I told my friend?

[Fiction]

My boyfriend found out about my self harming on saturday. i didn't tell him he found out. he was te first person to know. I told my friend because she had already pretty much guessed. She had outright asked me if i slit. I told her i didn't. The next day i decided to tell her as i knew she had done this before and had gone through the same thing.

She also told me that she had told another girl in our class about her concerns although nothing too bad.

Today my friend dragged me in the toilets to spray disinfectant stuff all over my arm (where my injuries where). Of course two girls going into the same cubicle. .you can imagine waht people where saying.
Later i got asked my the girl who my friend had said things too why we went in the toilet together. I said to spray disinfectant. She asks where and i said my arm. She then asked me if i slit. I told her i would tell her later as my little sister was next to me. SO was one of my other friends and now she thinks i do aswell. I really don't want people to know. how can i save this situation and make those people believe that i don't?

Please please please help me. The last thing i need is gossip.

[laurita_21]

wow i know how you feel. This happened to me once, kinda, but someone just said it as a joke... anyways i did have cuts down my arm and if someone asked i use to say "how could you even think that about me?" it kinda worked because they always said sorry. Any ways, if it turns into gossip and evryone knows just say its not true and some one made it up because you said something silly or i dunoo?
gd luck ! xx

[Asylum]

well... well others ask.... make an excuse... don't tel them you cut... otheriwse they will gossip. however if you want to clean up the gossip? well the best thing to do is to cover up your cuts!! do'nt show them or tell people unless you trust them they will keep it to htemselves.... wear long sleeves.... arm warmers...bandaids... make excuses... because the more people who find out the more they will tell.... and then they will tell aults who will tell pareents.. however if you have a problem you shouldseek help... good luck

[Fiction]

I don't cut, i burn. this means many of the normal excuses like "i fell in a bush" don't work :(

[HeroesAndCons]

its absolutly no buisness of theirs if u slit or not
the only ones you can tell it to is people u are ready to tell
if they see your scars and ask what happened just say "its a long story"
hope this helps
Xx

[georgiamay]

this happened to me aswell 2 years ago when i did self-harmed... i wore a bandage to hide the scares, but everyone was like "how can you lean on it and still do karate if you have a bad arm?" and i didn't have an answer for them, so i just ignored it, even though it really hurt me. they kept having a go at me for a while, and when i say they, i mean the whole year, saying i was an "emo" and stuff, and they took the piss for a few weeks. but after a while, they all forgot about it, because i kept saying it was just a rumor, and i think it took a few weeks for them to forget, so just deny it until if people gossip. only let your CLOSEST friends know, the ones you know won't tell anyone.

just don't give in to these people if gossip starts, that's all i can say really, i hope it was some help. :/

[munchausen]

Well you pretty much know I'm in the same spot as you right now, if you find a way to avoid gossip can you let me know?

That's 8 people now.

[Fiction]

I told them that "disinfectant" was a code name for a boy she was texting and she wanted to show me the text in private. I'm scared again tho now because my freind fell out with me and pretty much hates me now...why would she lie and keep secrets for me now? -_-

[georgiamay]

I told them that "disinfectant" was a code name for a boy she was texting and she wanted to show me the text in private. I'm scared again tho now because my freind fell out with me and pretty much hates me now...why would she lie and keep secrets for me now? -_-

If she's even a half descent person she should keep your secret for you, but if she doesn't, just say that she's spreading it to get back at you and its just a rumor... i can't say if it will work, but hopefully it will, it's all i can think of. people should forget about it eventually if you just continously deny it. i mean, there are tones of rumors going round my school, and they're all forgotten within a few weeks normally.

i hope this helps in some way :confused:

[Aspiringanonymous]

If they're going to gossip, they will do so regardless of how strongly you defend your case. In fact, the greater your reaction, the more it fuels their suspicions.

Try to ignore it, or at the very least, appear as if you are not affected.

Strange things happen unsuspectingly, and it's unfortunate, but since we are not able to change the actions of others, there is only the option of finding an effective approach to the situation. Like all things, so long as it is not repeatedly provoked, the rumors will die out.

Remember, that you are not at fault for what happened. If she chose to end the friendship and sabotage your reputation, that's her choice after all - and who knows for what exact reasons. It doesn't matter now, unless you still wish to regain her confidence, in which the best approach would be to confront her directly.

All the best to you.