AverageS
January 19th, 2010, 11:59 PM
Well, I have a little problem. Unlike most of the people I know who are my age, I actually want to see a girl because I like her, not just because I think shes "so hot" as many people I know would put it. (I actually have a thread going into more detail about that in mental crisis forum, but thats another story) I don't have a problem talking to girls normally, like ones I'm just friends with it's like talking to anyone else. The girl I've been interested in though, I guess I could say I'm actually scared to start a conversation. Every once in a while she'll randomly start talking to me, and then the conversation flows relatively smoothly, but this isn't in person. The closest to in person would be when she called me one time kind of out of the blue. I was so shocked when she did I didn't have much to say, I just kind of went through some basic responses to everything she said. The next night she called again with her friend, and I was a little less surprised but still awkward. I was so frustrated with myself about how much of a loser I was on the phone that all I could think about was being warmer/friendlier when she called the next night. Well, she never did. I felt sort of disappointed, but I just ignored it. I started a facebook conversation with her, which even something so simple felt awkward for me. The most talk we really had after that is I'd send a random, really stupid text message occasionally, but it wouldn't really lead anywhere. The past 6 months I have admired her from afar. Well, this past weekend she wanted to know if I had gone to a game (big local rivalry, people typically go) because she wanted to come say hi and hang out. Well, of course I didn't go because I didn't think anyone would be there, so that chance went out the window. I told her we'd just have to meet up sometime soon at another place, and she said that sounded cool. Well, now I'm not sure what to do. She started a little facebook conversation with me late sunday, and it went on a good 20 minutes before we both decided we were going to bed. Since she's being so friendly I figure I need to be the same back, but I just don't know what to say. I guess since I really like her I'm over analyzing it, and she's just looking at it as nothing, but I dont know how to talk to her. I feel like if I talk to her with just some text message or anything (dont want to just randomly call her when we dont talk that much, so a text or facebook chat would be easier on me) that she will just think I'm a creep and not want anything to do with me. Should I just go ahead and talk to her and try to find some more common ground we can stand on? I'm just not really sure what to do, but I'm sure anything would be better then me sitting here feeling like an idiot and making some bozo move that makes her think I'm a creep. I know, I'm bad at this whole thing :whoops: I just don't have much experience, if any