Should I tell her?

[zackF.]

Well there is this girl that I really like and we have been hanging out a few times lately. She has had some shit go on recently and she has been completely open with me about it (she was on meth for a little bit but she is off of it now so its straight). I have told her about all of my drug adventures (which I really try to keep on the down low). Anyway I cut myself sometimes and have cuts on my stomach and leg, they aren't deep theres just a lot of them and sort of noticeable. So I was wondering if I should tell her. I don't want to push her away by telling her, or she might think I'm weird or something but I dont want her to see the cuts and be like "why didnt you tell me" or "what the fuck is that". So if there is anyone out there that could help me I would appreciate it.

[Art_dude]

hmmm this is a tough question. The folks down in 'cutting and self harm' may be able to offer you better advice than here. I've never cut, so I can't truly understand the emotional baggage attached to it, but if it were me, I would hold off on telling her until you know this relationship is going to be serious. If you've only been hanging out a few times, it might be unnecessary to mention it to her. If you plan on forming a serious relationship however, I would bring it up when it's appropriate. Part of a serious and healthy relationship is sharing things with your partner - withholding information like that would be bad thing.

[zackF.]

Well first of all I wasn't sure where to post this since its a little bit of both. Anyway, I get where you are coming from, but what I meant really was several times hanging out and we have already made plans to do other stuff tonight and we are going to chill tomorrow so I could see somewhat of a serious thing between us in the near future. I haven't ever told anyone what I have done to myself before so that's really why I'm nervous to. But any other help would be really appreciated.

[Art_dude]

If you've never told ANYONE about your cutting, not even close friends or family, are you sure you want to tell this girl? But then again if it's going to be as serious as you say it is in the future then it you should tell her. Besides, as you previously mentioned she came clean at the very beginning about how she used to do meth. She'll undoubtedly be understanding about it. With this new info you gave me, I'd say go for it.

[KaelKaos]

Well there is this girl that I really like and we have been hanging out a few times lately. She has had some shit go on recently and she has been completely open with me about it (she was on meth for a little bit but she is off of it now so its straight). I have told her about all of my drug adventures (which I really try to keep on the down low). Anyway I cut myself sometimes and have cuts on my stomach and leg, they aren't deep theres just a lot of them and sort of noticeable. So I was wondering if I should tell her. I don't want to push her away by telling her, or she might think I'm weird or something but I dont want her to see the cuts and be like "why didnt you tell me" or "what the fuck is that". So if there is anyone out there that could help me I would appreciate it.

I don't think you should just walk up to her and tell her...but if you find the right moment where it's appropriate to bring it up, I don't see what harm it can do. She's revealed her past meth addictions, which is a pretty intense think to talk about. I can't see her thinking you're weird for doing that, she'll most likely understand.

[zoom zoom]

I think you should tell her when you feel its the right time. like if she likes who you r then she will understand. so just try to tell her at the right moment. Good Luck

[2D]

Get to know her better, let things progress, and if you think you can have a serious relationship with her then tell her. Or if you and her just become really close friends you can tell her. Otherwise I wouldn't mention it.