cheat on her if anyone gave me the chance, because it's not true, and that is just cold. She is so stereotypical.

I don't wanna break up, because things might be how they once were. But I'd also feel stupid just waiting for things to get better and then find out that Ben really has taken my place.

What should I do?

[Gumleaf]

sometimes in life you have to make decisions that hurt. decisions that cause you pain in the short term, but in the long run opens doors for you. from the outside looking in, your girlfriend is girlfriend by name only. i really think you need to end it with her. she has moved on from you, and as hard as it would be for you to let go, sometimes you have to do these things in life. i'll tell you something, this sort of thing has happened to me on the friend level. out of the blue she started accussing me of things and after that things were never the same. in the end we went our seperate ways. do i miss her? yes. do i wish things were how they were? yes. but is it worth being unhappy about things and not moving on? no. and i think you should take that approach. it will be hard to break up with someone you love, and i'm sure it will hurt and you will miss her, but moving on for yourself is something you need to do.

[Asylum]

there is a reason and a purpose for everything. i'm sure she had a reason for the above. she wouldn't have just said those things for no reason.
As Ben goes do you think she likes him? Perhaps you should talk to her about him... maybe they are just really close friends.
if you dont' want to break up then dont however if you think its for the best then by all means end it.
these are you options:
1. try to fix things
2. wait it out
3. break up

i'll let you decide the benefits and the disadvatnages of the 3
find out if she still cares for you.

[2D]

Kick her to the curb.

[galen]

Talk to her. Relationships are all about communication, you need to understand why she said those things and she needs to understand how you felt after what shes said. Find out how she feels about the relationship or what she plans to do with it and tell her how you still love her.

Don't jump to conclusions, Ben might just be a friend she needs to confine in. For all you know their conversations might be all about you.

She says stuff about you but never about him.. why? He is just a friend to her while you, are her BF. Of cause expectations are different!

And the reason why she says that you'll cheat on her is probably because you do not seem concerned enough or she doesn't know it. Give her more attention.

Talk to her.

[UTgod]

My girlfriend and I used to be so close. We used to talk on the phone for an hour every night. About 2 weeks ago, she said some really nasty things about me I never thought she would say...stuff like I'm a "compulsive liar" or that I "never have the balls to do what is right" in reference to if another girl wanted to do something physical. And it really pissed me off, because it came out of nowhere, and I have never done anything like that. It hurt a lot to hear her say these things....


Are you serious?? Dude, she's right, you're a compulsive lier if I ever saw one.. For the time that I've know you you've lied many, MANY more times than anyone else I know! Even those whom I've know for my entire life, in less than a year somehow you have managed to lie more then them..