Do you think people REALLY enjoy being Loners?

[Mental]

I don't really see how anyone could enjoy being a full Loner/Lone Wolf and have absolutely no friends, or at least very few non-close ones. I mean, yeah, there's stuff that's cool to do alone, like reading, thinking, videogames, etc. but as humans we're supposed to be very social in nature, so I don't imagine that being alone ALL the time is healthy for your mental state.

I go through phases where I am a Loner, and don't want to really talk to people. I just want to do my work, walk and think alone, etc. but it drives me crazy after a while, as my peers are just something that helps me feel fulfilled.

Some people say they are proud of being Loners, and while I think they do enjoy it mostly, I just can't imagine them loving it deep inside and wanting to stay that way for their life, basically. Friends (including boyfriends/girlfriends) enchance all our experiences in life.. what's better, getting drunk alone or with a few good friends? Is it better to catch a movie alone or with friends? Travelling alone or with friends? Getting in trouble.. alone or with friends? lol.

[Mzor203]

Do you count friend from the internet in this case? Because I have no friends I can name offline, and I'm perfectly fine with it.

[nick]

I don't enjoy being a loner.

[Rainstorm]

I do. I've dealt with friends before, and just gotten hurt in the process. I also like to just be with my thoughts.

[Kitty Purry]

Me personally not knowing how it is to be a loner i would think that most people owuld not enjoy being loners. Its fun to socialize and talk( at laeast for me ) But something could be fun being a loner i guess. But really it is whatever the actual person wants to do.

[Mr. Smithers]

Some people enjoy being by themselves. It's not so much "enjoy", but its what they prefer. They just rather not have friends.

[Aspiringanonymous]

I enjoy being a loner.

There are many things that I feel I cannot experience properly, when I am accompanied by others. Though these are of a different nature than what is found through human companionship, they are no less uplifting and worthwhile.

A solitary life is the ultimate simple life.

That said, I do value insightful discussions with others, engaging in common interests together and the like. In the end, I strive towards a life without attachments.

[2D]

I value my time alone more than my time with friends. Sometimes I tell my friends I'm busy so I can stay home alone at night and just think and relax, it's one of the nicest feelings I've experienced.

That said, I do like being social, but I prefer being alone most of the time.

And I don't have many friends IRL, partly because of my home school background and also because of the tiny Christian school I went to for high school.

Having no baggage is nice as well.

[LunacyFringe]

Being an introvert and asocial, I don't like constantly being surround by people, even if they are people I like.
Being a very self conscious person I find being alone in public very hard to deal with, and having someone else with me, whether a close friend or not helps me cope with the anxiety.

I have been in and out of loner-ship, and while I do find most people irritating and like alone time, I do get sick of my own company and crave human companionship.

[Alfred Pennyworth]

i like it. it's a lot easier than trying to make friends, and most of the time, even though it might help me through stuff, i usually just want people to stay the fuck away, and when they try to get close, I usually push them away anyway. I like being alone. when i am i can just think and cry and do anything without anybody to stop me. usually, i only have 1 good friend who i trust completely

[Hyper]

I have at most 2 people in RL I call ''friend'' and I meet them very rarely. Both live in different cities, both are busy and so on, besides I don't want to meet them that often anyway. I meet my best friend around once or twice a year, sometimes more than that during summers. I meet my other friend maybe once in 3 or 6 months. If we lived closer and they had more time.. I'd probably see them once or twice a week, sometimes once in two weeks.

Online I talk to people and all that, but not sit on MSN or AIM talking to every random dude/girl I've ever had a short conversation with.

Complete isolation, no phone calls, no texting, no online friends.. I like that a lot even with my current life from time to time I like to do it a week or two with 0 human contact, I think it puts other things into perspective.. And yes I could see myself easily living like that, not my whole life but for a period of years certainly.

It puts things into perspective and lets me focus on other things that are ultimately more important for me in my life than for others. Spiritual, philosophical etc.. I do greatly enjoy talking about those things with people but for someone like me its very rare to find a person I consider to be interesting, and that would mean he/she has thought at least as much as I have about the things we discuss and has different viewpoints or conclusions on them..

But in the sense of having a friend I see every day or even a girl friend. No I know I wouldn't like it even if I loved that person... I am the opposite of a passive person and I know contact with someone too often will not be good for me and the relationship with that person. If people are together too often eventually somebody will begin to dominate the relationship (unless both people are of the ''loner'' type but if that's the case they'll understand each other and give each other breaks) and force their will upon the other person, even unknowingly at times and for almost all people on the non-dominant side that will lead to a certain increase in irritability and sort of ''social anxiety''.

Another reason I like the internet, if I'm having a bad day or I just don't feel like talking to someone I wont log on, in RL that's much harder, you'll likely have very few friends you can tell that you need some time alone today, without them feeling touched by it.. And if you start making up bogus excuses they might be discovered and damage or even end a good relationship/friendship.

Once I get a family that will obviously change, but I do not see my future wife being the passive type of person, she would have to be the same type of person to understand why I need this amount of ''privacy'' for short or long periods of time, even if I have a family, obviously in that situation things would be different but the principle would remain the same.

In conclusion of long, probably wrongly structured, wall of text; yes I like being a loner - the only exception for this really is summer, I am far more social during summer simply because everyone has free time and the weather lets you go to the beach :P, but even then I need my loner/complete isolation days.

[Ryhanna]

I don't mind. I mean, i have friends, but it's nice to be different. Yeah, people think I'm weird and antisocial... But I know that I'm not, and thats all that matters.

People can think what they want but just becos they're saying it doesnt mean it's true.

[DrkZ90]

No, I doubt anyone would willingly choose loneliness... I know I wouldn't, I always do my best not to be alone (always failing miserably).

Human beings aren't made to be alone 100% of their time, cause loneliness is where the Grim Reaper awaits.

[Kahn]

Honestly I am, but I am not a loner. I have friends at school but I rarely get out.

I enjoy it though. It gives me time to think. So yeah I guess I enjoy it.

[janjanTRIP_]

Some do, some dont. It depends on the person, and how well they use their time.

This one person, i walk home with her after school if im goign home, i talk to her. she goes home every day after school. i dont think she actually has any close friends. but she dances, horse rides, just fills up her schedule. she seems very happy.

but other people who have nothing to do and no friends, they seem bored.

and also, people may not have friends in real life, but on the internet they make friends. its just like normal friends but you dont actually know what the look like(unless you've seen them on webcam) or know how they sound(unless you've talked on the phone), and yeah.. that does the trick.

the thing is, some people just dont fit in in their school, or whatever. like, its probably not their fault. a lot of people judge, (like, ugly faces, ugly teeth, pimples, weight, ugly clothes, bad hygiene), and they dont stop and talk to them. they dont actually give them a chance. so its unfair to some.

[lucky 13]

it really depends, many people have different reasons....some people have trust issues and the only way to keep from getting hurt is to basically ignore and avoid the thing that will them...or some people actually like to be left to their own thoughts....and some people are just plain boring.....like i said it depends on the person:)

[Art_dude]

I don't really see how anyone could enjoy being a full Loner/Lone Wolf and have absolutely no friends, or at least very few non-close ones. I mean, yeah, there's stuff that's cool to do alone, like reading, thinking, videogames, etc. but as humans we're supposed to be very social in nature, so I don't imagine that being alone ALL the time is healthy for your mental state.

Being a loner doesn't mean complete and total isolation from the world. Relationships and friendships are what make us human, and are a necessary part of being one. However isolation is also an extremely important thing that makes us human.

I go through phases where I am a Loner, and don't want to really talk to people. I just want to do my work, walk and think alone, etc. but it drives me crazy after a while, as my peers are just something that helps me feel fulfilled.


That's great. That's your prerogative. Some people aren't bothered by isolation. Some people are just hardwired to be more social while other are hardwired to be more seclusive.

Some people say they are proud of being Loners, and while I think they do enjoy it mostly, I just can't imagine them loving it deep inside and wanting to stay that way for their life, basically. Friends (including boyfriends/girlfriends) enchance all our experiences in life.. what's better, getting drunk alone or with a few good friends? Is it better to catch a movie alone or with friends? Travelling alone or with friends? Getting in trouble.. alone or with friends? lol.

You probably can't imagine loving it 'deep down inside' because you already explained you're not a loner. You don't have to understand it, some people genuinely like being alone. However I agree, there are some experiences in life that, when with a friend, are experienced to a higher level. Being homeschooled, I often don't see or talk to more than three people through out my entire week. I enjoy not being in a classroom setting with tons of people. I can't say that I really have more than one or two friends that aren't online and I'm happy with that. As a Buddhist it is important for me to live life without attachments, and being a semi 'loner' helps that.

[karl]

Of course there's a big difference between being alone and lonely. I like being alone sometimes, but I'd really go crazy if I had no friends and I was lonely

[TAC1]

No one likes to be lonely..but there are people that want to be left alone in the sense of not being bothered. Many times when people are lonely is when society doesn't accept them for who they are. It's up to us to break that loneliness with others.

[woody92]

I dont mind if I am a loner or not. I dont have many friends, I dont care if anyone calls me names, and stuff like that. Why? Well becuase I have had name calling all my life and now I just get on with what I have to do. I also go by the saying: "Sticks and stones will breake your bones but names will never hurt me" This saying has helped me all my life LOL!

[Nelson]

I enjoy being alone yes, but im not a loner, i use my alone time at school to consider what im going to do later, or sort out fights in my mind, although i love a good conversation with mates, somedays its just "nope fuck off, i dont want to speak" they understand and i love it

[Frankenstein's Bride]

I personally prefer being alone but i do sometimes like my friend's company. I just feel better being on my own.

[cherry_boi]

no, i think people can become accustomed to it... but when it comes down to it everyone wants to be loved and feel needed, and would choose loving companionship over solitude.

everyone needs space and time spent alone on occasion--no one likes to be around people 100% of the time.... but i took the thread starteds question in an ultimatum kind of scenario

[Contra]

I think that people enjoy being lonely for a while, but not always. When they say they do, it's because they're lying. Even though you can be happy alone and doing things alone, you can be happier with friends.

[woody92]

I think that people enjoy being lonely for a while, but not always. When they say they do, it's because they're lying. Even though you can be happy alone and doing things alone, you can be happier with friends.

True but some of us (Me) choose to be alone because I dont like to relate with others, thats the way I am and if you ddont beleive it then that your problem. But I know that I prefer to be alone and actualy get things done (if its school work or just writting a letter), I get all my stuff done faster and more effectively.
I am not saying your wrong in what your saying because some people do like to have just a bit of time alone but I dont.
No hard feelings! I dont want to offend you by comenting on your posts, I just want to give mny opinion on what I think about some of what you have said:D

[Contra]

No hard feelings! I dont want to offend you by comenting on your posts, I just want to give mny opinion on what I think about some of what you have said:D

No hard feelings at all! :P

[woody92]

No hard feelings at all! :P

Cool! your great did you know that! REP+

[Jenna.]

I think it depends on the person. I'm kind of a loner. I have a pretty close group friends and a boyfriend, but I really only hang out with one or two of them at a time. I think mine is more of a social anxiety thing. I don't really like large groups of people - I feel overwhelmed after a while. But I'm fine with it. I have trust issues, and there are only like one or two people I could tell anything to but I'd rather have it that way because I honestly don't want six or seven people knowing my deepest, darkest secrets. There's more of a chance of it accidentally slipping out to more people that way, you know? I wouldn't say I'm a full out loner, but I like to be alone sometimes just to think about stuff & whatnot.

[Inconvenience]

nobody can enjoy being a loner. People say they enjoy it just to cover themselves. some use to say they feel good without friends and it's a big lie, it's said just to cover how week and sensitive they are deep down.

i cant be without friends. and i'm lucky i've got ones who would do everything for me. i love the, and i'm loved back. and i'm happy to be the way i am

[Art_dude]

nobody can enjoy being a loner. People say they enjoy it just to cover themselves. some use to say they feel good without friends and it's a big lie, it's said just to cover how week and sensitive they are deep down.

i cant be without friends. and i'm lucky i've got ones who would do everything for me. i love the, and i'm loved back. and i'm happy to be the way i am

With all due respect, you're sounding like an ass. I don't know if it was your intention but you're coming across that way.

I enjoy solitude - that doesn't mean I'm 'weak.' And it's not a cover up. It may be for some, but that doesn't mean that's true for everybody. Maybe you feel the need to be surrounded by people to feel loved or to be happy but that doesn't mean others do. Please don't take this as reactive - I'm not trying to be rude, I'm just trying to explain how I feel.

[Hatsune Miku]

I don't enjoy it, but I prefer it. I don't really have any friends in real life. I've gotten used to it.

[nepats]

I'm anything but a loner but sometimes I just wanna be a lone wolf

[Cynic]

I would definitely call myself a loner. And I would definitely say I enjoy it, too. Although I do have friends that I talk to, I don't like face-to-face conversing as much as texting or chatting on the Internet. I always try to be alone in my house. Probably because everyone else is annoying.

[shoeboxluv]

I'm the type of person that would rather be home on a Saturday night watching Family Guy reruns than out partying and getting wasted. I like to have a good time don't get me wrong, but I don't like to get crazy and out of hand.

I like spending time with the few friends I have. I have never been one to have lots of friends. I have my small group and thats all I need.

But, I love my alone time. I'm an artist. I write/sketch/paint and I can only do that when I'm alone.

[Watchfulness]

I am quite an introvert and I am fond of it.
It is all in personality and preferences. I desire to be alone most of the times, I rarely make friends.
The only acquaintances I accpet is those who understand the world in its truest form and can express logical mannerisms.

I take interest in consolation in the darkness while thinking.

[mrct]

We all need friends

[ZzKingz]

As long as I have the internet and a few hobbies, I'm a happy loner :)

[Kaius]

I prefer being alone now to be honest. Im used to it, plus im quite self sufficient. I don't trust many people, nor like to rely on anyone other than myself.

[asking95]

i hate it, if i dont talk or go out with one of my friend from more than 1 day i go crazy, i nee human contact all the time. i love hang with friend even when im mad or upset i always wont a friend or someone to be there.

[Joshrofl]

I Enjoy being a loner, i generally hate people who i don't know, unless they try to talk to me, then i will be friendly towards them.

[TakeMyHand]

It depends, sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. Usually I don't but I get too paranoid when talking to people to ever get really close to anyone. I've been trying to change that lately.

[1_21Guns]

I think people become so used to it, they think they enjoy it. But I don't think people really enjoy it. I have to admit, I prefer being alone because its easier, but its also more difficult to not have anyone to physically talk to sometimes.

[Hatsune Miku]

I already posted on here but I changed my mind. I don't really enjoy being a loner. It gets to me a lot. Being Alone all the time. Always staying at home doing Nothing. I just wish I could get out sometimes and do something. But i don't really have any friends to do anything with.

[Jess]

I'm kinda a loner...

[overcome.]

I have many friends, but I do isolate myself. It's a choice for me right now. I prefer my own company. I know right now I'm not always in the best mindset to be around people, so I'm preferring to stay away. I like it this way right now, otherwise I wouldn't have it this way.

[songboy]

some people like to be by them selves

[Sogeking]

Well i dont have many friends but it cant be helped i dont talk that much im nt very social i dont get invited to anything. though being alone is nice i do appreciate a few close friends to just hangout and chat.

[AnimeLover1991]

I am a loner as well, and to be honest I hate it. I have always wondered how it would be like to have a lot of friends that support me. All I have is 3 good friends that I talk to a lot, and that's it, and I barely ever see them as 2 are still in school and the other is back in Michigan. I feel worthless and stupid because I don't have many friends.

[Drekkin]

You shouldn't feel worthless for not having many friends, 'cause you still have the ones that are still close...And there's one good thing about school...it's its own community, and there are a lot of people that could use a friend too.

I used to be a loner in middle-school, which wound up hittting me really hard when I entered high school. It was really messed up, now that I think of it, and I hated it. I did manage to make many friends to remember now...and thanks to a few I kind of got over that shyness I used to have.

I guess you kind of have to overcome that shyness in order for you to meet new people.

[steve1234]

Most of my teenage life, I have been trying to socialise more and try to become more popular and a better person to be around.
But, after a lot of experience, I seem to enjoy my own company compared to friends. BUT I dont enjoy being a COMPLETE loner, as I have some good friends who I like to talk to and go out with often.

[Jess]

sometimes I don't want to be a loner but I end up that anyways :/ It's not fun

[Kaius]

Don't bump old threads :locked: