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lesher
January 20th, 2010, 02:52 AM
Well, this had been happening since my early teenage year (even today)

Every time I'm in my class, I just sit down silently, and strangely enough, everyone seems to be talking with each other, except to me. They seemed to be hanging out together, but again, I'm not in it at all.
I just feel that something is wrong, either it's me or them....

Well this is who I am:
- I'm extremely bad at chit-chatting, especially because I'm not interested in daily schoollife topic, such as: movie, music, going out, etc2 (in fact, if I were to have chit-chat with someone, I always ran out of something to say)
- Most of my friends said that I frown a lot (although IMO I'm not smiling nor frowning)
- I often don't say goodbye to people (except I can't avoid them) and go quietly

If something IS wrong with me, how do I actually fix it...?

Mr. Smithers
January 20th, 2010, 06:47 AM
No, nothing is wrong with you. You are just probably really shy. Don't feel like you have to act different, or do something to fit in. Just stay positive. If you see somebody interesting go up and talk to them. Become friends with them. Don't feel as though you need to be social, always talking about movies and television, because not everyone is like that.

Mainly, just don't feel as though your crazy because you have trouble talking to people. There are many people that have trouble talking to people. Just don't mix yourself so you can be liked. Just be yourself. If you can't make conversation with those people then you shouldn't be friends with them.

DrkZ90
January 20th, 2010, 05:49 PM
I would suggest trying to say goodbye when you are leaving... is just to be polite, and to let others know you are leaving for whatever reason, otherwise it will look like the conversation just made you upset for unknown reasons...

lesher
January 20th, 2010, 10:16 PM
You are just probably really shy.
You think so? Some of my friend even called me "unique" and "weird", but never said "shy"

If you can't make conversation with those people then you shouldn't be friends with them.
Sadly, my only familiar topic is maths, physics, scientific theories, old or unusual video games (not porn), or mainly something that people wouldn't normally discuss/talk about in life...

I would suggest trying to say goodbye when you are leaving... is just to be polite, and to let others know you are leaving for whatever reason, otherwise it will look like the conversation just made you upset for unknown reasons...
Well, often when I tried to say goodbye to them, they seemed to ignore it... Which eventually makes me stop saying goodbye to them

Kahn
January 20th, 2010, 10:30 PM
Honestly I would rather sit there in thought than talk. I feel it builds wisdom, something that in today's society many people lack.

Anyway back on topic. There is nothing wrong with you. I do the same thing. Usually put my head down and sleep because I already know what we are learning about.

IF there is something wrong with you, just talk to people. You need to be ruthless. You know you want to be social so be social. It isn't that hard. Just put in a little effort.

Mr. Smithers
January 21st, 2010, 12:50 AM
You think so? Some of my friend even called me "unique" and "weird", but never said "shy"

I don't think that you are weird. Your friends might think you're weird because of the way you act. Maybe a crazy way of saying shy.

Sadly, my only familiar topic is maths, physics, scientific theories, old or unusual video games (not porn), or mainly something that people wouldn't normally discuss/talk about in life...

I'm pretty sure that there are people at your school that enjoy talking about studies. Don't feel that hope is lost. Just be yourself, don't try to act different just to fit in.

Mental
January 21st, 2010, 06:49 PM
To be honest it's rare to find someone who would want to talk about Maths/Physics/Science in their general conversations.. perhaps a one-off random debate, but not in general. I like Maths/Physics and such, but I couldn't see myself wanting to talk about them all the time.

Old/unusual videogames.. well lots of people love old games. How old? Ping Pong? NES?
N64? PS1? PS2? Any way, there'll be someone who does like them.

What about music? There's people who like all sorts of music. Rock, metal, rap, dance, whatever..

And I know this sounds girly, but what about gossip? I don't mean the "OMG you'll never guess what Bob did!", but talking about people in general. Teachers, parents, this person, that person. I don't backstab anyone (if I do - they know what I think of them anyway so it isn't backstabbing), but I find myself talking about people a lot.

lesher
January 22nd, 2010, 12:27 AM
Old/unusual videogames.. well lots of people love old games. How old? Ping Pong? NES?
N64? PS1? PS2? Any way, there'll be someone who does like them.
Well... In fact, sometime I do play NES games (but because of Vista OS, it makes everything harder for playing old DOS games)

What about music? There's people who like all sorts of music. Rock, metal, rap, dance, whatever..
I don't really like music, even if I do, I usually listen to game soundtracks (PC, PlayStation, any games)

And I know this sounds girly, but what about gossip? I don't mean the "OMG you'll never guess what Bob did!", but talking about people in general. Teachers, parents, this person, that person. I don't backstab anyone (if I do - they know what I think of them anyway so it isn't backstabbing), but I find myself talking about people a lot.
Well... Since ppl rarely talk to me, I don't really know wth is going on between them...
Even if I do know and talk to someone (I mean gossiping), the talking would be about several minute and then silence will come again. So it's pretty much not useful for me :(

2D
January 22nd, 2010, 12:46 AM
Practice makes perfect, talk to people more and you'll get batter at it. Put yourself in positions out of your comfort zone and have self-confidence that you'll get out of it. Shoot, you don't even need confidence, just look like you know what you're doing and talking about.

Apparitions
January 22nd, 2010, 10:30 PM
Well, this had been happening since my early teenage year (even today)

Every time I'm in my class, I just sit down silently, and strangely enough, everyone seems to be talking with each other, except to me. They seemed to be hanging out together, but again, I'm not in it at all.
I just feel that something is wrong, either it's me or them....

Well this is who I am:
- I'm extremely bad at chit-chatting, especially because I'm not interested in daily schoollife topic, such as: movie, music, going out, etc2 (in fact, if I were to have chit-chat with someone, I always ran out of something to say)
- Most of my friends said that I frown a lot (although IMO I'm not smiling nor frowning)
- I often don't say goodbye to people (except I can't avoid them) and go quietly

If something IS wrong with me, how do I actually fix it...?
I'm sort of like you. I'm a shy person and I don't talk a lot. I run out of stuff to talk about sometimes as well but that's just the way I am. You can't help it and there isn't anything wrong with it. I think I frown as well.

EDIT: I don't think you can help it as it is your personality. I might be wrong though.

lesher
January 24th, 2010, 10:39 PM
Well at least, it feels good to know there are some people that's similar to myself :)