slightly confused

[charlie w]

ok, there is this guy i am best friends with in my year and i have known him for quite a long time. anyway he has given me mixed messages for about a year or so. on one hand he says that he is homophobic ect when there are other people around and on the other he acts really flirty and gay and stuff when it is just me and him. an example is when i was at a sleepover at his house a few weeks ago we had to share the same bed as there was no other space for me to go. in the morning when he thought i was asleep he started to stroke my back and stuff (we played truth and dare and i had to sleep in my boxers).
anyway im just really confused about whether if he is gay/bi or just joking and where should i go from there?
any advice...

[ChaoticHarmony]

ok first of all i find this kinda interesting: i posted something about 6 months ago that was similar to this post and it had the same name, "slightly confused".....*hums Twilight Zone theme* lol

anyway, to answer ur question:
i would ask him about it. im assuming you wouldnt care either way. have another sleep over and play truth or dare, n when he picks truth, ask him. you'll prolly have to explain your curiosity, but it shouldnt be too bad. if you two are really good friends then he shouldnt care

good luck man, hope everything works out :)

[Carter]

Yepp I agree with ChaoticHarmony [nice oxymoron btw]

You should totally be straight forward and ask him. I don't know about you... but I know it was hard for me to keep my feelings of confusion inside... wondering about someone's sexuality. Just ask him.

[ChaoticHarmony]

Yepp I agree with ChaoticHarmony [nice oxymoron btw]

muchas gracias :D

[Leprachaun]

maybe you make him curious.... lol

[KenFisher]

*gaspdavidyouchangedyourusername?!* XD I third that statement. It's like, he might like you, you never know. That 'homophobicness' can be a cover. Do investigate. Using the game, it's a more relaxed atmosphere. Oh, don't go straight into it if he said 'truth' for the first time. Play around a bit. Then ask him. He'll be relaxed. Then he can tell you whatever. Just me thinking, hope it added to it. Kev

[ChaoticHarmony]

lol yeah i did kev

and i also agree with him, the homophobic-ness is prolly a disguise. one of my friends is the same way, god forbid i touch him in any way in front of people but when its just us he'll give me a hug or put his hand on my shoulder...its kinda annoying...
and yeah, dont start out with it, he wont be relaxed

[charlie w]

hey, thanks guys for the help i really appreciate it.

[ChaoticHarmony]

no prob man. good luck with ur friend. i really mean that..i went thru the same thing and it worked out fine :)

[KenFisher]

Yea, good luck. Not many people are as lucky as you are, having some dude to love you. *hides in corner*

[charlie3322]

lol i cant think of anything to add but wat they said seems like some sound advice goodluck!;)

[AlwaysConfused]

lol Very good advice......i have the same situation mayb i should try it lol. :D