Secrets out

[americangothic]

In the 7th grade I had this teacher his name was Mr. W. He was my social studies teacher, I made A's on all my test did all my work but I had a F on my report card, I didn't get it. So I talked to him about it. He told me I could get an A, if I let him kiss me. .So I let him kiss me, it was just an innocent kiss then he asked me if I was a virgin. I told him I was. And he said "let me inside you, and if you're good, you'll get an A". I then decided to run, and he grabbed me and he begged me to stay. So I had sex with him. I got my A. I moved to the back of the classroom after that. I wanted to avoid him at all cost. One day my friend came to me crying saying Mr. W had raped her. I cried with her, but I didn't tell her I had had sex with him. The year passed and I was going to a new school, and I wanted to forget what had happened to me. Two days before christmas eve my uncle hung himself, and I blamed myself. I hated myself. I found myself thinking about Mr. W alot, debating whether it was rape or not, wondering if he hurt other students after my friend. I came to the conclusion that it was not rape because I consented. I've never told anyone what me and my teacher did. I still haven't until now, and even now it's still kind of a secret. And I just want so badly to forget.

[anime Freak]

well it was sexual abuse or sex with a minor but legaly not rape since you agreed to it

[CuriousDestruction]

if you said no, even once, that is rape in the first degree on a minor. this carries a life sentence. even if the police determine you consented it is statutory rape. i highly recommend you go to the police but also talk to a counselor at your school or a therapist. i know you want to forget about this but you really need talk to someone about it. i encourage your friend to do the same. please talk to a counselor or the police asap. PM me if you wanna talk.

[XxHaViiK]

1. You need to inform the police about this immediately.
2. You, and your friend should seek therapy very soon. Trust me, therapy is helping me get past all of my past of abuse.

[godnose]

Tell the police NOW. It is so important that you do. So so important. It is rape. It is coercion. He could be ruining more people's lives. These traumas can lead to all sorts of problems.

[Golddron]

Inform the police. this is terrible...he should be removed immediately

[Beautiful Obsession]

even if u said yes, ur underage so it will be counted as rape, if you want to forget it, you need to tell someone. trust me, keeping these things to yourself dont help, it makes it worse, u'll become depressed because u cant stop thinking about it. You arnt in the wrong here, he is, so you need to tell someone x

[SmileyGirl]

I agree with basically everyone has said: you need 2 tell someone about u and ur friend.

[betakuwe]

Damn this is serious, you need to inform the cops or someone immediately, seriously...

[Katrina]

please immediately consult a psychologist as others have said. You may also talk about it to your parents or any other elder whom you believe in. Let them then contact the cops or whatever they think is appropriate.
But I couldn't understand how this was related to your uncle's death.

[Californian]

Well, I dont know about any other state - But I live in California, and according to state laws: It is rape. The age of Consent in CA is 18, so having sex (regardless of if it was consensual or not) is rape.

A BF & GF can have sex (both underage) ; the government of CA defines this as rape. In the state of CA even if the GF gave consent to sex, the state considers a minor too young to make that decision, so technically, this is considered rape. The boy can be arrested, charged with rape, and registered as a sex offender.

Any Way: I would report it! He had sex with you, and you were way under age. No matter what state you live in, in terms of law this would most likely be considered rape.

[Magus]

I never had sex and never will, not until I fulfill my commitment(Marriage).

-you know what- before marriage isn't my thing to do.

[BuryYourFlame]

Please stay on topic. Any further off-topic posts will be deleted.

You need to tell someone. If you were underage, that is still statutory rape. Even if you consented to what he did, he might do it to others who won't consent. He needs to be be locked up; for everyone's safety, not just for justice.

[Englishrose]

While I would love to tell you to go to the police, the evidence of any wrong doing on his part is long gone, it would be your word against his and in most cases like that, it rarely ends in a conviction. At most he would be stricken from the teaching register.
However, it is a completely different matter if your friend is going to back you up, and any others who may come forward. Then there is some verbal collective evidence.

If you don't want to take that route and just forget about it, I'll give the best advice I always try and give everyone. Talk about it. Tell your friend you went through a similar experience to her, she is most likely feeling exactly the same if not worse than you are and talking about it can do wonders for you both. Maybe try some counselling, but like quite a lot of topics in VT this is something you have to work through with real people not just those on the other side of a computer screen.

[georgiamay]

you really should report this to the police. it IS rape. he blackmailed you...he gave you an F so you would say yes eventually, which is clearly blackmail...

i suggest you and your friend see a pshycologist. this kind of thing could lead to a lot of bad things.

[Scarface]

if you said no, even once, that is rape in the first degree on a minor. this carries a life sentence. even if the police determine you consented it is statutory rape. i highly recommend you go to the police but also talk to a counselor at your school or a therapist. i know you want to forget about this but you really need talk to someone about it. i encourage your friend to do the same. please talk to a counselor or the police asap. PM me if you wanna talk.

such a sick and demented man should never see the light of day to prey on young girls. its irrelevent if you consented it against the law period its just wrong what he did and i hope you do the right thing and rectify this situation. i hope this helps

[doktored]

Report him to the police, school board and everyone else you can think of. He has raped you and a friend and the probability is that you two may not be the only ones. This bastard needs to be locked up for a long time. No matter how long ago it was you need to stand up and get him put away. Don't let anyone else get harmed the same way, you can't change what happened to you but councilling could help you deal with the pains. There is also some people on here who have been raped themselves and i'm positive they'd help you along aswell. Don't worry, we're here for you. You won't get harmed in any way if you tell the authorities, you'd be doing a good thing.

[DoveGreySands]

Report him to the police, school board and everyone else you can think of. He has raped you and a friend and the probability is that you two may not be the only ones. This bastard needs to be locked up for a long time. No matter how long ago it was you need to stand up and get him put away. Don't let anyone else get harmed the same way, you can't change what happened to you but councilling could help you deal with the pains. There is also some people on here who have been raped themselves and i'm positive they'd help you along aswell. Don't worry, we're here for you. You won't get harmed in any way if you tell the authorities, you'd be doing a good thing.

All of this, definitely. Don't be afraid to tell, nothing could possibly happen to you once you've told someone such as the police or the school headteacher etc. This guy deserves his come uppance

[Asylum]

please... inform the police, don't let this happen to anyone else... go seek a counsler it helps to talk about it... PM me ifyou want to talk...

[MariettaNate]

You should first tell your parents. Go and get professional counseling and then go to the police. They are a lot more likely to be helpful if you've got a professional backing you up.

[TakeMyHand]

Oh god this makes my blood boil. I don't even know you but reading about things like this just make me want to find the man who did this to you and kick him in the crotch so hard that he won't even want or be able to to use it anymore.

Tell the police definitely and get that other girl involved as well, he'll only continue to hurt more innocent girls like yourself and there and he shouldn't be allowed to walk free. I wish I could somehow make it all better.

[mike815]

i know alot of my friends that have been through this.. depending on the state u live in i can help im not police but i know people in most states that deal with this kind of thing confidentially. pm me if u want to know more and im sorry this happened to u

[Hollywood]

although it isnt rape (b/c u agreed to it) it is sex with a minor and still a felony. go to the police and have him thrown in jail. and dont blame yourself for your uncle's death. he chose to do so, for whatever reason. you didnt kill him, he killed himself. but hes gone now, and nothing can be done to stop it, so dont worry yourself.