privacy

[Billy15]

i dont know if this is the right place to put this but dont you think that guys our age should have privacy? i mean isnt that a part of getting older and being trusted and shouldnt parents know about stuff like that? I got my own room so i guess thats cool but like our computer is my parents and its out in the open so i never really have privacy to talk like i want and thats why i usually get on when they got to bed because then i can be myself. i think getting older sucks because they still treat me like a kid. is it like that at your houses or am i the only one

[Mr. Smithers]

Yes I know exactly how you feel. I am never treated fairly. But I have to understand that it's my parents house and whatever they say goes. Just the same if I were to have children I would have to make rules for them because I am in charge of the house.

As for your question, you can ask your parents if you do chores or homework if you can have computer time or a computer schedule. If that fails, you will have to use the computer at the library or at school. I know you feel that you have no privacy and aren't treated right, but your parents have the right to take away your privacy I'm afraid.

[confusedand14]

I have a laptop, and we have wireless. But i know what you mean, and i think I would die if it was that way at my house.

[JustNcross]

Dude i feel your pain, i have to share a bedroom with my bro. Luckily, hes a heavy sleeper.

But mostly i only J/o when my parents arent home, or i just do it at night though. But i agree we need our privacy.

[guy1234]

well you do deserve to get more privacy as you get older

buttttt its to your parents jurisdiction

[Fruit_Tart.]

yeah i totally feel you... right now im typing in the living room. moms asleep and sis is watching tv. i jus wish every kidd could jus get a say in wat they can do... but thats not going to happen. *sigh* oh well.

[Gavin]

Hmmm.. I never had privacy till i got abit older in my late teens.

I always had to share a room with my younger/older brother..so yeah i think privacy is more important when you reach puberty, and all the changes that come with that etc

[Jesusb]

Everyone deserves and needs privacy specially at this age

[Rainstorm]

Yes, I know most teenagers would want privacy as they go through puberty. But, by not giving you privacy, your parents are, in a way, looking out for you.

We're teenagers, and we're obviously going to be looking at stuff and doing stuff we shouldn't be doing. It's nature for us. And, this stuff can be dangerous. I mean, even in this forum, there could be 50 year old pedophiles lying about their age to get please over our simple questions. Your parents are just looking out for you making sure your safe.

[tom8567]

yeah i have a laptop and everything, but my parents wont let me use it in my room D: they wont even let me lock my door, so i have very little privacy. i respect them and everything but i wanna have a little more freedom lol

[Giles]

I do agree that teens should have more privacy as they get older, but I wouldn't expect to be just left to get on with whatever it is that you want to do. Expecting privacy won't get you anywhere, you should earn your parents trust first then maybe ask for a laptop - or a lock for the door or something.

I'm lucky because my room is on the top floor of a three floor house so I can hear anyone coming and 'arrange stuff' to make it look as though I'm doing homework.

[BlackBetty]

I kind of understand where you are coming from. I have my own computer and room so I don't know what you mean there.

Different teens think that we don't really need privacy. If my parents were cool with it, I would do what ever. But I don't think they would fly for it. :)

[StraightAcE]

yes we should have more privacy

[Alex17]

Dude you think you got it bad just listen to this. I'm 17 I'll be 18 in 3 months and my parents still make me tell them everywhere I go and I had both of my computers taken away 2 years ago because my dad is a homophobe and he found gay porn on my computer. I use my I touch now to access this site every night. Everytime I come hone I have to tell them when I get home even if it's like 11 at night and their asleep. Also if I make below a c I get grounded. My car has a gps device in it so that they can track where I am at all times, how fast I go in my car, etc. Also all of my grades are available for my parents to view online at anytime and they can see if I'm tardy to any of my classes and they can see if I showed up to class or not. This is just at my dads house. My moms house on the other hand, I get sooo much freedom that I will intentionally do good things because she treats me with respect and gives me that freedom. O don't do that for my dad. He's a dic and so I treat him that way. Also, since I smoke, they will go out to my car and search it and smell it to see if I ayec been smoking or not. My cell phone doesn't have a camera or anything on it so I can't picture message anyone cause my dad caught me sexting my "friend with benefits". Plus, they randomly come into my room to go through it. That's just a little piece of the whole DAM pie!!!

[Bric]

You all are complaining, but u don't know how lucky you are
I'm 14 and i haven't got my own bedroom yet (i have a brother...)

i've already told my parents that if i don't get my own room until January 2011 i'll move to my grandma's house

[hiker1992]

You will be treated like a kid until the day you die. They're your parents, bud, they'll always want to watch out for you, and giving you a lack of privacy is their way of doing it! Haha, it sucks, but you have to at least try to see an iota of their perspective. You're still pretty young, in the grand scheme of things, and as much as you feel you deserve privacy, and deserve independence, the truth is you wouldn't be able to function very well without them. You're lucky to have them, regardless.

If you have an issue with their tactics, I'd suggest asking them directly. Be calm though! Things can escalate quickly if one is quick to anger. Just kind of, ease them into it, explain in full detail your perspective, and maybe they'll understand! Don't underestimate the compassion of your parents.

[Billy15]

i know i probably shouldnt complain because they do love me and i know they want to protect me and i also read where some of you guys even have it worse then me but im discovering myself, i think im gay, my parents are homophobic, this town hates gays and finally i found this place (VT) and im finally starting to feel normal because so many kids here are like me and im making great friends and then my mom reads a yahoo log from me talking to someone i like on here and now i have to hide everything i care about.

i wouldnt care about sharing a room with my brother or my parents not wanting me to look at porn and stuff like that but just about the time i start to figure myself out and start to feel half way normal and happy, now i got to deny everything and hide who i am and i even have to wait until they go to bed just to get on here to talk about stuff so they wont snoop.

i know some of you guys told me to talk to them but you dont understand because i cant and if i did i know they will never ever accept gay and will probably feel different about me so i hide who i am and what i am and it hurts really bad because now i feel all alone again.

here at VT i feel alive and accepted and i get answers and can figure myself out. here i meet friends and people i like and care about but anything that is important to me and anything that helps me and makes me feel normal i got to hide from everybody and that is what i mean in my post.

[enzenzz]

you can use a flash drive and use portable versions of web browsers and IM that way you won't leave a trace of your activities.

as for them knowing and you telling the truth, well that all depends on your parents and it seems like you really know how they would react. I wouldn't bring it up if i know how they would take it. I guess you just have to wait until you can move out and be yourself fully.

[MrMan]

William, just remeber you are their kid and the love you as you said your self, I can tell you they will be cross at you at first but will except it in a couple of weeks time, as I said you are their kid and the love you more then you will ever know, ask me the same type of thing happende in our family couple of years ago and I must say my father were against gay etc as he was in the army but his whole lookout has changed as he has said it is his child and he just can not write that of ya only you can decide,

[Giles]

i've already told my parents that if i don't get my own room until January 2011 i'll move to my grandma's house

Mature... the reason you don't have your own room is probably because your parents can't afford a big enough house... Pointing that out won't make them feel very good.

[Zanra]

Billy, i feel the exact same way. my mom is very protective and snoopy but she loves me dearly. i have to be very stealthy about my bisexuality because, even thought she knows, its still unnexcepted at my house. so Billy, let it wait out and everything will fall into place, trust me buuddy :)

[Carfreakjack]

i believe that we should get privacy its a part of growing up

[AlwaysConfused]

i believe its erryones right to hav privacy! i tell ya if my mother/father barge in my room while im dressing again (and the doors lockd) im gonna go nutz

[Obscene Eyedeas]

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