Do I have the right?

[Quick_Sylver]

Do I have the right to flinch when my brother touches me? I mean, I remember everything he's done to me, but do I have the right to?

He forced me to suck him, he tried to have sex with me once, he did so much that if I told you some of them you'd share my nightmares. He's still controlling me, like he did when I was a kid. And I'm letting him. Only I can't stop myself. I'm trying to survive. It's like my urge to run. I'm trying to survive, so I'm keeping quiet. When I admit that he abused me sexually, I'm going to have to worry about my safety day and night. That is, unless he gets tried as an adult, which I doubt will happen. He'll be tried as a minor and sentenced as a minor as he was one when he did it.

Do I have the right to flinch? I love my brother, so do I?

[nick]

Yes you have the right. I've said it before, but guys like this make me totally ashamed of my sex. So sorry you've had these experiences.

[LunacyFringe]

Of course you do! He may be your brother but what he's doing is wrong and no good can come of it. You can't let this go on until you've lost all trace of self-confidence and traumatised beyond repair. Don't lose hope. There is a way out, you just have to hold on to your self worth and think for yourself.

[TheKingDavis]

Tootsiepop (i know you changed your name, but you'll always be my tootsiepop) Im so sorry for what happened. Sexual abuse is something that should never have to be experienced. I know you love your brother, but what he did was wrong, and i think its time to speak up. If you dont, who knows, maybe he will do it to your little sister? or someone else.

If you ever need me, im always here.

[DaretoFallup]

Absolutely, you have the right. Everything he has done to you is wrong. You may love him, but no one deserves to go through what you have with your brother. Your brother shouldn't have done any of that to you. He doesn't have the right to sexually abuse you, and you certainly have the right to flinch.

[Quick_Sylver]

Of course you do! He may be your brother but what he's doing is wrong and no good can come of it. You can't let this go on until you've lost all trace of self-confidence and traumatised beyond repair. Don't lose hope. There is a way out, you just have to hold on to your self worth and think for yourself.

I know I'm traumatized. Only for me to seek help, there'd be an inquiry into my home, and my sister and I possibly taken from our parents. I do not want that to happen.

Tootsiepop (i know you changed your name, but you'll always be my tootsiepop) Im so sorry for what happened. Sexual abuse is something that should never have to be experienced. I know you love your brother, but what he did was wrong, and i think its time to speak up. If you dont, who knows, maybe he will do it to your little sister? or someone else.

If you ever need me, im always here.

He won't come near my little sister. I confronted him about it last night when my mom went to bed. I told him if he did it to her I'd kill him. He told me he didn't and wouldn't. From there things went from bad to worse.

Absolutely, you have the right. Everything he has done to you is wrong. You may love him, but no one deserves to go through what you have with your brother. Your brother shouldn't have done any of that to you. He doesn't have the right to sexually abuse you, and you certainly have the right to flinch.

Thankyou

Yes you have the right. I've said it before, but guys like this make me totally ashamed of my sex. So sorry you've had these experiences.

Thankyou

[Sapphire]

I'm sorry that you are going through this *hugs if ok*
Of course you have the right to flinch. Whatever you are feeling (not just now, but in any situation) is ok and no one should try telling you otherwise.

Do your parents know what he did to you?
I know it will be very difficult, but I think you should at least contemplate talking with them about it.

I'm not sure whether you think he'll try it again or not, but if you are no longer at risk then a counsellor cannot break the therapeutic confidentiality.

If he is an adult now (I'm assuming he is) and you press charges then he will be tried as an adult. The fact that he was a minor when it happened does not have any affect on that. Even if he is a minor now, he may be tried as an adult.

[Quick_Sylver]

I'm sorry that you are going through this *hugs if ok*
Of course you have the right to flinch. Whatever you are feeling (not just now, but in any situation) is ok and no one should try telling you otherwise.

Do your parents know what he did to you?
I know it will be very difficult, but I think you should at least contemplate talking with them about it.

I'm not sure whether you think he'll try it again or not, but if you are no longer at risk then a counsellor cannot break the therapeutic confidentiality.

If he is an adult now (I'm assuming he is) and you press charges then he will be tried as an adult. The fact that he was a minor when it happened does not have any affect on that. Even if he is a minor now, he may be tried as an adult.

My mom knows, but my dad is in the dark because my dad would shoot my brother. I don't think he will try to do it again. A 6-7 year old is easier to hold down than a 13 year old with a stubborn horse. I wasn't sure about the trial thing. I want him to be locked up, but I don't want him. Conflicting emotions.

[mitchboii7]

Yes. He may be your brother but he has done bad stuff.

[SmileyGirl]

Of course you have the right to!! What he did was wrong!! I understand that you don't want your brother to be locked up, but then again you do. I say think back to your earliest memories of your family. And think about your brother. Think of every memory of you and him. If there are more good then bad, I'd say, go though with the trial.
But hey, that's just my opinion.

[Quick_Sylver]

Of course you have the right to!! What he did was wrong!! I understand that you don't want your brother to be locked up, but then again you do. I say think back to your earliest memories of your family. And think about your brother. Think of every memory of you and him. If there are more good then bad, I'd say, go though with the trial.
But hey, that's just my opinion.

If there's more good than the bad...go through with the trial? Erm, I'm really confused by that...Mind clarifying that for me?

I have gone through my memories with my brother. I've remembered everything he's done to me good and bad. This resulted in an epiphany poem which I'll link to here.http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=64138

Thankyous to everyone for posting. I don't flinch as badly, nor sleep as horridly now. Thankyou. :)

[BeautifulDisaster]

I can relate, my step brother and cousin sexually abused/molested me, I told someone but nothing happened... &with my cousin, my uncle slapped me when he found us. I think he blames me because I'm older than him. & I'm older than my step brother too... so... I think it's my fault & isn't as bad.

I've been sexually harassed & molested by multiple guys since I was around 9 years old since last year, the "incidents" have stopped due to well, no longer being around them.

You'd think I was a whore from how many have tried to...

I think you should have some justice, and comfort(knowing he won't harm your little sister, you, or anyone else...) knowing he's 1) paying for what he did, 2) locked up, 3) unable to harm anyone else or you.

Think about it...

PM me if you ever want to talk.

[BiBoy13]

of course you did what he has done is completely wrong!You should talk to someone about it

[Quick_Sylver]

I can relate, my step brother and cousin sexually abused/molested me, I told someone but nothing happened... &with my cousin, my uncle slapped me when he found us. I think he blames me because I'm older than him. & I'm older than my step brother too... so... I think it's my fault & isn't as bad.

I've been sexually harassed & molested by multiple guys since I was around 9 years old since last year, the "incidents" have stopped due to well, no longer being around them.

You'd think I was a whore from how many have tried to...

I think you should have some justice, and comfort(knowing he won't harm your little sister, you, or anyone else...) knowing he's 1) paying for what he did, 2) locked up, 3) unable to harm anyone else or you.

Think about it...

PM me if you ever want to talk.

The same applies to you. I'm sorry to hear what they've tried to do to you in the past. Maybe now you can have some justice. Thankyou for your input, Aimee :)

Matty, Thankyou for your input. :)

[Asylum]

you have every right i'm so sorry this has happened to you *huggs* maybe talking to a cousler will help

[CuriousDestruction]

of course you have the right to flinch! hell, you have the legal right to put him in jail for what he did. please remember that you are a victim here and that he did those terrible things to you. i can't make you tell your father or the cops but i do urge you to speak to a counselor who may be able to help you resolve your conflicted feelings. *hugs* PM me if you wanna talk.

[Quick_Sylver]

I know I'm the victim. I also know that my feelings aren't conflicting. They're just out of balance, atm. I understand the situation quite well now. Thankyou Yuki, Michael. :)

[1_21Guns]

Of course you have the right to flinch. Your human. Its a natural reaction. You also have a right to feeling safe and happy though Becky.
Of course you love your brother, how could you not? He's your flesh and blood. But he's broken the law, and with the looks of it, broken you. You shouldn't have to feel like this Becky. Yes, you may live in fear for a while when it gets out. But its okay, it will get better in time hun.

[woody92]

You definatly have to right! *HUGS* I think that you have to be strong and you will eventualy get through it! (NEVER TO 100% Though!)

Pm me if you need me!!