ugh getting rid of scars?

[ArtistInNeed]

so i have some pretty deep scars on my legs and its getting ridiculous trying to hide them from my mom, what can i do to make them fade faster??

[Project Delta]

Well Bio-oil will help the problem fade in 2 months, or so it says on the bottle is the recommended use, but basically you just use it until you are happy with the result or it doesnt seem to be fadeing anymore

[Thrash Bassist]

Here is an idea, DON'T PUT THEM THERE IN THE FIRST PLACE!!!;)

[Amyxoxo]

If for some reason you cant go out and get bio oil then savalon works, or I presume any time of medicianal cream. (if you understand lol) :D xxx

[Mr. Smithers]

You can't. Scars are usually permanent. Sure you can use makeup and petroleum jelly to hide them but that might not always work.

[Amyxoxo]

I know that it mabie a total lie but ... I saw in this movie that this girl had burnt herslef really bad and the doctor said that she would have to get plastic surgery to get rid of her scars :D xxx

[ArtistInNeed]

well plastic surgery will prolly give me more scars lmao but i can try some salves. and Discotheque i only want to fade them so theyre not crazy red like they are.

[Amyxoxo]

Foundation always works for fading them although it dosnt fade them itself but it can cover them up whilst your trying to get rid of them :) xx

[ArtistInNeed]

thanks :)

[munchausen]

well you can try bio-oil, tea tree oil or savalon at the very least your scars will fade

[charlie3322]

i cut my shoulders so now i cant go shirtless or swim..... fml

[ArtistInNeed]

yea i cant wear shorts >< fml

[munchausen]

yea i cant wear shorts >< fml

I know how this feels, I had to wear jeans to the beach >.<

[ArtistInNeed]

I know how this feels, I had to wear jeans to the beach >.<
aw that sux. did anyone say anything?? my friends would have known right away why.

[2D]

Here is an idea, DON'T PUT THEM THERE IN THE FIRST PLACE!!!;)

This seems like a logical solution.

[ArtistInNeed]

This seems like a logical solution.

i think its a poorly thought out answer. and i dont want to hear anything else about it.

[munchausen]

aw that sux. did anyone say anything?? my friends would have known right away why.

Naw they didn't know why. I get really really bad sunburn (My skin literally blisters in direct sunlight) when I'm not wearing thick clothes so I've got a decent excuse :)

[Evn115]

yea i cant wear shorts >< fml

I have cuts all up and down my left arm... so i have to wear long sleeves or hoodies even when it's 100 degrees out.. fml //_v

[Project Delta]

I have cuts all up and down my left arm... so i have to wear long sleeves or hoodies even when it's 100 degrees out.. fml //_v

I have the same, cept i just show em now and dont try to cover them up. But i did have this which was fucking ridiculous.

[BlackBetty]

Here is an idea, DON'T PUT THEM THERE IN THE FIRST PLACE!!!;)

If you don't have anything helpful to say to people, then don't post it.

Goto Wal-Mart and look in the lotion isle. I can't think of the name, but I know what it is. It's Bi-something???

[ArtistInNeed]

thanks The3Moons :D and thank you again for being the only other person to notice what was wrong with Thrash Bassist's comment<3 i love you for that lol

[Thrash Bassist]

If you don't have anything helpful to say to people, then don't post it.

Goto Wal-Mart and look in the lotion isle. I can't think of the name, but I know what it is. It's Bi-something???

How is it not helpful? Telling someone to not cut themselves is not helpful?
Wow, what type of world am I living in?

[Zephyr]

Buy some Vitamin E lotion and use it daily, it helps with healing and replenishing your skin.
I've been doing that for a few months now and my scars are looking MUCH better.

[DSV-Dan]

Vitamin E is suggested by doctors, have some scares from other things.

[ArtistInNeed]

How is it not helpful? Telling someone to not cut themselves is not helpful?
Wow, what type of world am I living in?

Do you think that i actually enjoy cutting myself? its not like i choose to do it..i cant help myself. im sick.

[-Silence]

its not like i choose to do it..i cant help myself. im sick.

No offense but thats the stupidest thing I've ever heard, and dont tell me I dont understand or any of that bullshit, I've been there.

You do choose to hurt yourself. No one is forcing you to drag a razor down your skin, you do it. Saying your sick is just making excuses and trying to pass the blame onto something else. Ultimately it is your choice.

About your scars, why dont you just learn to live and accept them? After a while you dont even notice them.

[Thrash Bassist]

Do you think that i actually enjoy cutting myself? its not like i choose to do it..i cant help myself. im sick.

Yes you are choosing to do it by actually doing it. Just like the person above me said, saying that you are sick is trying to blame someone else for what you are doing. Try to get help from a loved one.

Why do you think you are trying to hide the scars? Because you don't want help with your problems?
Like my Dad told me; "It may seem more adult like to try to work out your problems yourself, but it takes a lot of guts to be able to say ' I have this problem, can you help me?"

[Asylum]

Yes you are choosing to do it by actually doing it. Just like the person above me said, saying that you are sick is trying to blame someone else for what you are doing. Try to get help from a loved one.

Why do you think you are trying to hide the scars? Because you don't want help with your problems?
Like my Dad told me; "It may seem more adult like to try to work out your problems yourself, but it takes a lot of guts to be able to say ' I have this problem, can you help me?"

so.... you'd be ok if you had scars, and people looked at you weirdly... people who don't know what hell you've been through... i 'm sorry but people do it to cope because they have seirous problems in their life that they can't fix, so its a way to cope. they don't have the seirous problem, they are jsut dealing with a seirous problem like abuse, anxiedty, paranioa, hallucinations, etc. you have no idea why epople really cut do you? no one enjoys it... and yea help is great... for those who can get it... my parents gave me hell about getting help... thye make fun of me for it... so i stopped goign in their eyes i'm ok... even tho i'm not... if they knew the real truth things would get so much worse, because i know from past experience....


ok coco butter works dear. clears up really bad ones fast. plus the good thing is, it's not like mederma, so you can use it as a lotion, and no one will question it... so if you shop iwth your mom, i need coco butter cuz i have terrible dry skin. also the bandaids work.. i cut myself shaving, you can put it on 1 bandaid on one spot cover 1-3 maybe... i'd say put it on your worst looking scar.. make up,... get some waterproof make up... or if your 18 maybe invest in a tatoo? gause skirts in summer work, keep you kool, but are long enough to hide it. plus very artsy and pretty. summer dresses also work... long shorts not short, shorts... you can use the excuse, mom i'm not a slut, i don't want to wear those.. in the summer use the same excuse but wear the suffer like water proof guy looking pants... thye have them for girls very cute also.. write on your scars, use excuse i was bored decided to draw on myself... good luck :)

[Asylum]

No offense but thats the stupidest thing I've ever heard, and dont tell me I dont understand or any of that bullshit, I've been there.

You do choose to hurt yourself. No one is forcing you to drag a razor down your skin, you do it. Saying your sick is just making excuses and trying to pass the blame onto something else. Ultimately it is your choice.

About your scars, why dont you just learn to live and accept them? After a while you dont even notice them.

yes you choose to hurt yourself... but you don't know what she is trying to cope with... you know thru the same experience that when you cut you don't think clearly, it seems like the best option at the time, clearly you are not in the right state of midn to make that choice... no one knows wat she is dealing with... obviously its bad enough to make her want to hurt herself... otherwise she'd be fine and scarless... i'm not passing the blame onto somethign else by sayin it... i'm just merely stating don't point it all on her... its not compeltely her fault... my parents abuse me,.. and i've got other problesm that give the the urge to do it... they give me the thoughts i'm worthless i deserve this... but, thats not me who is saying it.. yes it is... but it's like i'd be way different if i didn't have aht problem i needed to find that way of coping...
we have to accept our scars, but personally i'm ashamed embarrassed adn feel guilty... i hate myself for that.. plus it sucks when complete strangers look at you and talk about your scars.... oh look... its an emo kid... oh my gosh honey did you see the scars on that girls ankles.. . Ms... (last name here) your daughter has a lot of scars, i think you should check into thiss... why do you have so many scars? why do you have words and shapes in your skin? people automatically udge us.. i'm sick of the comments i get from others... i dread summer... you have no idea what i have to deal with daily.... so don't judge me either.. .and you don't know what hse is going thruough.... its not totally our fault... leave her alone... this isn't oh i think its cool... clearly something is wrong in our lives thats giving us the thougth process this is the only way to deal, even tho it isn't... no one lieks it... i hate it... i'm stopping... i'm finding other ways to cope, but at first this was the only way i saw fit as a way to cope....

[jess_undead]

guys do we really need this anger? Try to support her.

[Thrash Bassist]

There are much better ways to cope with your anger and pain. Cutting yourself is one of the stupidest ways to handle your anger and pain. Along with drinking and doing drugs.

Me, I handle my anger and pain through music.

Find something that makes you feel good, but doesn't harm your body.
Get into sports, hang out with friends a lot. Hell, getting a punching bag and punch that all day long. :P

What I'm trying to say is, there are much better ways to handle your pain inside...
Don't live on your past. Focus on the future.

PM me if you need to talk.

[Thrash Bassist]

yes you choose to hurt yourself... but you don't know what she is trying to cope with... you know thru the same experience that when you cut you don't think clearly, it seems like the best option at the time, clearly you are not in the right state of midn to make that choice... no one knows wat she is dealing with... obviously its bad enough to make her want to hurt herself... otherwise she'd be fine and scarless... i'm not passing the blame onto somethign else by sayin it... i'm just merely stating don't point it all on her... its not compeltely her fault... my parents abuse me,.. and i've got other problesm that give the the urge to do it... they give me the thoughts i'm worthless i deserve this... but, thats not me who is saying it.. yes it is... but it's like i'd be way different if i didn't have aht problem i needed to find that way of coping...
we have to accept our scars, but personally i'm ashamed embarrassed adn feel guilty... i hate myself for that.. plus it sucks when complete strangers look at you and talk about your scars.... oh look... its an emo kid... oh my gosh honey did you see the scars on that girls ankles.. . Ms... (last name here) your daughter has a lot of scars, i think you should check into thiss... why do you have so many scars? why do you have words and shapes in your skin? people automatically udge us.. i'm sick of the comments i get from others... i dread summer... you have no idea what i have to deal with daily.... so don't judge me either.. .and you don't know what hse is going thruough.... its not totally our fault... leave her alone... this isn't oh i think its cool... clearly something is wrong in our lives thats giving us the thougth process this is the only way to deal, even tho it isn't... no one lieks it... i hate it... i'm stopping... i'm finding other ways to cope, but at first this was the only way i saw fit as a way to cope....

I'm sorry that you have to go through with that.
But keep in mind, that no matter how bad you have it, someone has it worse then you.

[Asylum]

yes there are better ways to cope, however it just depends on the situation of the person.. like for instance, i don't remeber sometimes when i cut myself... i sort of black out... i mean she has her reasons... we just dont' knwo it.. .alll we can do is support her and try to get her to not cut... find some other way...

i'm quite well aware lots of people have it worse then i...

[-Silence]

Magik5,

Yes, your right, I don't know what she is coping with, I never said that cutting is stupid or even that she didnt have a right to cut. All I was saying is that since she is cutting she needs to own up to the fact that it's her cutting herself. That she chooses the cutting. That was what my whole comment was about. The quote below is what I was commenting on.

its not like i choose to do it..

And yes, it is her fault, she is the one dragging the razor down her arm, not her parents, no one else but her. Just like you cutting is your fault too, things give you the urge and you decide to satisfy that urge by cutting. A therapist I had once told me and years later I finally figured out what she meant. Anyways, she said, "No one can make you feel anything", someone can do anything they want but its your choice to be upset by it. Say you poke me in the arm over and over and over again, I can choose to get mad or I can choose to walk away. My mother can call me every name in the book but I can choose whether or not to believe it, I can choose whether or not to let it upset me. I can choose whether or not I cut because of it or I can choose to find another outlet.

Now, I am not telling you or her to quit cutting, I just want you to own up to what you do.

About scars, we have to accept our scars, but personally i'm ashamed embarrassed adn feel guilty...

Believe it or not, that usually passes, afterwards most people come to terms with their scars. Afterwards thats all they are, they are scars, later on they dont come attatched with alot of negative feelings. And when that time has come people asking wont affect you as much as it does now. I lived in long sleeves for years and now that I dont, I still get questions, all my scars have turned white and yes they are still noticable but not as big pinkish raised scars. The questions arent nearly as severe now because I've come to terms with my scars, I accept them and I'm not scared to show my arms anymore. Thats what I was suggesting, just coming to terms with them.

Now, when the questions were hard to answer I used to have fun with it. I used to tell people that I was attacked by a porcupine. Most people knew that story was ridiculous and they stopped asking because I obviously wasnt going to talk about it. But if someone asks and you feel uncomfortable and you act uncomfortable people will keep bothering you.

And again, I'm not saying that cutting is stupid. Like I said, I've been there for years. I'm just saying that its your choice to cut.
I wish you both the best of luck.

[Asylum]

oh ok sorry Silence i wasn't getting what you were saying in the previous comment i guess.

sometimes i black out when cutting... i don't remeber... how is that really my choice? Yes, i know i chooose to cut when i'm perfectly sober, but i have other problems then oh you called me a name and i got upset so i'm going to cut myself... my problems arent' like that... but like maybe she has other things like i do going on.. who knows...
and no,.. i am quitting... i've been "quitting" since i started.. i just don't know what to do... i mean i've gotten rid of all my sharp objects... i've been getting rid of them for months.. then i get the urge... and for a few days i'll do nothing.. but it gets worse, and i might hallucinate, hear voices, or have an anxiety attack and to make it stop... i'll search for a pin or soemthing.. i'd say i dont rmeeber half my cuts.. i mean i sometimes do after i see them/ feel them the next day.. but that night when i do it i cna't feel anything i go numb... so its hard for me to stop... i guess going to bed early might help.. but... like.. i just can't... 3:30 is when i usually fall asleep and i wake up at 5 so i get like no sleep...


i'm glad that feelign the the scars passes... but its hard to accept them and move on, when your parents give you grief on it almost every day... even after i tell thme thye are just making it worse... hm i might try to use a story simiilar to that just for funnzies.

thanx you too..

[-Silence]

You cant treat the result if you dont first treat the problem.

If you want to get anywhere further in this you need professional help. They can help and maybe explain the hallucinations and the disassociating. And I know you say you cant get help because of your parents and such, but nothing is going to change if you dont. I dont know how it is over there but over here, I talked to a teacher at school and they hospitalized me because I was a danger to myself. My mother didn't have any say at all, if she did I wouldn't have been there at all and I'd have been way worse off. But there they can figure out whats going on, figure out what medications and such.

If you can get help any other way by all means, do it.

but its hard to accept them and move on, when your parents give you grief on it almost every day... even after i tell thme thye are just making it worse...

My mother did the same thing, and like I said, you can choose to let that affect you or you can choose to ignore it. Just say oh well, thats what they think, I know whats true to me.

[Asylum]

I know i need help... in 3 years, i can get it without my parents knowing... this is what i plan to do... i know its long.. and has a shance of getting worse in college, but i relaly can't get help now...
well its really hard to not let her words affect me... i try to ignore it, honestly i do... but she stll gets to me in the end..

[jess_undead]

you can get it now without your parents knowing can't you?
How old are you?
It's all confidential so if you go to the doctors they can help and get you a pyschologist, free of charge and confidential.