i sorta cheated, but didnt technically, im confused

[thedudeman]

ok so this girl ive been hanging out with as friends with benefits(i posted about her before), and we havnt made a commitment or anything, but i like her a decent amount, anyway, today this girl im old friends w. came over, and she ended up blowing me, i feel like crap, but i dont know if i should, this girl that i like isnt really even my gf, id never do it again, but i just feel like crap, should i try and forget about it since were technically not in a relationship and still in the dating stage? or what?

[zoom zoom]

sure your not really dating her, but if you really want to be true to her you wouldnt really go with a other girl, and use her as a side note. so i see why you feel like crap. so do you think you will tell her?

[underoath12192]

That's why "friend with benefits" never really works out. I wouldn't just "forget about it" though. Be truthful to your first girl if you think you're going to date her. You wouldn't want this to come up way later on and ruin something.

[thedudeman]

actually not my first girl, maybe i should tell her, shell probably be a little quiet and then hopefully get over it, since shes told me about other guys shes messed around with all the time

[Sapphire]

Honesty is the best policy so you should tell her. Since you aren't officially an item, it should be fine.

[Englishrose]

Friends with benefits never works out in the long run, it just creates problems because the line that is usually so distinct in relationships about what you can and can't do becomes blurred. It's just not the best kind of relationship to go into.

However, in this case, the best thing to do is to just not mention it to her. People are probably going to disagree with me, but you's aren't in a relationship, and while you probably shouldn't of done what you did, your going to just have to forget about it and not mention it, it would just cause problems.

But, and a big but, if the two girls ever have a chance of meeting and talking tell her, if you don't and the above happens your in trouble, more trouble than if you don't tell her know.

Just going to have to use your own judgement since I don't know what the exact situation is or what either girl is like.

[thedudeman]

Friends with benefits never works out in the long run, it just creates problems because the line that is usually so distinct in relationships about what you can and can't do becomes blurred. It's just not the best kind of relationship to go into.

However, in this case, the best thing to do is to just not mention it to her. People are probably going to disagree with me, but you's aren't in a relationship, and while you probably shouldn't of done what you did, your going to just have to forget about it and not mention it, it would just cause problems.

But, and a big but, if the two girls ever have a chance of meeting and talking tell her, if you don't and the above happens your in trouble, more trouble than if you don't tell her know.

Just going to have to use your own judgement since I don't know what the exact situation is or what either girl is like.

to late i already told her, and theres absolutely no chance of her finding out, because the girl i messed with is absolutely horrfied of people knowing she even does stuff like this,

so she said(the girl i like), its deffinately a turn off, but who am i to tell you what you can and cant do
that sounds really really bad, i think i just fucked myself over=/

[Sapphire]

so she said(the girl i like), its deffinately a turn off, but who am i to tell you what you can and cant do
that sounds really really bad, i think i just fucked myself over=/
Let me get my head around this a mo...She tells you about the other guys she's gone with while you have been friends with benefits and that's fine. But when you mention that you've been with one other girl it's a huge turn off. Is that what's gone on or have I got my wires crossed?

[thedudeman]

Let me get my head around this a mo...She tells you about the other guys she's gone with while you have been friends with benefits and that's fine. But when you mention that you've been with one other girl it's a huge turn off. Is that what's gone on or have I got my wires crossed?

they were guys shed been with before me, this was a girl i was with when we were starting to hang out again

[Sapphire]

It sounds like she feels more for you than merely friends (with benefits or without) but she also appears to recognise that you aren't an item so she can't tell you that you can't go with other people.
I think sitting her down and talking with her about your relationship such as it is would be a good step tbh.

[SmileyGirl]

I say 4get about it as long as ur friend with "benefits" understands that they r just a friend w/"benefits".

[thedudeman]

I say 4get about it as long as ur friend with "benefits" understands that they r just a friend w/"benefits".

its already done, she doesnt wanna have shit to do with me now

[Gumleaf]

my normal personal policy on cheating is that as soon as you think about whether you have cheated or not, you probably have in your heart. but your case is different because you aren't actually together. i really don't think you are obliged to tell her about it, but if you want a relationship with her, then you need to be open and honest and in that case i would tell her.

[Jenna.]

This is why friends with benefits is never a good idea. Well I'd be honest with her, she might be mad at first (I would :/... Just a girl's honest opinion) but maybe over time she'll forgive you and value your honesty and give you another chance.