grrr

[janjanTRIP_]

i used to have a lot of guy friends and id do (sexual) stuff with them, but i dont want to do anything with them anymore. but they kinda make me feel like its my duty to please them. i dont want to go to an adult about this. what should i do?

[NextToNormal]

you should set them straight. just let them know that pleasing them sexually is not something that you are willing to do anymore. if they are truly your friends they are going to understand.

[janjanTRIP_]

well yeah, ive tried that :P
lol, but they're like, "oh you owe me cuz you said you would"

[Cloud]

Just tell them no
if they jsut want you for pleasure
tell them to fuck off

[NextToNormal]

tell them that you dont owe them anything. if they keep pressing you about it, you could tell them you are going to press charges against them for sexual harassment. that usually works.

[janjanTRIP_]

oh okay, lol. thankkks:D

[NextToNormal]

no problem

[StraightAcE]

just stop it

[Hannahgurl]

what type sexual stuff?

[Awesome]

Just B slap them, that'll tell em.

[BeautifulDisaster]

"just stop it"

You can't "just stop it", obviously it isn't as easy as that. Shesh.

I hope it helps to threaten them with sexual harassment charges if they keep doing this, it is considered sexual harassment, and I think it's a great step in standing up for yourself, & for saying "No".

[honeybear]

even if there was a yes before a no is still a no...they dont like it kick them in the junk

[janjanTRIP_]

what type sexual stuff?

like, anything. :P
blowjob, SEXsex, youknow. :P



&thanks so much guys! <3

[nick]

You have to stand up to them, even if you did say yes before you're entitled to change your mind. To be honest these guys sound like they are just using you and you need to have the courage to stop it.

[skyekirstyn]

this one is really hard.
i am the same way!
gosh its stupid.
anyhoodles (:
if you dont want to do it for them just say no.
and leave it at that.
they will keep bugging you and bugginh you,
but just ignore them.
finally they will give up.

[dmeek7]

You are sounding like you are doing the right thing...good job girl

[janjanTRIP_]

this one is really hard.
i am the same way!
gosh its stupid.
anyhoodles (:
if you dont want to do it for them just say no.
and leave it at that.
they will keep bugging you and bugginh you,
but just ignore them.
finally they will give up.

yeah eh, good luck to you too/ :P

You are sounding like you are doing the right thing...good job girl


thank you:P (:

[kentucky girl]

I had a problem like this with one boy. I kept telling him no but he wouldn't listen. Finally I told him that I had another bf and to leave me alone. He stopped asking. I think he was afraid of my bf

[ErykaInspire.]

Well, dear, You kinda got yourself into this mess.
I think you know how to get yourself out. Perhaps your just afraid of that they'll really think of you?

Next time they ask, tell them you're changing your views in life and don't want to feel like a tool. If they don't respect you for that, then they don't deserve your acknowledgment at all. You shouldn't care what those types of guys mean in your life, just keep denying. Eventually they'll get bored and move on. If they start to verbally harass you, inform an adult. You don't have to tell them about all of the stuff you did with them, but if it rises to the surface, denying it will make it worse.

Hold your head up. You're certainly better than that.

[Giles]

"just stop it"

You can't "just stop it", obviously it isn't as easy as that. Shesh.

It is really. You just stop, if you have to then you get someone else involved.

[Kapitan Kokenbalz]

Sounds like someone's in a predicament they caused. =x

Ben's right, though. You can just stop.

[janjanTRIP_]

Well, dear, You kinda got yourself into this mess.
I think you know how to get yourself out. Perhaps your just afraid of that they'll really think of you?

Next time they ask, tell them you're changing your views in life and don't want to feel like a tool. If they don't respect you for that, then they don't deserve your acknowledgment at all. You shouldn't care what those types of guys mean in your life, just keep denying. Eventually they'll get bored and move on. If they start to verbally harass you, inform an adult. You don't have to tell them about all of the stuff you did with them, but if it rises to the surface, denying it will make it worse.

Hold your head up. You're certainly better than that.

thanks, this helps a lot. i like how you understand me. lol. you get into my thoughts or something ;D

Sounds like someone's in a predicament they caused. =x

Ben's right, though. You can just stop.

and obviously you dont understand the reason why i would do this.

[ErykaInspire.]

You're welcome. Let us know how it works out, alright? (:

x

[janjanTRIP_]

well so far they just keeep bugging me:P

[ErykaInspire.]

Don't give in to them or else they'll never stop.

[janjanTRIP_]

ok, i wont(:

[ErykaInspire.]

Good(: