Ghosts...

[Darkness]

The past is haunting me...A girl I had feelings for, learned that I cut, and we fought because I cut over her, Yes I know how stupid it is to cut over a girl, I've been told by you lot and by her. Her exact words being You never use liking a girl to cut...I mean WTF?! I tried to talk to her 3 months ago (2 weeks after we fought) but she said she couldn't deal with it right now, I asked her to get back to me, she didn't. I wan't to know If I should try again, or if I should forget her.... If I should forget her...how? She also said you have no idea how shit and angry you made me. What does she mean by shit? does she mean worthless?

[obiwan94]

Yikes...yeah by "shit" she probably does mean worthless...I think I would try to talk to her again. Three months is a long time for things to settle down. Let her know that you feel bad for any pain or stress you may have caused her, let her know you've stopped cutting (if indeed you have) and tell her you just want to be friends. Then from there you can try to move on to a relationship later if you want to.

If you dont think you can be "just friends" and will want to rush into a relationship again, then getting in contact with her again will probably just backfire. Also if you havent stopped cutting, it will probably backfire as well. Talk to a shrink maybe? I know it sucks and half the time doesn't work (would rather not go into it) but I know my parents would flip out and send me to a shrink if they knew I was cutting...they've done it for less...and who knows, it might help.

[Darkness]

Yikes...yeah by "shit" she probably does mean worthless...I think I would try to talk to her again. Three months is a long time for things to settle down. Let her know that you feel bad for any pain or stress you may have caused her, let her know you've stopped cutting (if indeed you have) and tell her you just want to be friends. Then from there you can try to move on to a relationship later if you want to.

If you dont think you can be "just friends" and will want to rush into a relationship again, then getting in contact with her again will probably just backfire. Also if you havent stopped cutting, it will probably backfire as well. Talk to a shrink maybe? I know it sucks and half the time doesn't work (would rather not go into it) but I know my parents would flip out and send me to a shrink if they knew I was cutting...they've done it for less...and who knows, it might help.

I have a pair of shrinks. Alot of people have helpped me before with this. The worst part is I'm still cutting over her, but becuase of guilt. I don't know why I cut at all, it's not like I'm in a uncopeable situation. Ok my life is shit sometimes because people treat me like shit, but that my fault because I treated them in the same way, and everyone get a hard time now and again. I have a caring family, I'm well looked after, I have friends, I get an easy ride, ok I've got exams soon but they don't bother me. on paper I've got nothing to shit about, yet I cut.

[obiwan94]

I have a pair of shrinks. Alot of people have helpped me before with this. The worst part is I'm still cutting over her, but becuase of guilt. I don't know why I cut at all, it's not like I'm in a uncopeable situation. Ok my life is shit sometimes because people treat me like shit, but that my fault because I treated them in the same way, and everyone get a hard time now and again. I have a caring family, I'm well looked after, I have friends, I get an easy ride, ok I've got exams soon but they don't bother me. on paper I've got nothing to shit about, yet I cut.

:( not sure what I can add...wish I could help but if you're stumped and the docs are stumped I'm not sure what else to suggest. Maybe talked to her, take it easy, and see if you can build a relationship? It might help the cutting problem, but to have a chance of getting with her you probably need to stop cutting first...kinda a catch-22...if you wanna talk hit me up, dont get too depressed, there are always more girls out there

[jess_13]

I hope that you can still be friends tho?