Help! I don't know what to do.

[cooldude123]

Hi and thanks for reading. This may seem complicated or confuesing, but i need to explain the story.

I don't have many friends, but i have my two best friends. One is a boy, my best friend. The other is the girl who i have a crush on.
For a couple of months now, i have fancied this one girl. I have been taking it slow and just becoming good friends and to know eachother well. This has gone over approx 4 months now, and i was ready to make my next move. My plan was to ask her to go to the cinema with me. She said she wasn't sure and she found out the was going on holiday over the christmas period so that idea was scrapped. It felt like i had gone down a level, if you know what i mean. Over the next 2 or 3 weeks i was being friendly like i usually would thinking of my next 'move'. Then, out of the blue, she ignored me, no explination. When i tried to talk or make contact in anyway, she blanked me out. it remained like this until about 2 days ago. Then, my best friend and the girl i fancie (Not mentioning any names) had a big arguement. I was the one sorting it out, but it got to a stage where it seemed like i was doing more harm then good so i let it calm down and after a while us 3 are talking again. But, me and the girl arn't friends like we used to be. We used to walk home together from school. It's like i was starting this all over again, and i won't do that, as i just did for months! You see, the girl i like had a best friend who went everywhere together. Then, about 76 months ago then had a big fall out and hate the look of eachother. I always sided on my friends side. However, my best friend went off from the girl i fancie to this other girl, and i have never done such a thing. But after siding with her all this time, it still feels like i am back at stage one.
One time we was doing dare's, and i got asked who i fancie. I was honest and said it was in our class. But she guessed every girl except herself. When the question was asked to her she said somebody in a different class and said no more.
But now, a new problem has arrived. My ex-best friend, who i hate now, is hanging around my my crush. It seems like he is 'winning her over'. I have tried many things but it seems too suspicous so i have stopped and come here. I don't know what to do. I need a solution fast. I was to try and ask her but i need to know if she definately likes me before i ask. In my school this gets spread in a day maximum. The whole school knows and it's living in hell. I only want to suffer this if i know it's worth it.

This is the best i can explain it all. It seems confuesing and a lot of writing but i can't explain it all any better than i did.

My question is, what do i do?

Thanks for the help. Please reply as soon as possible.

:)

[Ballin2much]

well if shes blanking you out and didnt go out eith you she either doesnt like you or is playing hard to get or whatever that is, and as for the ex best friend, just dont puch em, that doesnt end well, this actually happeed to me once, i hated a person who started hanging out with a girl i liked, and was friends with, so dont punch them!

[Gumleaf]

well taking out the fact she is your crush and just concentrating on your friendship here. all i will say is that times change and people change. this has happened to me a couple of times. i was friend with 2 different girls and both of them pushed me out of their lives with little or no explanation. it hurts a lot when that happens, but what i have learnt is that you have to brush yourself off and try and move on. i'm similar to you, i don't have many friends, but perhaps for you, trying to expand your social network might be something that could help. what i am saying is, i think you need to try and move on, because even though you are still friends, things aren't the same anymore and i think she has moved on from you and maybe you should do the same with her. hope things work out for you.

[cooldude123]

See, i'm not sure now. Suddenly, we're back friends again. We walk home together like we used to. My best friend who has known her longer than me says it is something she just does, and you have to live with it. He says she just randomly has times when she doesn't speak to you, but then all is okay afterwards.

What do you think i should do? Leave it or carry on, or anything else?

[Jambo]

Hi and thanks for reading. This may seem complicated or confuesing, but i need to explain the story.

I don't have many friends, but i have my two best friends. One is a boy, my best friend. The other is the girl who i have a crush on.
For a couple of months now, i have fancied this one girl. I have been taking it slow and just becoming good friends and to know eachother well. This has gone over approx 4 months now, and i was ready to make my next move. My plan was to ask her to go to the cinema with me. She said she wasn't sure and she found out the was going on holiday over the christmas period so that idea was scrapped. It felt like i had gone down a level, if you know what i mean. Over the next 2 or 3 weeks i was being friendly like i usually would thinking of my next 'move'. Then, out of the blue, she ignored me, no explination. When i tried to talk or make contact in anyway, she blanked me out. it remained like this until about 2 days ago. Then, my best friend and the girl i fancie (Not mentioning any names) had a big arguement. I was the one sorting it out, but it got to a stage where it seemed like i was doing more harm then good so i let it calm down and after a while us 3 are talking again. But, me and the girl arn't friends like we used to be. We used to walk home together from school. It's like i was starting this all over again, and i won't do that, as i just did for months! You see, the girl i like had a best friend who went everywhere together. Then, about 76 months ago then had a big fall out and hate the look of eachother. I always sided on my friends side. However, my best friend went off from the girl i fancie to this other girl, and i have never done such a thing. But after siding with her all this time, it still feels like i am back at stage one.
One time we was doing dare's, and i got asked who i fancie. I was honest and said it was in our class. But she guessed every girl except herself. When the question was asked to her she said somebody in a different class and said no more.
But now, a new problem has arrived. My ex-best friend, who i hate now, is hanging around my my crush. It seems like he is 'winning her over'. I have tried many things but it seems too suspicous so i have stopped and come here. I don't know what to do. I need a solution fast. I was to try and ask her but i need to know if she definately likes me before i ask. In my school this gets spread in a day maximum. The whole school knows and it's living in hell. I only want to suffer this if i know it's worth it.

This is the best i can explain it all. It seems confuesing and a lot of writing but i can't explain it all any better than i did.

My question is, what do i do?

Thanks for the help. Please reply as soon as possible.

:)

I understand, one of my friends is going through something very similar.

Just keep trying and ask her - it's better to give it a go than never know.

[GoldenSnitch]

Try to see if you can ask her out before he does