oh just fuck it all

[ZeroSum]

any post-breakup advices?i had a long distance relationship for 3 fucking years.we saw each other on three occasions.last time we spent the whole night together.few days after we broke up so to say.he said it's just a pause.i suggested it actually cause i thought he just wanted a perfect opportunity to fuck me off.and i gave him one.and he didn't use it.and i was almost 100% sure he wanted to break up.but he didn't.he said he needed a pause.now i'm freaking paranoid.we don't talk anymore really.he sends a message every now and then just to check if i'm alive i guess.i still think he just waits till i tell him i'm alright.so he can fuck me off without feeling guilty or whatever.anyway.i'm crazy when i'm alone.i started self harming again.after three yrs.cant concentrate on anything.when i have people around me i'm fine.cause i don't think of him or anything.but when i'm alone.i just feel pathetic and shitty.and alone.i had someone since i started thinking basically and now i'm all alone.kind of.i know i have friends and all.but he was like a hideout or smtng.i dont know.i actually feel better after writing this.and another thing came with this.since the day we spent the night together.i haven't felt any sexual arousal.i had few erections but nothing sexual.like my libido's dead.ever had that one before:D?it's actually not that bad.but still.i'm 16 yrs old.i guess i should be horny 24/7 more less.

[blingibong]

hmm it sounds like u should talk to him and sort stuff out or see someone else about it... its not good to keep it in u
like that sooo for the last bit yeah kind of u shuld be but .... not all r i am kinda but not realliii

[2D]

Get over him I suppose. You have friends; put yourself out there for another guy. And about the other problem, I'm guessing it's normal.

[CuriousDestruction]

personally i'm against long term relationships, especially if you can only see them once a year! but in any case i recommend talking to him. if you really still like him, find a way to see him more. if not, i agree with motormouth, put yourself out there for another guy. you deserve a guy that doesn't see you just to fuck you off. as for the other problem, often emotional shock, however brief, can affect your sexual and emotional feelings. these feelings should pass soonish, especially if you get over the shock. in the mean time, spend a lot of time with friends since that seems to help. and try to stop cutting, its unhealthy and won't help you in the long term.

[BiBoy13]

I think you should talk to him and try and sort things out.... it's not good to keep things bottled up

[anime Freak]

therapy dude... it helps..... i know........ well not you situation...... but therapy helped me out a lot

[jess_undead]

Focus on making yourself happy for a while. You dont need anybody else yet. You should get over him and stop with the cutting. Things are hard, but it will help if you stop.

As for the sex, certain types of pain can make it diminish. That's normal, happens to everyone at some point. Dont worry, it'l come back. You're not broken ;)