Boyfriend...ahh

[Jahstar]

I just recently broke up with my boyfriend....(on friday) but i can't live without him....We on been going out for 1 month.....the reason i broke up with him was because i didn't feel like he deserved me he's too much of a good person...and i show no effort in talking or trying to meet him.....But it's not my fault...
He has moved on i think....but i still want him back..He's soo sweet,respective,cute and he's buff....but don't know what to do to go back out with him.... do you guys think i should try and go out with him again or stay single and look for another guy?

[Aηdy]

Well you could try and make more of an effort to be with him, but maybe you didnt make much effort because you didnt like him enough??

personally i think you should move on, but do you love him?

[Jahstar]

Yea i really really do love him....he gave me his jersey a long time ago....for a symbol of love and it was real hard for me to give it back to him....(he wanted it back) But i had reasons for not being able to see him.....my mom wouldn't let me go places without anyone...so....he said i didnt put any effort..and i told him...

Ahh i'll just move on.....

[Aηdy]

just wondering, how old are you?

[Jahstar]

um..im 14.... :)

[ScotsGirl]

I know this is probably the last thing you want to hear...but i dont think you should rush back to him...

Its entirely up to you what you choose to do of course, as you know the situation better than any of us.

But from what you said in your post...more specifically:

the reason i broke up with him was because i didn't feel like he deserved me he's too much of a good person...and i show no effort in talking or trying to meet him.....But it's not my fault...

You shouldnt be thinking like that! :( You ARE good enough to be with anyone you want to be with, and you have the right to choose whoever that (LUCKY!!) person is! (within reason, of course :P ).
But seriously, damn, where is your self esteem? :(
I think it might be an idea to try and sort all the things and issues out with yourself before you bring anyone else into the mix.
Learn to be happy with yourself, that you can make it on your own!

If you rush back to this (the fact that, it is hurting so much this time and seeing how much you want to go back to him) what happens if your insecurities start up again? ...its only going to be worse next time...
Dont rely on someone else to love you, you have to do that yourself, and in turn people will follow suit! :)

Im not saying, dont EVER go back to him, Im just saying, if your going to try this relationship again, you need to sort out the reasons that it didnt work the first time.

You CAN do it, and i know you will if you want to! :)
Goodluck with everything!
xxx

[MoveAlong]

I'm so sorry I got to this thread late :hug:
^^ScotsGirl really sumed it up. Everything she has said is true!

You are good enough for anybody. I've talked with you. You're a nice person :)
Remember, you don't need another boyfriend right now.

You could hint to him you still like him...which is kinda hard :P

[what the?]

I know where you're coming from mate. I split up with my boyfriend a while ago, which in hindsight what the worst decision I ever made. But that's besides the point, we did get back together, but only very briefly. It didn't woryk out, and it would have hurt a hell of a lot less if we'd just left it. Honestly hun, leave him, stay friends, but move on. If not, it'll only end in tears, which I'm sure you've already had enough of...

[kolte]

maybe, and feel free to say fuck you.
but maybe you have grown dependent on relationships.
maybe you should just go single.
discover who you are.
I have taken an entire year now to discover who I am, I've been schooling myself, and I really think that this year of homeschooling has allowed me to find myself.
I think you just need to stay single for a while,
find out your limitations.
maybe your to dependent?

[marine_sniperman35]

OH! My ex girlfriend was in this situation before with me. Just give it some time...and then well....after the first breakup its usually done for. But i would ask him out again.

[Jahstar]

Uhh o wow thanks for all the help...but im not going ot ask him out again because we just told me he doesn't love me....:'(.....

Argggg!!! damnit......

[kolte]

awww I'm sorry.
but perhaps, this is for the best.
now you can just, get out of this "relationship dependence"
but I'm sorry about your *parden* asshole boyfriend.

[what the?]

Well to me, it sounds like you're probably better off without him anyway. If he doesn't see what a great person you are, he obviously doesn't deserve you anyway. Don't worry hun, there's other fish :P