oral sex - humiliating?

[sztegosz]

what do you think? is oral sex humiliating for the girl?

[nick]

I can imagine circumstances under which it could be, but really that depends on a very selfish attitude from the guy.

Any guy that expects a girl to do that for him even if she is uncomfortable with it or doesnt really like the idea is a complete jerk and deserves to get bitten! Equally, in my opinion, any guy that thinks a girl should give him head but is not willing to return the favour is a selfish arsehole.

If two people love each other and wish to explore each other's bodies in every conceivable way and give each other pleasure then there should be no humiliation in that.

[MrLongName]

I dont think, I think its just something normal to do with the person you love...

[Mental]

Just what Nick said, really. If it's between two partners that love eachother and the guy is willing to return the favour to the girl, unless of course she doesn't want it, or she simply finds it hot - which is actually the case sometimes - then it's absolutely fine and not damaging to women or their image/self-esteem.

But this must be said, oral sex by girls on guys is thought of as "kinky" more than intimate by many people, and is represented in the media much more than a guy eating a girl out. A girl giving a blowjob to a guy is actually a semi-traditional symbol of male dominance and to an extent.. misogyny. Look at 99% of porn videos with blowjobs in them, the man is usually telling the woman she's a dirty slut or something, while she's sucking his member.

All this being said, I would never ask a girl to give me a BJ unless I cared about her a lot. Even if I found her hot.

[Jean Poutine]

Yes. I piss by there.

I would never allow a girl to give me a blowjob. I think it's classless and demeaning for a woman. In return she shouldn't hold a single glimmer of hope that I'll go down there either.

She can touch but she can't put it in her mouth. I'm rather conservative sexually.

[Quick_Sylver]

Mhmm, blowjobs is a subject I have mixed emotions about. Fearful emotions because it was one of my brother's ways to torture me when he abused me. Curious emotions because, well I'm curious.

I think it depends on the partners in question. If the girl or guy doesn't feel comfortable with it, don't. If they want to it's their choice. It all comes down to personal preference with most things sexual...

[Jacob1993]

what do you think? is oral sex humiliating for the girl?

Oral sex can be a very intimate way two partners can express their love for each other. If both partners are fine with it it can be a very loving act. It has been with my partners, because we communicated with each other what we wanted and what we were willing to do.

Yes, there can be circumstances where if the girl is not comfortable doing it or is forced to do it-it can be uncomfortable or even humiliating for her.

Porn portrays oral sex as something a girl should do to a guy, when really it is up to the couple to decide what they are BOTH comfortable with. Guys are not entitled to get a blow job from a girl.

[cherry_boi]

no, well it depends on the individual....some girls (and guys) who act really slutty and give head...well thats kind of degrading imo

but if my gf or bf is ok with it, and wanted to give me head i'd have alot of respect for them

so generally no i don't find it to be humiliating

[ACQD139F83J]

so long as the guy's willing to return the favour, there's nothing humiliating at all.

[Irradiated]

if both the guy and the girl want it, I don't see why it's humiliating or degrading. if someone's being forced then that's wrong and completely different situation.

[mitchboii7]

It really depends on the female, male, and peniss.

[obknobe]

It's a way personal thing. If u like the guy and want to do it, do it. But he should be willing to return the favor. Nothing kinky about it unless you think so.

[beastly689]

i honestly don't think that oral sex is humiliating for the woman if the feelings are mutual, and she isn't being treated like a slave.

of course, if your into all that bondage and domination stuff, then that's just play, but if you're just having regular sex, oral is fine, especially if it is given and recieved to/from both parties.

[ericcamp]

not anymore for a guy on a girl..

[sztegosz]

and anyway do you require oral sex from your gf maybe.. after 3 months? :)

[nick]

You should not expect anything according to some timetable. Its not painting by numbers.

[sztegosz]

of course. but do you require it?

[nick]

I'm not sure if I understand your question. If you mean should you expect/require your girlfriend to give you head if you've been together for 3 months then my answer would be no, absolutey not. You should not be in a relationship in the expectation of getting sexual favour X after Y months. That's not love, that's lust.

[sztegosz]

its not about me. its about you all :) i dont require it. and i dont ask her to do it. if she wants to, she can :P and its okay, i think. but what about you?

[Black or White]

I dont find it humiliating as its something you should both want and if not it shouldnt be happening.

[haibekah]

not humiliating, sexy.

[JoshL]

not at all..most girls i know love doing it

[vic203140]

No and if i dont want too i wont dont care who u r