Should I just give up?

[TaintedBlood]

My friend C and I have been friends for about six years but not anymore after what recently happened.

Well, about a year ago I got together with my first love. C teased me for it because he was a little jealous (him and I had a thing for eachother) and everything was fine until my ex left me for another girl. I was so hurt. None of my other friends had their cell phones on so I had to call C. He helped me so much after losing my ex. He stayed on the phone with me for about two hours. And after a few hours he called me back just to see if I was alright. :wub:

But, even though he did all of that for me, I... I started to self-injure. The next day when he saw my cuts he started to avoid me and give me weird looks the rest of the day. When I got home from school I got on instant messaging and my ex's new girlfriend started to harass me for no reason. I got upset, so I called C. He obviously didn't want to talk to me. He just said that he was busy and he hung up. Since, of course, nobody had their phones on, I cried and self-injured.

On the next day of school, it was normal. Him giving me weird looks and avoiding me, the new usual. After 7th hour he came up to me and screamed at me. He said "SABRINA, I HATE YOU! YOU ARE STRESSING ME OUT!! DON'T EVER CALL ME OR TALK TO ME AGAIN! LEAVE ME ALONE" and he walked away. I immediately started to cry. I ran into the bathroom and just cried and cried and cried. During the last hour of school he just gave me a dirty look and now all he does is give me a dirty look and treat me like a freak of nature.

I have no idea what I did...I came to him for help and it just blew up in my face....

I still want to be friends with him but he won't talk to me or listen to me or anything. He doesn't want anything to do with me. I would do anything to be friends with him again. What should I do?

What is wrong with me?

[Sugaree]

He's obviously stricken by how you self harm yourself. Anyone would be, but one would imagine that said person would try to help the harmer. Perhaps he's having a hard time trying to say something to you, which might explain the "you're stressing me out" part. Self harming yourself won't work at all and you need to do all you can to stop. If you want, go ahead and post in the self harm forum and we'll be more than happy to lend you support and much love.

Have you tried to block your ex's new squeeze? If you do that, that always works. It's nothing to injure yourself over. Obviously, whoever this person is, they are a complete bitch. No harm in blocking them since trolls are easily containable. Anything having to do with your ex, forget and get rid of it all. It's just going to stay if you let it get to you.

Your friend C...he's probably having troubles understanding this. But you can't let him shoot you dirty looks. You need to confront him about this. I'm sure your school has a counselor correct? Try to set up a meeting where you and your counselor can lure C into talking and speaking how he feels. Maybe you could reach some common ground and stay friends.

Don't give up when there is still hope. Do everything you possibly can and don't quite until you do! BEST of luck and much love :)

[L]

the main problem here is C, the girl is a bitch and you can block her, but C doesn't seem to have such a quick fix.. i would tell you to just try and confront C while your both alone, but i think the dog's idea was better. C probably feels terrible about the whole thing, but feels like theres nothing he can do about it now. you can't destroy a friendship like that without feeling terrible, so if you could just make him understand your feelings, he might understand and become your friend again, but thats a big might. its really all up to him.

[TaintedBlood]

The whole ex girlfriend thing is wayy past me now. I blocked her on AIM, but than she went onto her facebook and harassed me there. I blocked her again, she created an account on Youtube and started harassing me there. And when I blocked that account, she hacked into her cousins Facebook account and started harassing me on that account and she also hacked into my facebook account and started to harass my friends. By that time I was tired of it so I threatend to call the police for harassment and she cut it out. She apologized to me and said that she was praying to jesus for me and all of that good stuff.
But, I still can't help but wondering, Where was god when she was harassing me? :what:

Anyway, I would love to go to the counselor but I...don't really...I'm not very comfortable with the counselor, you know?
She is one of those people that is only there to make money and talk to the people in the office. She really doesn't care, in my opinion. But I can try that. :yes: I'm willing to set all my feelings aside for C. I really want to know what is going through his head.

[Sugaree]

Counselors care very much for those around them. That's why they went into that profession: to help people with problems and offer advice. It will be better to go to a counselor for this. Counselors are people you can TRUST. There's no reason to be afraid of them or feel uncomfortable about them. Don't put them down as some money hogs who do this JUST to get money. Rather, look at them as a friend that you can go to when you're in need. I can't tell you how much help I got from counselors while I was still in the public school system. I don't think I could thank them enough for all the help they gave. Go for it! :)

[DayBreakArt]

Everything Matthew said I agree with. But don't harm yourself anymore. He is probably over whelmed, stressed and worried because of this. Other than that, everything else has been said. Luck with everything and I'm sure you'll get through this. (: