The "Should I come out" Thread #789642

[Severus Snape]

I live in Atlanta

I go to a conservative Private Catholic school

Nobody suspects I am bi

I would say I am liked by my peers (people I count as friends but I don't necessarily hang out with outside school)

My friends aren't stereotypical fundamentalist Christians, and after I posed a hypothetical question, they said they wouldn't care if I turned out to be gay.

Based on this limited insight into my social situation, would you say I should come out to my close friends and potentially more people?

[Maverick]

I live in Atlanta as well. I chose not to come out in high school and I have no regrets. I wouldn't really advise coming out on a large scale. Tell a few close friends if you must but while being in a catholic school I don't think its the best idea.

I'd say wait until you are older and in a more diverse crowd (like college).

[Severus Snape]

That's sound advice. I've seen the people in my grade mature considerably, but my little sister is a sophomore (I'm a senior) and I know it would trickle down to her. I am NOT ok with my family finding out at all. My mom is a homophobe and I'm sure if she knew I was one she would soften her heart a bit, but she is disgusted with the idea of sexually active homosexuals....which I am. I can't gauge my dad's reaction and my brother is in 8th grade, he would probably be the least socially impacted.

So getting back to my sister I'm sure the little kids in her class would react as I would expect them to react...which is immaturely.

I really, really hate this situation. The internal conflict is so frustrating.

[Nelson]

That's sound advice. I've seen the people in my grade mature considerably, but my little sister is a sophomore (I'm a senior) and I know it would trickle down to her. I am NOT ok with my family finding out at all. My mom is a homophobe and I'm sure if she knew I was one she would soften her heart a bit, but she is disgusted with the idea of sexually active homosexuals....which I am. I can't gauge my dad's reaction and my brother is in 8th grade, he would probably be the least socially impacted.

So getting back to my sister I'm sure the little kids in her class would react as I would expect them to react...which is immaturely.

I really, really hate this situation. The internal conflict is so frustrating.


My dads homophobic, i only just came out, it was hard but hes slowly adjusting to the idea of a bisexual son, he kinda knows i am sexually active. If you told her she might adjust to it or she will go ape s**t and kick you out or something, if you ever need someone to talk to about this, just PM me :)

Dylan

[karl]

Do you feel you have a reason to 'come out'? If you're not sure then wait for a bit, only you can judge when

[Severus Snape]

My dads homophobic, i only just came out, it was hard but hes slowly adjusting to the idea of a bisexual son, he kinda knows i am sexually active. If you told her she might adjust to it or she will go ape s**t and kick you out or something, if you ever need someone to talk to about this, just PM me :)

DylanThanks man I appreciate it.

Do you feel you have a reason to 'come out'? If you're not sure then wait for a bit, only you can judge when

I'm sick of keeping up an act. Its hard to just try and ignore the feelings I feel towards other guys in my class straight or gay and situations become awkward very quickly (for me) because of it. Its very socially impairing.

[woody92]

I have just come out to a few close friends but i live in spain and they dont like gay people, but the people i have told, they said they were fine with it.

- your mom, well if your mom loves you, then I think she will accept it. My parents know I am gay, but they dont care. I know its diffrent for me coz I have my family to sopport me but i was so scared about the friends knowing.

When your ready you should come out but make SURE your going to do the right thing, For you!
I wish you good luck in what ever you decide to do! Pm me any time too like Dylan said!

[The Joker]

If you asked your friends that question, there is a good chance they already know.

Come out to those friends, but not anyone that would tell the whole school. I think letting those friends know wouldn't be harmful, and you would have a group of people to talk to.

[Severus Snape]

Really Matt? You think they called my bluff?

[charlie3322]

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