Holy Shit, my friend is way too needy

[R_master]

Obviously this isnt about anything sexual or bf/gf kind of thing but i felt it belongs here since it is a big one (relationship) none the less


ok well im talking to pretty much my best friend that i will call J. well he can be a really fucking emotional and controling person and i feel like he thinks we are married. When i hang out with other friends more then him he gets mad and always wants me to blaze with him when i never do. hes not the brightest kid but im a very understanding person so i can forgive him. I dont even know what i should do anymore because i feel like he was a big part of me alienating myself from alot of old friends. He always gushes his heart out to me and tells me everything.

The more i think about it the more he has influenced me in a way. i never went on msn during lunch before because i was usually with other friends. but now almost every lunch that im not with him i talk with him. This is just the straw that broke the camels back for me. so im just calmly telling him he is being really freaky and controlling and that i will talk to him tommorow when he has a clear head........

what should i do

[paki123]

well do you like your friend?

[R_master]

lol yes i do, he is my friend. but i guess he kind of discusts me somtimes.
(pretty ugly person to look at (no im not being vein :/). I think he is just literally to small minded to understand what he really does or he just has some huge plan to drag me down with him in life...

[paki123]

is he ugly or are you just kidding?

[R_master]

um yeah hes an ugly kid, fat with bad acne, but thats not really relevant..

[Elokyn]

try to go as easy as possible on him. I take it from what you said he's not very popular? He just may be a possesive friend, explain to him that you need other friends too. It's hard for you and that your other friends feelings are getting hurt because he's taking all of your time. He may just not want to lose you as a friend and he doesn't know how to express that. Just try not to hurt his feelings when you tell him (not that I think you would) and if you tell him nicely and he still gets his feelings hurt then you just need to say..I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, but by doing this YOU'RE hurting MINE. You can't let your entire social life revolve around one person. I hope all goes well!! :hug:

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Elokyn