I need a way to tell my Parents

[Rawr.Michelle]

I decided that im going to tell my parents about me cutting myself.
But i need to find a way how because i cant just go up to my dad during dinner and be like "Dad hey i cut myself." And even if i do tell him he would freak out either way.
Do any of you have advice on how and when i could tell him?
And if he gets really mad what i could say to calm him down?
I know when i tell him i will probably break down.
And im not telling my mom.. She would kill me. :l

[Mr. Smithers]

Start to tell them why you did it. Don't flat out say it yet, just start by telling the events that lead to it. If they love you, they will try to help you.

You can always ask a school psychologist if you're still uncomfortable. Good luck, and you are very brave for doing this.

[BuryYourFlame]

If you feel that telling him face to face would be too hard, a letter is also a useful communication medium. Especially if you leave it and then are out of the house for a while, it gives your dad time to think about it and think about what to say.

If you do want to tell him straight out, I suggest you just take him aside "Dad, can I talk to you for a sec?" sorta thing, and just tell him, the longer you delay telling him, the more chance of something getting in the way; e.g. you changing your mind, a phone call, stuff like that.

Good luck, you are doing a good thing by telling your dad. =]

[cool person]

There is a sticky at the begin of this forum that covers this topic in-depth. I would suggest reading it for suggestions. I would agree with the earlier poster who suggest opening the conversation by talking about what is upsetting you. Opening the conversation with " I cut myself" will be quite a shock for him, whick will make him more likely to react with anger or another strong emotion.

[Asylum]

letter, email,

[Amyxoxo]

Try and do this before your going to go out like before you go to school or something this will give you all time to clam down and then when your back you can sit down and have a grown upp convosation about it all.
There has just been a post about someone telling their Dad over an e-mail i would highly suggest that you look at it.

[munchausen]

Write him a letter and leave it somewhere really conspicuous, (with his name on it obviously.) and head out of the house for a few hours, when he reads it he'll probably have a ton of questions make sure to make it clear that it wasn't his fault. -if it isn't- If you don't want to talk too much about it say that... Just don't leave anything unsaid that you'll regret later and be as reassuring as possible.

[CuriousDestruction]

i suggest leaving a letter or sending him an email right before you go to school. this will give him the entire day to calm down and think about what to say. just remember that if your dad loves you, he wants to help you. you are super brave for doing this. Good luck!

[Holding On*]

Here is a thread I made about how I did it last week, and how it all worked out, I suggest reading it, :) lol

http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=65072

Good luck x

[josh93]

well try to like go and get where you and your dad are able to be relaxed and have like a one on one thing and just ask if he has ever thought of cutting himself and just try to start a conversation about it and if he takes it in the right way you could tell him you cut your self. If thats how you want to tell him can but its what i thought will be a easy start to try to tell my parents (i dont cut my self) but what ever makes you conmfortable you should try it.

[ErykaInspire.]

Telling your parents, those who are supposed to protect you, that you harm yourself is always the hardest step. I can almost guarantee that your dad won't get angry. He'll definitely get upset if he loves you. Just have him come in and sit on your bed with you, tell him you need to talk to him and you want to completely say everything you have to say before he speaks. Explain to him that you were going through a rough time and didn't know how else to work through it. Let him know you love him, and you want his support. He may distance himself for awhile, my parents did when they found out, but it's merely because he might think he failed you. Just be upfront with him. Cutting around the edges won't solve anything. Try to keep your voice even, and tell him you don't want to see a therapist (or if you do, tell him so.). Just ask for his support, let him know you're okay and you made a mistake. He should, if anything, get up and walk out. Men aren't fond of showing their emotions. Just give him time if he does. I know it's not a very easy process, but if you feel like it has to be done, then go for it. It's always best to be open with your parents. When they know that you're open and trusting with them, they'll take it easier. It's alot easier than if they found out by other means.
Keep your chin up and PM me if you need anything, okay? I'm here for you(:
Best of luck!