Crap, crap, CRAP. I'm pregnant.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

I just found out yesterday.

I was buying birth control and realized counting back I was late, so to be safe I bought a pregnancy test. It wasn't a big deal I've been late before.

So I took the test in the doctors office bathroom, and when I saw the "+", I just cired.

I waited in the waiting room, trying not to cry in front of people.
The blood test to make sure I really am comes back today, but those test are 99% accurate.

I can't belive this is happening to me.

I talked to my boyfriend, we both agree we are not going to keep it, I am only 18 for fucks sake.

I am so scared to get the actual procedure done, just because they do not let you take anyone in with you.
And I am 100% positive that I am making the right decision, but I am worried, that because of my depression I am going to hate myself after and go into one of those bouts.

I never thought I would have to say goodbye to a child.
I never thought I would be in this situation.

[Darkness]

You don't have to have an abortion you should consider trying adoption, jumping right in to abortion is silly, you can always have an abortion later, you can't undo one. Right now probaly it's just a coulple of stem cells- not a person, they can't think, or feel, or move, only split in two, you have nothing to be afraid or ashamed of.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

Getting an abortion is much safer for myself if you get it done as soon as possible.
I have always known that the option I would choose would be abortion if this ever happened.
I could not give away my child if i gave birth to it, that is much harder than getting an aboriton.
I am still in high school, I am too young to give birth.

I am totally comfertable with my decision, I am just worried about my depression after the fact.

[Quick_Sylver]

:hug3: It's your choice. I'm sure you can handle it with your boyfriend by your side. You can and will survive. I'm here if you want to talk.

[Nelson]

I dont know exactly what to say, but i dont really agree with abortions, but then i dont really agree with adoptions

I can say this though. What grade (or whatever it is in Canada) are you in?
Do your parents know, because just because your pregnant doesnt mean you have to leave school, your parents could look after your baby while you go to school, but please consider something other than abortion, dont jump into it straight away, but your decision.

Keep us posted and Good Luck :)

[Fiending_the_freedom]

I was suppose to graduate high school last year, so I am in my second round of grade 12.
My parents are divorced, and my dad who I live with is 60.
I would never impose such a huge lifestyle change and responsibility on them.
I would not be able to support the baby, and I and personally apauled at how many kids my age are having children. I am still a child, I cannot have this baby.

I understand a lot of people are against abortions, i've actually have never heard of anyone being against adoption! Out of curiosity, could you explain what you have against that?

There are other factors in my decision, I did contract an STD this summer with my boyfriend, and I feel that that along with my age are big deciding factors.

[Nelson]

Do mean financially you cant support the baby, im sure social security or whatever it is there will help.

If you did decide to keep the baby, will your boyfriend be willing to stay and raise the baby with you?

Ive seen heaps of my friends go through the adoption system, some with siblings, some without, they were abused, in some cases raped, and if they had siblings they were torn away from them.

Did you contract the STD before or after finding out your pregnant

(and tell me if im being too nosey)

[Fiending_the_freedom]

I contracted the std before getting pregnant.
I am able to give birth without passing it on, as long as i do not have an outbreak when giving birth, but I want to see where science goes with this as far as dealing with this disease. I would like to plan out with a doctor my options before getting pregnant.

That is not the main focus in my decision though.
I could not finacially support this child, and socical services only goes so far, when i have children i want them to have a great life, and give them everything they need.

My boyfriend is the father and he would support me in anything i choose, but we both know our lives would be over if we chose to keep it.

I do want a child one day, but that time is not now.
I wouldn't be able to live on my own, I wouldn't be able to afford to go to university, I wouldn't have time to do anything.

When i do have children I know i will look back on this and be sad, but I know that it is the right decision for me, and the me in 20 years.

[Nelson]

Mmm. Your in one awkward prediciment, have you planned the abortion yet?

[Triceratops]

I'm strictly against abortion, but it would be very unfair of me to thrust my own personal views down your throat.

You may need to have a deep think about this, since this could be a potentially life-altering decision. Going ahead with abortion is something that can never be undone.

Weigh out the pro's and con's of giving birth, or possibly resorting to abortion - as well as thoroughly compromising with your parents, close friends and your boyfriend as such. If you feel that aborting the child may cause psychological stress, consider seeking a counselor for help.

Just be incredibly careful with your choices; this is something that can bring damaging or rewarding outcomes, whichever the final decision may be.

Best of luck. :)

[Nelson]

Great post Pandora. Couldnt say it better, I wasnt going to say im totally against abortions but in somecases they are needed, do you get my drift on that one :/

BTW, love the "hear my apoloogy;fuck you'' bit in your sig

[nick]

I too am very much against abortion. You're saying you've got an STD from your boyfriend and now your pregnant. Well sorry to be blunt but have you never heard of safe sex? Where's your sense of responsibility in all of this?

You must make your own choice and live with it. I wish you no ill. But a little bit more responsibility in future might be a good idea.

[Jean Poutine]

You gonna kill a being just 'cause you screwed up? We can leave the debate of abortion being a murder or not behind - if it isn't one thing, it's a fucking cop out. Abortion isn't contraception. Live with the consequences.

Protection maybe? Christ.

[Ryhanna]

I too am very much against abortion. You're saying you've got an STD from your boyfriend and now your pregnant. Well sorry to be blunt but have you never heard of safe sex? Where's your sense of responsibility in all of this?

You must make your own choice and live with it. I wish you no ill. But a little bit more responsibility in future might be a good idea.

I have to agree with this. But the fact is, now you're here and you can't go back and change it, so we'll stop dwelling in the past now figure out what you can do with your current predicament.

Okay, so you're 18 and pregnant. hmm, at least you aren't younger, that would be worse. Lots of teens get pregnant, most of them have abortions. Unless you're like, Jamie Lynn Spears or something, you'll probably want an abortion. Abortion seems the best way to go. Having an STD, depending on what it is, going through pegnancy and giving birth could potentially be dangerous to you and the baby.

Have an abortion if you want to. Don't be afriad, everything will be fine. You can have a baby later.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

I too am very much against abortion. You're saying you've got an STD from your boyfriend and now your pregnant. Well sorry to be blunt but have you never heard of safe sex? Where's your sense of responsibility in all of this?


I was being safe, I was on birth control, but 1 out of 100 woman a year happen to get pregnant anyway. Me and my boyfriend contracted the STD from each other. We didn't use condoms because we both got tested and were clean, but we got herpes from a cold sore I had, and didn't know that you could get herpes through oral sex.
I am responsible, I've tried to be by being on birth control. I did not ask for this.

You gonna kill a being just 'cause you screwed up? We can leave the debate of abortion being a murder or not behind - if it isn't one thing, it's a fucking cop out. Abortion isn't contraception. Live with the consequences.

Protection maybe? Christ.

Like i said before, I used birth control. I am not using abortion as a contraception, like I said in my original post, I never thought I would have to go through this because I am safe.
If I had this child it would not be healthy, through out the last 6 weeks of my prenancy I have drank a lot, smoked pot every day and done LSD twice. I am not going to bring a child into this world that will be harmed by my actions when I didnt realize i was pregnant.

[anime Freak]

i think you should keep it, there have been many sutations like yours were the mother got the baby aborted and then she felt absolutly horrible about it and became depressed for months and got pregnant again so the depression would go away,

[Fiending_the_freedom]

I put this up here for support.
I am getting an abortion, that is my choice, and my final decision.
This baby will not be healthy from all the substances I've taken, along with other factors.

[Giles]

You gonna kill a being just 'cause you screwed up? We can leave the debate of abortion being a murder or not behind - if it isn't one thing, it's a fucking cop out. Abortion isn't contraception. Live with the consequences.

Protection maybe? Christ.

Did you read her original post?
I thought not...

[Jean Poutine]

Did you read her original post?
I thought not...

?

All it said is "I was buying birth control". For all I know from the context it could be the first time she ever was going to use it.

Next time don't be a douche. I hate snide know-it-all people.

[The Batman]

She says she's getting the abortion so let's leave the "don't get it" responses out of this thread.

Tegan I think you're doing what's right for you and the and the baby and to me that's what's best. I think they have counseling for after abortions so they'll like make sure you're doing alright and stuff. I'm sorry that you are going through this but you are a very strong girl and you can get past this.

[Giles]

?

All it said is "I was buying birth control". For all I know from the context it could be the first time she ever was going to use it.

Next time don't be a douche. I hate snide know-it-all people.

Somehow I managed to realize that she had been using birth control for a while, not my fault your not as perceptive.

[Jean Poutine]

Somehow I managed to realize that she had been using birth control for a while, not my fault your not as perceptive.

I'm perceptive enough to know where and when to use "you're" and "your", at least.

[The Batman]

Guys end the argument or get infracted both of you know better. Now let's get back on topic.

[Kahn]

Honestly in my opinion you should do what you feel is right, but I will speak what my heart is telling me not my mind.

Do not pretend that you can just get rid of it and get on with it. It won't work like that because when your older you will think.. "What would've happened if I hadn't gotten rid of him or her". Well.. in the end it is ultimately your decision and no one should have the right to tell you what to do or not but is it worth taking the life of a child to keep your life like this? Will you have another slip up and end up having to get another abortion again? How will you feel?

Yes I am preaching the "what ifs", if you will, and looking into the future for answers but you must take all of this into consideration. You may not be ready but you can take other options and use them to your advantage. Such as adoption. You may not be ready but there is a couple out there that needs a child, and you child might fit that role perfectly. I do not think it is worth giving up a child's life because you do not think your ready, but the baby is. That's why it's in your "tummy" ^_^. It wants to be there. It is there for a reason.

Sorry if I came on to hard. This is a sensitive subject, but please take what I said into consideration. It is not worth taking it's life. Adoption is much better than abortion.

~Adam

[2D]

Kill it. Then Jesus can take care of it.

Not joking. You obviously can't handle a child so don't bring one in to the world. Kill it and get on with your life.

[CuriousDestruction]

i've counseled a few of my friends on what to do in this situation. i'm happy to do the same for you if you wish. i won't tell you to keep this child however i will tell you to consider your options. abortion is a safe procedure and a permanent solution to this problem. however it can come at great risk to your mental health if you aren't prepared for it. many, although certainly not all, women regret their choice to abort. i'm not saying it will happen to you, but if you don't want to risk that i would consider other options. adoption, highly recommended. you won't have to keep the kid, nor will it be on your conscience for the rest of your life. i know you want to get this over with quickly. that's okay, but please just take a minute. one minute. make sure there is no doubt in your mind about your decision. if there is not, do what you think is right. if there is, i recommend you wait, at least for the moment. no matter what you choose i know you will get through this and everyone here on VT will support you. PM me if you wanna talk :)

[Ryhanna]

Kill it. Then Jesus can take care of it.

Not joking. You obviously can't handle a child so don't bring one in to the world. Kill it and get on with your life.

Saying "Kill it" is a little inappropirate dont ya think? I mean, yeah, technically thats whats happenening but saying "kill it" makes it sound like "yeah, go on, kill the thing, it'll be fun"

[2D]

Saying "Kill it" is a little inappropirate dont ya think? I mean, yeah, technically thats whats happenening but saying "kill it" makes it sound like "yeah, go on, kill the thing, it'll be fun"

No, it isn't inappropriate. It's the truth. And in my book the truth is never inappropriate, no matter how disgusting or gruesome it is.

[trn19]

Well, it is not a child yet, just a fetus, and you shouldn't let anyone try to convince you any other way. I definitely think you should talk with a therapist or something before deciding if you want to do the procedure or not, though. It is a very complicated and delicate decision. Good luck. I wish you the best.

[Zephyr]

Well, here it goes...

Hun, I've been here before. It's a very scary thing to go through. You have everything flashing through your mind at once: Keep or don't? Put it up for adoption or abort it? Does this make me a horrible person if I go through with it? If this is the right thing, why do I feel so bad? If I do this, who exactly am I giving up?... that and an endless list of other thoughts and questions. Myself, I was 16 and the condom broke. Never told my ex about it, went ahead and got the procedure done. Not a day goes by that I don't think about the person it could have been as a person I would have loved. It gets to me at times. But in the end, I feel like I made the right decision for me. I was too young to be having a child when I was still one myself, there was no way I could have ever afforded it, I wouldn't have been able to have handled putting it up for adoption because I felt like it would have been losing a piece of me, and had I decided to keep it then there was no way that I'd be going to college anytime soon.

It all really comes down to you and your boyfriend. You two know what's best for yourselves, even if the ultimate decision is extremely hard to make. But just always remember that in the end, what you choose for yourself is probably the best way to go.

It'll always be in the back of your mind, no matter which route you choose to take. I cope with my decision by packing it away, putting it in a secret place, then take the situation down from time to time to re-examine it, and I put it back away.

I know we've never talked much, if at all, but you're more than welcome to talk to me about it in private hun.

[Triceratops]

Protection maybe? Christ.

Protection is never 100% reliable.

[Hyper]

Meh... Not going to flame anyone I think is a complete **** in this thread.... So...

Tegan you know you can talk to me on MSN any time I'm online

[BeautifulDisaster]

I'm not really sure about abortion, unless it's necessary, then I'm more for it than against it, however, at the end of it all, it's your choice, and in my opinion, I think it would be best for the baby due to how you live your life right now, & you could harm the baby severely, & it wouldn't have a good life due to the damage, whatever it does cause for the baby when it's born, & the baby may, if it's adopted or put in foster care, wonder so many questions & it could cause a lot of difficulties for the baby.
She/he may even develop mental health problems because of it too.

I think you've made a good, wise decision.

Yes, it is "killing" something, but it's not a human yet, like others have said, so don't worry, you're doing what you feel is best, and I think it is best too, whatever the outcome, I wish you well.

Go to therapy/counseling after though, I think you'll need it.
Don't underestimate how you'll be feeling/thinking afterward.

x

[gone]

I would say abortion would be the best choice for you, all the best.

[Giles]

I would say abortion would be the best choice for you, all the best.

Well she did say that she had already decided.

[munchausen]

my mom gave birth to me when she was 17 if she can handle a kid I'm sure you can, at least consider putting him/her up for adoption.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

Like I said before, I have already made up my mind, and schedualed the appointment, for the 9th.

Wish me luck, those of you who have been supportive.

[Quick_Sylver]

Good Luck Tegan. Hang in there hun.

[munchausen]

Okay, I respect your decision and I'm not going to harass you for making it. You're grown up enough to know what you want to do.

[emt.Cam]

Deciding to do an abortion is going to be a life changer. It's something that you're not going to be able to change and you'll live with the guilt, I can almost promise you, you will. There are organizations out there to help with people in your predicament. Whether you have enough money or not. There's thousands of single moms out there that take care of their newborn and you are fortunate enough to have the "father" who -you claimed- would support you. I'd think long and hard about this hun... I'm sorry but even though you were on birth control, I REALLY hope you both decided to play it safe. Birth control is only so safe, especially when you forget to take it. Claiming that you're only 18, you knew the consequences of sexual intercourse before you did it, please take responsibilities for your actions, as you KNEW what COULD happen. As I read more on about your "habits" you need to get your life straightened out with the drinking, pot, and LSD? I'm not even talking for the child, but for your sake. I do hope things go well for you, but expect the unexpected. Best of luck to you hun.

[CuriousDestruction]

i think you have made a wise decision that is well-thought out. i send you love and support. *hugs*

[octomania]

i vote for adoption..

[The Batman]

People like I said before she's made up her mind about the abortion and she not going to change it so let's leave the adoption posts out of here and stick on the topic of bow she's going to feel after the abortion. Thanks.

[Sapphire]

You are being very brave and responsible about this. I wish you the best of luck on the 9th!

If you are concerned about your depression flaring up again after this, talk with your doctor about it. That way they can help you put some measures in place to help you deal with this and any possible bouts of depression that may arise. There will be services around to help with this type of situation so it is just a matter of finding out about them and getting on their books so they can help you.

[Ripplemagne]

Pro-lifers are so annoying at times. I don't recall her asking any of you what your opinion on abortion is.

Anyway, make sure to get a second opinion because sometimes home birth control doohickies are wrong. False negatives, false positives, et cetera.

[Sapphire]

She did get a blood test at the doctors to confirm it.
In fact, I think places require that before you can get booked in for an abortion.

[Ripplemagne]

Oh. I must've skimmed over that. My brain is half inoperative right now. XD

[Sapphire]

Lol, its ok. Just thought I'd let you know.

Btw, hope you get better soon

[Ripplemagne]

I appreciate it. <3

[Amyxoxo]

OK, Well after the abortion you may feel really down, depressed and basically dodgey.
Have you seen a doctor yet?
Do you know how your going to have it done?
xx

[Fiending_the_freedom]

So far the steps I have taken are, I took the store pregnancy test then got my blood test done, got my ultra sound done, and yes I did see the baby as well as my boyfriend the father, and it did not change our minds. ( it looked like a bean lol).
Tomorrow I go to my doctors because he needs to recive the ultrasound and fac it to the abortion clinic, and I go to that on wednesday.

There are two ways that It can be done, the vacume thingy or you can take a pill and come back then next day. No way I want the pill, I just want to get it over with.

I am allowed to one person with ID, I will bring my boyfriend obviously, and i need to wear pjs and bring a bath robe. I will get a consultation with Owen and a guidence counceller sort of person who will ask me if i am sure and explain the procedure. Then I must go in alone, and a nurse will hold my hand. They will prick my finger to see my blood type and stick an IV in my arm and the procedure takes about 3 mintues. Then I go to a recovery room where I will lay down with a heating pad on my stomach and can eat crackers and drink water and my friend said there is a phone, i wont be able to call Owen though because they dont allow phones to be on in the clinic. My friend said she puked when she tried to eat so I probably wont.

[NMon]

I never thought I would have to say goodbye to a child.
I never thought I would be in this situation.

Then don't. If you don't want it, give it up to adoption. Abortions can cause internal bleeding, too.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

I really don't appreciate how many people do not listen to the fact that it is my decision and it is already made.

abortions are done by aspiration which is the release of a strong burst of air. It is not dangerous to my health.

And saying goodbye to a child is kind of the whole point of adoption, at least this way it is not a child yet. It is a fetus, and has no heartbeat yet, which was revealed in my ultrasound.

[munchausen]

Then don't. If you don't want it, give it up to adoption. Abortions can cause internal bleeding, too.

Stop that, she's made up her mind people have the right to make this decision on their own you've got no legitimate reason to try and change her mind.

[Ryhanna]

No, it isn't inappropriate. It's the truth. And in my book the truth is never inappropriate, no matter how disgusting or gruesome it is.

yyyyyshnamanet!

I know it's the truth but soften the blow, I mean...

You have a right to live your life. I could say more, but it's a difficult situation and I don't to make you feel any more guilty than you already feel.

Just thanking the other people posting here about how WRONG it is and stuff... your so helpful, right :/

[Sapphire]

Tegan, try to ignore them.

Have you been able to speak with anyone about emotional support after the procedure is done?
It really is a good step to take if you are concerned about your depression returning.
I'm sure you don't have to be told this, but make sure that you and Owen keep the lines of communication open and intact. If you can talk with each other about this, now and afterward, that is a real testament to your relationship and will help keep your bond strong.

[NMon]

I really don't appreciate how many people do not listen to the fact that it is my decision and it is already made.

abortions are done by aspiration which is the release of a strong burst of air. It is not dangerous to my health.

And saying goodbye to a child is kind of the whole point of adoption, at least this way it is not a child yet. It is a fetus, and has no heartbeat yet, which was revealed in my ultrasound.

I never said you had to. It was a suggestion.

[Hannah]

my advise is first im very sorry about your issue, but I would have the baby and than put it up for adoption

[Ripplemagne]

What a moron.

[-Silence]

Today was the day right? How'd it go?

[seansaurusrex]

I'm strictly against abortion, but it would be very unfair of me to thrust my own personal views down your throat.

You may need to have a deep think about this, since this could be a potentially life-altering decision. Going ahead with abortion is something that can never be undone.

Weigh out the pro's and con's of giving birth, or possibly resorting to abortion - as well as thoroughly compromising with your parents, close friends and your boyfriend as such. If you feel that aborting the child may cause psychological stress, consider seeking a counselor for help.

Just be incredibly careful with your choices; this is something that can bring damaging or rewarding outcomes, whichever the final decision may be.

Best of luck. :)

Completely agreed here. Think it out.

[Resinflux]

You act like she'll never get pregnant again, don't want it don't keep it. Better learn your damn lesson about unprotected sex, next could it could be worse and be a disease instead

[Fiending_the_freedom]

It went great.
I was really scared at first of the pain, but it didn't really hurt, it was more of an intense cramp.
They put an iv in me and wow were those hard drugs, i couldn't concentrate on the procedure while it was being done because I was halluicinating. After words I felt soo dizzy and nauseas from the drugs, that was really the worst part. They tried to get me to throw up in the recovery room but I couldnt. Went for dinner at a resuraunt right after and puked all over the bathroom floor, but felt so much better after.

I am so glad this is all done with, and I don't have any regrets or remorse, I'm glad my depression did not come back.

[The Batman]

You act like she'll never get pregnant again, don't want it don't keep it. Better learn your damn lesson about unprotected sex, next could it could be worse and be a disease instead

Dude she was protected read the first post and the others she made. That shit is never 100% effective.

Tegan I'm so glad it went great and that all of this is over now.

[Sapphire]

I'm so glad that it went well for you!

[Resinflux]

They tell you even with birth control you can still get pregnant and should not deter the use of a condom, also if you had herpes anyone else you would've had sex with would have it now also. Especially if you got tested negative and then contracted the disease...That doesn't make any sense >.<

[Fiending_the_freedom]

also if you had herpes anyone else you would've had sex with would have it now also. Especially if you got tested negative and then contracted the disease...That doesn't make any sense >.<

if you read what i typed properly,


There are other factors in my decision, I did contract an STD this summer with my boyfriend,

you'd see that me and my boyfriend contracted it from eachother. Cold sore during oral sex. We have not spread it to anyone else because we are faithful.

[Resinflux]

You can't contract a disease unless you already had it, since you said your sexually transmitted disease test was negative. One of you OBVIOUSLY got it from somewhere else. You don't just randomly contract herpes unless you already had it. You had to have already contracted the disease from some type of outside source or been born with it -.- Your -rep makes me /lol

http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/herpes_transmission.htm#how_is_herpes_spread

[The Batman]

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[Resinflux]

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Here is how and why herpes can come up in a monogamous relationship...

Herpes can sometimes show no symptoms at all

One of you may be a "carrier" of the herpes virus. This means that you may never have experienced any symptoms but could still transmit it to your partner. A blood test will help determine if a person has been exposed to herpes by testing for "antibodies". Blood tests can also indicate if it is a recent or primary infection.

If you read that then you can see why I might suggest what I did..You said you tested negative for STDS but have herpes now v.v

[Fiending_the_freedom]

You can't contract a disease unless you already had it, since you said your sexually transmitted disease test was negative. One of you OBVIOUSLY got it from somewhere else. You don't just randomly contract herpes unless you already had it. You had to have already contracted the disease from some type of outside source or been born with it -.- Your -rep makes me /lol

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You do not make sense.
"you can't contract a disease unless you already had it"
That sentance is totally ilogical.

Let me explain it to you slowley.
I had a coldsore, on my lip.
That is herepes technically.
Almost everyone gets a cold sore once and a while.
Then I gave him oral, which spread it to his gentials, giving him genital herpes,
Then we had sex, which gave me it.

I have type 1 herpes, which is oral, but on my genitals.

When i say we were clean, I mean't before we started dating, then gave it to eachother.

And I didn't leave any negitive rep, I thought about it but didn't want to have to come up with a comment.

If you read that then you can see why I might suggest what I did..You said you tested negative for STDS but have herpes now v.v
Like I said before, there is such a thing as gettting tested and THEN contracting a disease.


Me and my boyfriend rely on birthcontrol because when we first got together we were both clean, and were unaware of cold sores being able to transfer into genital herpes. condoms for me now provoke breakouts, so since we are both infected with it, there's no point of using condoms.
excpet when birh control fails, in which I am being much more strict about how i use my birth control and have switched to a more reliable brand.

[Ripplemagne]

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Must remember not to bone Tegan.

Anyway, there's more than one type of herpes, Mortis. Look into it. :P

[CaptainObvious]

You made a good decision. You don't need a pregnancy at this stage in life. Congratulations for having the courage to go through with something difficult like this.

And ignore all the fools guilting you and who were trying to get you to reconsider. They should really all fuck off.

[Ripplemagne]

It would be plausible if the question was "What do I do?" Or "Should I abort?" But she stated, as clear as day, that she was aborting and it was not up for discussion.

[NMon]

I'm glad it went well, and mostly that your depression went away! That's excellent. I hope it continues that way.

[Doctor Fate]

...As much as reading this really killed me and really made me extremely upset and unhappy (I must be honest), I do applaud you for at least including your partner in your decision. It must have been... difficult

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[Fiending_the_freedom]

I think its terrible when girls make a decision like that without talking to the other person involved.

[Resinflux]

Can we lock this? She had the abortion didnt she

[Giles]

Can we lock this? She had the abortion didnt she

It's not your thread. It's up to her and the mods to decide if/when to lock it.

[Resinflux]

Did I say it was my thread? No, I was merely stating the obvious, abortion is controversial and there's not really any point dragging this on continuously when it's done and over with

[The Batman]

Did I say it was my thread? No, I was merely stating the obvious, abortion is controversial and there's not really any point dragging this on continuously when it's done and over with

Then you really don't have to post in the thread it'll only be locked if the OP wants it to be.

[Charizard8]

Don't get an abortion, you should try adoption, but it is your choice. I just don't like the thought of killing an innocent unborn child.

[Giles]

Don't get an abortion, you should try adoption, but it is your choice. I just don't like the thought of killing an innocent unborn child.

She's already made her decision and I'm pretty sure she's already been to get it done. So there's no point trying to change her mind.

[Toearly]

i feel very sorry for you ma'm. I hope the best

[Otgon]

Well... depending on your religion and beliefs, its your choice if your going to take up abortion or not, however please do not listen to anyones advise which they say 'Do not take abortion up' or 'Take the abortion', its your choice you make. But, since you have already decided not to keep the baby, your best choice is to go to your local drop in sexual health clinic (if there is any in Canada) and ask for professional help there, remember don't push your time. Make a choice.

[Asylum]

i was adoptd... my mther was 18 when she had me.. i don't know her... never did but i want to... ur child will understand.. i understand that my mother cared a lot abou me to give me up.. she gave me a life she could't give me... don't think of it as iving ur baby up but gving her a chance at life... it took me awhile to realize that..
i woudln't do abortion... there is a lot of emotional pain afterwards... and regret, however if you think that is the right option then alirght.. however i'm not for abortion... i wll pray for you..

[overcome.]

I admire your courage going through with such a decision. Do your best to stay strong and seek support from the close people surrounding you, this couldn't have been easy.

[Scarface]

Wow. Your quite in a jam here. i would recommend getting the abortion because you said yourself that you cannot financially afford it. I wouldn't give it up for adoption because a lot of really bad things happen with some family's and lets leave it there. When you get older then u can have children. i really hope everything works out and don't put all the pressure on you. It's all going to work out if you need someone to talk to im here:)