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Sugaree
January 28th, 2010, 02:37 AM
So a couple of hours ago - literally out of the blue - a girl I knew years and years ago found me on Facebook and sent me a friend request. Of course, I accepted immediately. So in pure excitement, I went to her page and saw her friend list. Well, turns out she had added a lot of my other old friends so I took no hesitation in adding them. Two of them accepted right away which made me feel great, knowing I was getting back in touch with them.

But there's a problem...one of my friends, Will, whom I haven't seen in some three years, left without another word. Of course, I'm glad I found him on Facebook, but he left without telling me anything. No phone call, no letter, no e-mail...nothing. He just took off after his parent's divorce settled (his father was a fucking bastard and deserves nothing for the shit he pulled). I just can't help but feel that he might do the same. Now I know it must seem a silly thing to worry over something like this, but I am and I don't know what to do. Now, he was always loyal to me and I to him just as I was with all my friends, but who's to say he hasn't changed? Who's to say that he may not like me anymore?

As much as it would be great for me to see him again, I just can't help but wonder: Am I really going to keep a strong friendship with him? Would he want to keep a friendship with me? I still remember all the goods times we had like spending the weekends at each others homes during the summer, going to the pools. Eventually we got older but still remained good friends. We started being the typical teen boys, hitting on girls, making rude jokes, the like. I just have so many good memories and I feel that maybe we could relive all of those again some day...I just don't want to lose him.

Mr. Smithers
January 28th, 2010, 02:51 AM
You can accept the fact that he probably changed. People change you know. He probably doesn't want his life to be upset. He wants to have friends, be happy. I would start your friendship over. I really wouldn't want to throw a friendship like that away just because he stopped talking to you. People have problems that they have in their lives, and they can't always talk to their friends, or say goodbye. You said his parents had a bad divorce, and I'm sure that would make anybody upset over that. If he was my friend, I would try to see if we could start our friendship over, because I just wouldn't want to waste our friendship like I never met him. I hope that you don't feel the way that you do now, and just realize that people change.